The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

chickpea

Really sorry there's been so much sadness on here recently, bad luck Tea, WW and Isla. It's such an emotional investment - and in some cases financial, when it doesn't pay off it's just devastating. So sorry xx

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BZ - Thanks for asking..I had a scan this morning, now measuring 8+5, and heartbeat still going strong x

I think at this stage, I'll probably sign off too - it looks like, by a miracle, my near decade-long quest/nightmare may finally be nearing an end. I never imagined when I threw away my pills in March 2005 that I was about to embark on something that would become a single-minded obsession that would change me, my life and everything in it forever. How did all those years go by? (I do have one DS, conceived out of the blue in May 2008, but that was the only success in all that time.)

Equally, it's hard to imagine that by the end of this year, it's a real possibility that OPKs and HPTs, cough mixture and weird and wonderful supplements and fertility acupuncture, reflexology, colonic irrigation (yes really), fertility diets and Clomid and dildo scans and books, endless books, and the jealousy and tears in the toilets at work, Facebook rage and staring at other women's, sometimes men's, midriffs before I look at their faces...might all be a thing of the past.

I hope so, because I'm sick of it!

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(Realistically though, I might find it hard not to lurk on here..it sort of gets under your skin and maybe I can impart the odd bit of advice with the wisdom of my experience..)

Anyway, good luck one and all with the next step, whatever that may be.

(And I'll let you know what happens roughly 7 months from now!)

xx

codemonkey

Ladies, sorry for my absence. My internets has been broken and I've been in a fertility related slump.

Tea, Isla and WW. I am so, so sorry it didn't work out. This whole thing is so random and so unfair. Massive hugs and chocolate.

chickpea - great news. Hope you have a healthy 8 months. Obviously by 8 months I'm including birth and newborn. You'd think I'd be able to count by now.

I've been thinking of signing off here as I have nothing to offer but can't seem to stay away.

emmaj30

Hi guys. Thanks so much for the replies.

TBH we have been through all the fertility tests incl a dye test and laproscopy and hospital have referred us to London to actually with IVF. We have unexplained fertility yet both of our tests are fine.. I am unsure what drugs we will be taking really..

Frozen Penguin. Im not to sure when starting but apparently could be end of june or july depending what they say next week.. If you could move me on list that would be good

Isla - Sorry about the BFN. And good luck for your journey too. xx

Pinkteapot - Yes hopefully it will all be explained when we go for our first consultation next week.. Thanks for all your response. Just want to get this thing going now

Part_Mouse

Chickpea so glad to hear your beans doing well.

Code I often don't feel like I have anything to offer but your very much part of this thread. I do totally get though that you might not feel like you want to post much.

pinkteapot

Actually, some people at my clinic get sniffy down reggers. I didn't think to query my jabs with the consultant. Asked the nurse at my needle lesson if I could sniff instead and she was going to ask the consultant but I haven't heard back. Will have to call them.

pinkteapot

emmaj30 - we're unexplained too and starting after our holiday in June. Have to phone on CD1 in the cycle we want to start and then the drugs start on CD21 for me. All works out that we should be starting treatment in mid-July. We might end up being around the same time as each other.

This will be our first cycle (of three that the NHS fund, if we need them).

SewIt_2

Isla, I am so sorry honey, stay strong x

Tea & WW - so sorry for you guys too, hope you are both doing ok.

Hugs xxx

Primmer

Big hugs to WW, Tea & Isla - life seems so unfair x

Chickpea - good to hear that things are going well x

isla_red

Thanks everyone for your kind messages, I really appreciate your good thoughts.

chickpea that is great news, hope it all goes really well.

tea, GV and WW I hope you guys are doing okay.

frozen and gts hope your swimming is going well

PM good luck with the injections

code I hope you stay as you have lots to contribute and are so much fun

AFM I had a very difficult day yesterday because I had to keep a lunch date with friends. I can't decide if the hormones are making me feel particularly dreadful but one friend (who has 3 kids) commented that "you must not want it enough" because I wasn't immediately discussing when we would restart treatment. I'm so hurt. This is all hard enough without being judged for how much I want a family Have I taken that comment the wrong way or do you agree that is a completely inappropriate thing to say?

Part_Mouse

Isla IMO that's such a rude thing and so uncalled for to say. It takes time to get over the huge disappointment when it doesn't work.how can those that haven't been in your position possibly know how you feel.

Huge hugs to you.