Idiosyncrasies, foibles and aversions.

lostinrates

Arthien wrote: »

I'm so glad you mentioned this condition, it explains my DH to a T! It even mentioned 'fabric sensitivities' as a trigger on this website http://www.sensehaven.com/triggers.html, which explains why he can't stand velvet or similarly textured fabrics, to the point that he can't even look if I'm touching something with a long pile! I assume there's no cure, so it's just a case of trying to find suitable coping mechanisms?

It's not a massive problem really, although my friends were a bit worried when I said that he complains about the sound of my breathing at night :rotfl:

There is no 'cure'. Some peoe find things like CBT helps reportedly.

I just find 'being strict with myself' and taking myself in hand when I become ridiculous is pretty important. There are some times I allow myself to be a little lax. One of my parents has a sinus problem and I find eating at the same time as them in silence very difficult. Often I simply don't therefore eat at the same time. Simple, effective.

At family/social meals background, me near a speaker preferably, is helpful. Thinks like others ticks or stroking fabric are their right, its not for them to pander to my sensitivity IMO. All it does is lower my tolerance.

Padstow

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Yo Sis! :rotfl: I actually really love vegetables, I don't think there is one that I don't like? I could easily just eat a plate of vegetables....and I love sprouts! It's actually become a running joke 'oh Georgie loves sprouts', my MIL who hates them saved hers for me at Christmas.

I'll eat most thing tbh, apart from mince and certain shaped pasta....the less said about that though the better I think! :rotfl:

I too love all vegetables, Jerusalem Artichokes are strange, but I eat all veg., Spinach being my favourite.
For anyone who doesn't like sprouts, try cooking them lightly and finish off frying them in butter. The taste is totally different to just plain boiled.

Some of the foibles listed make sense to me. The washing up ones and loo paper.
I'll never wash up without gloves as if the water is bearable without them, it's too cool to do the job IMHO.

The only one I have which has no real logic, so may be odd, is people invading my personal space. In checkout queues those behind standing so close they are touching me. Or piling their stuff on before I have finished loading mine. If they put the bar up while I'm doing so? God help them as my glare is deadly.

My next door neighbour stands so close to my face to talk, I take a step back, he steps forward again. Always literally in my face.

I don't like kissing as a greeting either. I don't know how it came up, but my rental agent said the same about kissing. She said she simply steps back if someone wants to greet that way. But no way will she do it. The only person I know who feels as I do.

Not sure if that's odd or just showing good manners. I hug and kiss my family and accept we are squashed together on the Tube which I travelled on for years.

Old women with long nails? Hard skin on heels? Nail biters? Nose pickers? Spitters? Women who put two fingers under a tap after using the loo. Using four letter words in public? Are those worthy for entry into the thread? I don't think they are.

I completed a personality test from another post here and came out as utterly boring. Not introvert or extrovert, middle in all. Beige I am.

I think those here who won't tread on two tiles in succession of the same colour or who have to have numbers in odds, are rather special.

I don't think I have any oddities at all, which matches the beige me.

Sethisis

Padstow wrote: »

I don't like kissing as a greeting either. I don't know how it came up, but my rental agent said the same about kissing. She said she simply steps back if someone wants to greet that way. But no way will she do it. The only person I know who feels as I do.

Ergh, I hate the kissing thing as well, it only happens with certain family members, but I just freeze and grimace. Can't respond at all, I'm not even sure how to respond. Do you kiss back? If so, why? Where? Cheek? It's way too touchy and close for my liking.

Padstow

Sandhy wrote: »

I have a few...and many that have already been mentioned!

Curtains must not have a gap or I can't sleep.
Cupboards, drawers and wardrobe doors need to be properly closed or I can't sleep.
Can't abide ticking clocks especially in a bedroom have been known to (temporarily) remove the batteries when staying in someone's house!
No lights at nights on any chargers, extension leads or clocks. I will cover them if necessary. The first time I slept with my partner I had to cover up his clock radio!
I have to wash my hands after handling coins.
The cutlery thing...must be lined up.
The loo roll thing...must be over not under.
I can't walk on drains or manhole covers.
I can't stand balloons, sight of them, the way they move or the smell(!) of them. I can't even touch them. Helium ones are ok though.
My mugs on the mug tree must all face the same way.
Washing up has to be rinsed with clean water after washing to get rid of all the suds etc. (Haven't got a dishwasher)
My car windscreen wipers must be down when I take the key out of the ignition.
I always set the 'trip' to zero when I fill up the tank. To qualify, I once had an old car with a non-working petrol gauge so this was my method ... and the habit stuck.
CDs are in alphabetical order of artist.
The TV volume must be on an even number.

I might add to this list! Have edited

I always wash my hands on entering the house and a good scrub too. Not just coins, but makes sense. I take the lift rather than handle a filthy hand rail.

I have no crockery outside in the kitchen, so no mug trees. It's sensible to me. What crawls in the mugs at night?

