Weddings - evening invite

Torry_Quine

Person_one wrote: »

Well, that's why there's no need for an invite, which creates the awkwardness of saying yes to one bit but no to the other! Being an 'invited guest' might make the OP feel they had to dress up, or take a bigger present too.

You may not know where the wedding is though if not mentioned on the invite.

MrsE wrote: »

What about evening only invites that dont include a plus one?
I'm pretty sure its a paying bar too, so its not that.

Always seems strange to me especially if inviting someone married.

claire16c

Trixsie1989 wrote: »

This happened at a family wedding a few months ago and the girl that was invited to the ceremony only came to the meal anyway as she didn't get that she weren't invited to that so major panic for bride and groom as no meal ordered or anything! Xx

That happened at my friends wedding & someone had to tell her politely to leave. Talk about awkward.

Person_one

claire16c wrote: »

That happened at my friends wedding & someone had to tell her politely to leave. Talk about awkward.

Yikes, I think I'd have tried to quickly accommodate her somehow rather than humiliate the poor girl.

Buzzybee90

I'd include a plus one for evening invites, if they were in a long term relationship. But not to everyone, then again I don't think I'd even invite enough people to have evening only people ha!

claire16c

Person_one wrote: »

Yikes, I think I'd have tried to quickly accommodate her somehow rather than humiliate the poor girl.

Me too. I'm sure the kitchen must have had enough food to do 1 spare meal. I guess it was squeezing her on a table too.

Anyway that's one reason not to invite people to 2 out of 3 parts!

poet123

Person_one wrote: »

Even for people who are married, engaged, or living with a partner?

I am not sure, perhaps, but possibly not if the person is part of a group such that they have a ready made set of people to sit with.

I know our sons, and even the siblings of the bride, none of whom are in long term relationships, have had a plus one invite.

I know the invitation list has been a headache as they had set their heart on a certain venue despite it not being big enough for as many people as they would have invited had it been held elsewhere.

fluffnutter

This is exactly why we chose to get married very late and there was no 'you're part of the select group but you're only invited to the evening do with a crap buffet and ancient DJ'.

Nope, married at 6pm with all guests transported straight from church to restaurant. None of that standing around for ages watching some bloke take endless dull photos either.

GobbledyGook

Person_one wrote: »

Yikes, I think I'd have tried to quickly accommodate her somehow rather than humiliate the poor girl.

My cousin had her OH's cousin turn up at their wedding despite it being clear that aunts and uncles were invited all day and cousins at night (her FIL is one of 14 so her OH has tonnes of cousins).

They stuck cousin on the end of a table, gave her a meal etc and then face an absolute barrage of grief after the wedding from the insulted cousins who weren't invited when X was.

daisiegg

fluffnutter wrote: »

This is exactly why we chose to get married very late and there was no 'you're part of the select group but you're only invited to the evening do with a crap buffet and ancient DJ'.

Nope, married at 6pm with all guests transported straight from church to restaurant. None of that standing around for ages watching some bloke take endless dull photos either.

Wow, that's nice and judgemental of other people's weddings

daisiegg

fluffnutter wrote: »

At least my guests didn't need to come on the internet and moan about my wedding.

To be fair, none of us could know if any of our guests have anonymously moaned about our weddings online