New Freemason wife

tea_lover

Mr_Toad wrote: »

A rather meaningless phrase. How can it be classed as freedom of choice if there are any conditions attached.

You're basically saying he has the freedom to choose........as long as you agree to it.

Priceless.

That's not how it came across to me. It's just about having consideration for your partner and acknowledging that your actions impact other people.

My OH has the freedom to join a cult, move to Hawaii, sell his car, give up work, etc. He has the freedom to do any of those things should he want to but I would like to think that as his partner he would consider how his decisions would impact on me as well as him.

Tbh it sounds as if that isn't really an issue here though as the OP's husband can see this from her point of view and has offered to change his plans.

Mr_Toad

Rachylou1981 wrote: »

I am intrigued by the Freemasons but also a little scared by the unknown. My friend's husband is one and he isn't very sociable with her friends and to be honest, I feel he looks down his nose at us. Sometimes I wonder if it is his personality, he just does not like us or it is his Freemasonry hobby that makes him have opinions of us and thinks we know nothing (he can be very condescending and rude).

Anyway, I love hearing about the things they do in a 'I know your secret' kind of way and so I think for my OH to join and keep a lot of his life private would bother me and I'd constantly ask him to tell me things. I would never stop him but it would be hard to accept that he would be tied into these meetings and secret stuff for life. Hard to compare it to a normal hobby where you could hear about it if you wanted.

I am waiting for someone to explain about this chicken?

I think too many people have been listening to the conspiracy theory crowd.

It's not secret, you can look it up on the internet.

I've never been a mason but my father was and he used to come home and tell us all about it.

My Mum knew exactly what it was, a group of men who met once a month, did a bit of charity work then had a meal and a beer afterwards.

You friends husband is either simply unsociable or he doesn't like her friends or both, who knows.

There are no chickens involved, unless the meal afterwards is chicken.

Mazcabs

My husband has been a FM for about 6 years now, I dont mind at all as most of the other blokes in his Lodge drink in our local pub so I know them. He attends 4 meetings a year with a possible couple of others if he goes to another lodges. I love going to the Ladies weekend's which happen once a year. Recently he has become involved as Secretary for the Lodge and due to his computer skills I end up typing a few bits up for him which has made me feel more involved plus we help with the Ladies weekends as well!

pimento

The Freemasons always make me think of the two Freds. Elliott and Flintstone.

mark55man

ariba10 wrote: »

(Half the fun is getting the noses of the likes of those that expound on here)

Can't you tell we're the ones laughing

houseimprover

fluffnutter wrote: »

Yep, that's the point. His little club is a secret and not for the likes of women to know about. Honestly, any man who feels the need to join something with secret rules and initiation ceremonies and little signs and gestures so they can 'recognise' each other clearly feels lacking in some way. It's what you do when you're 10!

No doubt I'll ruffle feathers but I don't care. All of it is ridiculously childish.

Rather than you feel bad about not letting him have his fun or whatever, I think he needs to question why his boys' club is so important that he's prepared to upset his wife over it. You are more important than chickens and silly handshakes.

The only person getting ruffled about it is you.

The OP's husband has said he can stop but if the OP says yes please that's hardly going to harbour great feelings is it.

Again, a mountain out of a molehill.

houseimprover

fairy_lights wrote: »

So do all these men who join the Freemasons really keep it all secret from their wives? REALLY? I get that secrecy is the point of it but surely you'd let your own wife in on what goes on there...I just can't believe that everyone involved sticks to this code of absolute secrecy for their whole lives.
Personally though I wouldn't be too happy if my OH wanted to join a secret society. We both have hobbies and interests outside the relationship but that gives us things to talk about. I can only imagine what the conversation must be like between a Freemason and his wife...
"did you have a good evening dear?"
"can't say. sworn to secrecy."
*awkward silence ensues*

umm.....yeah, kinda defeats the point...

Rachylou1981

Mr_Toad wrote: »

I think too many people have been listening to the conspiracy theory crowd.

It's not secret, you can look it up on the internet.

I've never been a mason but my father was and he used to come home and tell us all about it.

My Mum knew exactly what it was, a group of men who met once a month, did a bit of charity work then had a meal and a beer afterwards.

You friends husband is either simply unsociable or he doesn't like her friends or both, who knows.

There are no chickens involved, unless the meal afterwards is chicken.

I am not that bothered, just referring to the amount of times doing something with a chicken has been referenced on here without actually saying what it entailed

penrhyn

The Simpsons Stone Cutters song.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZI_aEalijE

Tropez

Rachylou1981 wrote: »

I am not that bothered, just referring to the amount of times doing something with a chicken has been referenced on here without actually saying what it entailed

Basically, what we do is we take the chicken and.... oh wait, there's someone behind me.... whychk...............................................................................