I worked in catering and the chefs always scrubbed their stations before leaving at night. They'd arrive in the morning and immediately prepare food that may have had anything crawling over it.

I only have white bed linen, towels and crockery.

Padstow

Sethisis wrote: »

Ergh, I hate the kissing thing as well, it only happens with certain family members, but I just freeze and grimace. Can't respond at all, I'm not even sure how to respond. Do you kiss back? If so, why? Where? Cheek? It's way too touchy and close for my liking.

Something else, children being sent to kiss their relatives. "Go and kiss your uncle Bob." Never happened to me thank God, but I see it.

Going off subject so forgive me OP who started this interesting thread.

paulineb_2

Mr_Toad wrote: »

Apart from the electrical gadgets with a built in clock every clock in my house ticks.

I collect antique pocket watches and clocks and all my wrist watches are proper mechanical ones that tick.

I can't believe such a small sound irritates people. Why not simply tune it out? I tuned out the memsahib's moaning for years until it was little more than low intensity background whinging.

The ticking wouldnt bother me so much during the day. Its at night.

I cant tune it out, if I could it wouldnt be a problem to me. I hear every tick tick tick and it keeps me awake and Im a light sleeper.

I dont have any ticking clocks in my home so its not a problem.

hazyjo

I also hate the noises people make. I always have to put my headphones in on the train and go mental when people sit there sniffing the whole journey or chewing gum (or eating with their mouth open (eating at all in fact!), or talking on phones/to each other, laughing, kids/babies on trains, text alerts, tinny noise from someone else's headphones... hmmm, remembering more as I type).

Oh and people hogging my space. WHY OH WHY do men sit down next to me with keys, phone, and god knows what in their pockets so that they dig into me the whole journey. It sends me mental. And the edges of things touching me/in my space (people reading newspapers out full rather than folding the page back on itself, or if they lean forward so their paper's almost touching me, or if they shove their feet out in front so that my size 4s can barely fit on the floor...

In fact, commuter trains in general. Just full of VERY annoying people!

Nobody else seems in the least bit bothered.

Ticking clocks I don't mind in a room I'm relaxing in but woe betide anyone leaving a ticking clock in the bedroom! I'd never sleep and the rage would drive me insane. BF sleeps with the radio on, curtains open, window open given the choice (in winter) and the bottom sheet pulled out from both sides in a crumpled sausage down the middle of the bed. What with the snoring and 'other boys' noises', he's in the spare room most nights

Snoring is hell. Never used to bother me so much, but can't sleep next to a snorer now.

Jx

hazyjo

Won't ever get me in a pair of washing up gloves. Yuck.

Also - only ever white toilet roll, white sheets (cream would suffice).

Couple opposite on train the other night kept kissing. I felt like I had ants crawling in my veins it annoyed me so much.

Jx

paulineb_2

I cant sleep near a snorer either. Its just the noise, its not that I have a problem with people who snore, its the fact that I am a light sleeper, its odds on that if Im sharing a room with someone I'll fall asleep last and once the snoring starts, bye bye any hope of sleep.

I use public transport just about every single day and sometimes people can be what I would describe as raucous. There are certain bus journeys I really dont like doing, from the nearest big city to my home late at night for example. Its a 90 min journey and Ive been on buses where people argue loudly the entire way home. You put alcohol in the mix and its often not very nice, the drivers often just let it go because they dont want the trouble of trying to deal with it.

I actually think on the whole Im a pretty tolerant person, sometimes other people really dont behave well (Im talking about on public transport) and you are stuck with it.

I dont have kids, I dont mind kids (Im a kids fitness instructor as well as an adult one). Never really thought about the things that I cant bear being a bit quirky, a lot of the stuff people have posted on this thread wouldnt bother me in the slightest but then a lot of the stuff that would bother me other people wouldnt care about.

Its definitely things like teeth grinding and knuckle cracking I cant bear, it just makes me feel ill, not something I cant control.

I also dont like heights and I really cant control that. I used to really hate flying but I manage that ok now. I actually live in a flat 4 up and thats ok.
But I was down south to see a band the other week and to get back to my hotel I had to climb up a flight of stairs with a bit of a gap in the middle and walk across a bridge and back down.

Couldnt do it. It wasnt the height that bothered me, it was the fact that the stairs had gaps and I could see through them. I got halfway, had to come back down and cross a dual carriageway (which is much worse than it sounds, because there were several sets of traffic lights that allowed you to cross easily).

Padstow

hazyjo wrote: »

Won't ever get me in a pair of washing up gloves. Yuck.

Also - only ever white toilet roll, white sheets (cream would suffice).

Couple opposite on train the other night kept kissing. I felt like I had ants crawling in my veins it annoyed me so much.

Jx

It's bad manners hazyjo

Shall we have a meet then in a sterile Hotel? All of us?

We don't touch one another.

No treading on tiles.

All vanity products must be lined up in threes or fives.

I reckon we could that. (I will wear the Marigolds and wash up to perfection.) So funny.