New Freemason wife

Prothet_of_Doom

My Granddad (Rip) was a freemason. But then he had to find a hobby, because Gran (RIP) was in the Mothers Union and WI and Ran the Church Flower arranging rota, and was in the ladies choir, and helped out the brownies if there was a problem, and did prison visiting, and ... was a trustee of a woman's refuge, and....

claire16c

fairy_lights wrote: »

So do all these men who join the Freemasons really keep it all secret from their wives? REALLY? I get that secrecy is the point of it but surely you'd let your own wife in on what goes on there...I just can't believe that everyone involved sticks to this code of absolute secrecy for their whole lives.
Personally though I wouldn't be too happy if my OH wanted to join a secret society. We both have hobbies and interests outside the relationship but that gives us things to talk about. I can only imagine what the conversation must be like between a Freemason and his wife...
"did you have a good evening dear?"
"can't say. sworn to secrecy."
*awkward silence ensues*

Exactly. I mean honestly why do their activities need to be a 'secret'? Seems kind of pathetic.

I would bug my DH til he told me. It makes me think it can't even be that interesting or they'd be bursting to say.

Thank goodness he would never join something like that - or if he did he's a rubbish liar and cant keep a secret from me so Id find out soon enough lol

adouglasmhor

DigForVictory wrote: »

The best revenge is a life well lived - so come & join Scouts, where the badges are a much more important when you're only 6 (& upwards!) and you'll have an even wider network of friends!

There's anecdotal research that indicates scout leaders tend to achieve astonishing longevity (possibly wondering what the young 'uns will do next, but they share the energy & do keep you fully occupied!)

You can *also* be a Freemason wife, but come & give Scouting a go?!

My dad is a Freemason and a current Group Scout leader, he's 75 this year.

ariba10

There are very few masons wives that do not know the ritual as well as their husbands.

Who do you think they practice on?

(Half the fun is getting up the noses of the likes of those that expound on here)

Mr_Toad

fluffnutter wrote: »

Of course. It's important that we allow our spouses the freedom of their own choices but it's not unreasonable to hope that our own feelings form part of those choices.

A rather meaningless phrase. How can it be classed as freedom of choice if there are any conditions attached.

You're basically saying he has the freedom to choose........as long as you agree to it.

Priceless.

adouglasmhor

fairy_lights wrote: »

So do all these men who join the Freemasons really keep it all secret from their wives? REALLY? I get that secrecy is the point of it but surely you'd let your own wife in on what goes on there...I just can't believe that everyone involved sticks to this code of absolute secrecy for their whole lives.
Personally though I wouldn't be too happy if my OH wanted to join a secret society. We both have hobbies and interests outside the relationship but that gives us things to talk about. I can only imagine what the conversation must be like between a Freemason and his wife...
"did you have a good evening dear?"
"can't say. sworn to secrecy."
*awkward silence ensues*

They used to say that my grandmother knew as much about the lodge as any 2 members. Her Husband, Father, Brothers and male cousins were all members.

It's only opening and closing and initiation rituals that are secret and even then you could find them online if you were really that interested.

ariba10

In case there are those who think they eat children. They don't in the ones I have attended.

-- I could not eat a whole one if they did--

claire16c

I dont get what the point of keeping them a secret is.

Rachylou1981

I am intrigued by the Freemasons but also a little scared by the unknown. My friend's husband is one and he isn't very sociable with her friends and to be honest, I feel he looks down his nose at us. Sometimes I wonder if it is his personality, he just does not like us or it is his Freemasonry hobby that makes him have opinions of us and thinks we know nothing (he can be very condescending and rude).

Anyway, I love hearing about the things they do in a 'I know your secret' kind of way and so I think for my OH to join and keep a lot of his life private would bother me and I'd constantly ask him to tell me things. I would never stop him but it would be hard to accept that he would be tied into these meetings and secret stuff for life. Hard to compare it to a normal hobby where you could hear about it if you wanted.

I am waiting for someone to explain about this chicken?

Pthree

Katem wrote: »

My dad was a freemason and in earlier years was ridiculously secretive about his secret society, my mother and I used to laugh endlessly about it. Only when he died was his masons briefcase opened. In all fairness, they do a lot of charity works and certainly it was a benefit to my dad in terms of his business as work was routinely given to other masons rather than anyone outside the society.

^^^ This.

My Dad became a Freemason when he started up his own business (around 30 yrs ago) as he thought it would be a good way to make contacts and it was, though we all ribbed him about funny handshakes etc.

Last year my Dad had a massive heart attack and was seriously ill in ICU for quite a few months, we were all amazed at the amount of support my Mum got from his local club, everything from people offering to walk the dog to to leaving casseroles and shopping on the doorstep, there even offers from a few retirees to try and keep the business going while he was sick.

As he recovered, there was an endless stream of visitors, offers of giving my Mum a break for a few hours and lifts to hospital appointments.

I always knew he was (is) a top chappy, I just didn't know how many other people thought it too.

P3