Weddings - evening invite

claire16c

Gloomendoom wrote: »

As has been pointed out already, it's not just church weddings. If it's a legally recognised wedding ceremony, anyone can attend, wherever it is, or how much it cost to put on.

Although that's true in reality I can't really see it happening.

Especially when many places like registry offices have fairly strict numbers that you are allowed to have.

You'd have to be a right weirdo to just go barging in when the door was shut in the hope a ceremony was taking place.

It's just another archaic law around marriage that should be scrapped. Other countries get on fine without them.

Person_one

claire16c wrote: »

You'd have to be a right weirdo to just go barging in when the door was shut in the hope a ceremony was taking place.

Or have a really good reason!

jaylee3

claire16c wrote: »

Although that's true in reality I can't really see it happening.

Especially when many places like registry offices have fairly strict numbers that you are allowed to have.

You'd have to be a right weirdo to just go barging in when the door was shut in the hope a ceremony was taking place.

It's just another archaic law around marriage that should be scrapped. Other countries get on fine without them.

Exactly. I still think it's odd to go to someone's wedding that you barely know/don't know, and have not been invited to. As I said, it's more about people wanting to say they went. They probably weren't invited, and were a bit put out, so thought they'd invite themselves and pretend to people they were invited.

Don't know what the 'tradition' was 6 or 7 decades ago, but it's not the tradition now, with me, or anyone I know, to just trot along to a wedding to which you have not been invited, or sit in at a wedding where you know nobody.

As someone touched on earlier, there is limited space in many places, and I wouldn't dream of poking my nose into a wedding I had not been invited to, especially if I barely knew them, or worse: didn't know them!

supersaver2

What happens at celeb weddings then? Surely they couldn't stop a person going, they might know the reason why that person can't get married! Also could i have rocked up at Kate and Wills wedding and just taken my seat - not likely!

Though to be honest I don't remember that line being read at my wedding.

thorsoak

jaylee3 wrote: »

Exactly. I still think it's odd to go to someone's wedding that you barely know/don't know, and have not been invited to. As I said, it's more about people wanting to say they went. They probably weren't invited, and were a bit put out, so thought they'd invite themselves and pretend to people they were invited.

Don't know what the 'tradition' was 6 or 7 decades ago, but it's not the tradition now, with me, or anyone I know, to just trot along to a wedding to which you have not been invited, or sit in at a wedding where you know nobody.

As someone touched on earlier, there is limited space in many places, and I wouldn't dream of poking my nose into a wedding I had not been invited to, especially if I barely knew them, or worse: didn't know them!

Maybe its because we no longer think that it takes a village to raise a child!

When I (as a young teenager) attended a local wedding (along with neighbours etc) it was because there was a tenuous connection between the voyeurs and the invitees ....we all knew the participants - not enough to be invited to the actual wedding reception etc - but we had a connection!


Was that really such a bad thing? After all, the bride would also recognise her supporters - and would know that she was not completely venturing into the unknown - unlike today's experienced brides!

Person_one

jaylee3 wrote: »

Exactly. I still think it's odd to go to someone's wedding that you barely know/don't know, and have not been invited to. As I said, it's more about people wanting to say they went. They probably weren't invited, and were a bit put out, so thought they'd invite themselves and pretend to people they were invited.

Don't know what the 'tradition' was 6 or 7 decades ago, but it's not the tradition now, with me, or anyone I know, to just trot along to a wedding to which you have not been invited, or sit in at a wedding where you know nobody.

As someone touched on earlier, there is limited space in many places, and I wouldn't dream of poking my nose into a wedding I had not been invited to, especially if I barely knew them, or worse: didn't know them!

Eh? Do you really think people go to the weddings of complete strangers just to say they went? Why? What would they be getting out of it?

jaylee3

I really have no idea what you're saying Thorsoak. You've lost me. And in answer to person_one_ : People WILL turn up to a wedding of people they weren't invited to; if they know them vaguely, just to say they went.

As for people going to weddings of people they don't know. (Some posters here have said anyone can go to anyone's wedding.) You tell me why they go! I have no idea.

Person_one

jaylee3 wrote: »

I really have no idea what you're saying Thorsoak. You've lost me. And in answer to person_one_ :yes.

Ok, so...why?

Ok, you've edited. No, I don't buy that. What's so good about being able to say 'I went to Bob and Jane's wedding' when Bob and Jane are strangers?

I'm pretty sure most people have better things to do with their Saturday afternoons!

Trixsie1989

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Surely you'd only know if it said ceremony and evening. Ahhh, I'm confused!

She was invited verbally and they weren't clear with her when they asked her xx

Gloomendoom

supersaver2 wrote: »

What happens at celeb weddings then? Surely they couldn't stop a person going, they might know the reason why that person can't get married! Also could i have rocked up at Kate and Wills wedding and just taken my seat - not likely!

In theory you could ...

"Marriages must be solemnized in premises with open doors, which the Registrar general interprets to mean that the public must have unfettered access to witness the marriage and make objections prior to or during the ceremony."

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