husband problems!!!

sulphate

sadandlonely wrote: »

since my last post, more stuff has come to light. i am beginning to move on from him now.

but there was another woman involved too. he was also stringing her along with the lies. i only found out this due to some random person messaging me on facebook telling me all the details.

so for me throwing him out because of his gambling, he has made it perfectly clear it was all my fault that he went with those two women as i didnt want him. all i didnt want was the gambling :-(

I hope you don't believe this, this is just another classic example of his inability to take responsibility for his own actions.

He sounds like a child, and I'm sure you only want to be a mother to your actual children.

danih

Your ex has a clever strategy - convince my wife that my lack of attachment to my child, my affairs and whatever else is her fault so I don't have to take any responsibility for my own actions, and she won't expect me too. I hope this isn't working!

OP - sounds like you are doing an amazing job with the children. Sometimes one parent is better then two.

fatpiggy

He is immature and a controller, trying to blame everything on you. Dump him and look forward to a proper life without having to look over your shoulder all the time. Focus your attention on your children instead of wasting half of it on him. Are his parents aware of the things he has been saying about you and your son, the fact that he is a serial gambler too?

sadandlonely

fatpiggy wrote: »

He is immature and a controller, trying to blame everything on you. Dump him and look forward to a proper life without having to look over your shoulder all the time. Focus your attention on your children instead of wasting half of it on him. Are his parents aware of the things he has been saying about you and your son, the fact that he is a serial gambler too?

his parents know hes got a gambling problem but they just lend him money regardless. they know about the 1st girl but not about the 2nd as far as i know.

i am moving on slowly, but to find out about the 2nd girl was a slap in the face!

marisco_2

danih wrote: »

Sometimes one parent is better then two.

When I split with my ex people said this to me too. I completely disagreed with them. Children want and need both of their parents in their life. A mum and dad each bring different valuable influences and experiences to the relationship they share with their child. To grow up without having one of their parents in their childhood is very tough going on a youngster.

Unless there are very real concerns for a child's safety or wellbeing from having contact I wouldn't be thinking as quoted above, but instead be doing all I could to encourage positive involvement from the absent parent. I know from experience that this is way easier said than done, but for the kids sake it has to be worth never giving up on.

BitterAndTwisted

Marisco that only works if both parents actually want to maintain a close and loving relationship with their children. The OP's husband sounds like he doesn't give a monkey's about either of them. Most especially when you know that he's claimed not to be the biological father of his youngest. Is that the action of a devoted and responsible father?

He sounds like the kind of self-centred !!!!!! who'd blame everyone else for his situation and not accept any responsibility himself whatsoever, and be trying to poison his children's minds by attempting to re-write history. I had such a father, so I know what I'm talking about here