Weddding Invite without Daughters name

melanzana

Daddy, FGS take the day off, enjoy the day with your precious daughter, and then Mummy can go to the wedding knowing her precious little daughter is also enjoying a lovely day having Daddy all to herself.

It's that simple really.

And TBH if Daddy feels he cannot take the day off, or for some reason he knows his work won't allow it, then for once, and once only I would say to Daddy, "that is an awful tummy bug you have, you can't possibly go to work and spread it around".

But I get the feeling that Mummy is very annoyed. And Daddy minding the little girl is just not the compromise she wants. So don't go to the wedding then, and have a big sulk instead. You are the only loser, because the Bride and Groom won't give a rats really!

Edit to add ...... I know it's a three day event with all the travel and distance etc. but my above points still stand. Daddy, take three days off!

justanopinion

*Puts tin hat on.


OH and I cannot not have children. If and when we do get married, I will not want a lot of children running round and detracting from all the adults wanting to have fun.


I am just about to terms with our not being able to have children, but every family occasion we attend always becomes about his siblings, or cousins, children. Just for once, I would want an occasion that was not just about a baby and how much they've grown. His parent's ruby anniversary party was drowned out by everyone cooing over the latest child. They had a ceremony to cut a cake, but people were in the next room or outside supervising children running round.


Yes, I am a tad bitter. Yes, people may decline to come. That's their right. But on what is meant to be the greatest day of your life, just for once, I don't want it to be about someone else's child. I want it to be about me and OH.


Maybe Vegas is a better idea. We'd get called selfish either way.

Twisted_Cherry

I went to two weddings last year, the second was children a plenty... they talked that much through the wedding service I barely heard a thing! Shame there parents thought it was acceptable behaviour!

74jax

Melabzana - amazing post!

RuthnJasper

justanopinion wrote: »

*Puts tin hat on.


OH and I cannot not have children. If and when we do get married, I will not want a lot of children running round and detracting from all the adults wanting to have fun.


I am just about to terms with our not being able to have children, but every family occasion we attend always becomes about his siblings, or cousins, children. Just for once, I would want an occasion that was not just about a baby and how much they've grown. His parent's ruby anniversary party was drowned out by everyone cooing over the latest child. They had a ceremony to cut a cake, but people were in the next room or outside supervising children running round.


Yes, I am a tad bitter. Yes, people may decline to come. That's their right. But on what is meant to be the greatest day of your life, just for once, I don't want it to be about someone else's child. I want it to be about me and OH.


Maybe Vegas is a better idea. We'd get called selfish either way.

With you on this one - I adore my niece and nephew, but I cannot have children myself either so I completely understand what you mean. A wedding should be about celebrating the loving union of two people... And I do think that those two people have the right to choose the format of their day and be respected for their choices. x

spacey2012

RuthnJasper wrote: »

With you on this one - I adore my niece and nephew, but I cannot have children myself either so I completely understand what you mean. A wedding should be about celebrating the loving union of two people... And I do think that those two people have the right to choose the format of their day and be respected for their choices. x

Of course they do.
However just as guests who are often giving up work holiday and spending expense on clothing, shoes, travel have the right to decide actually if their children are not welcome, then neither are they.

Not exactly a huge treat is it sitting through a wedding and then eating a sub standard meal with concrete roast potatoes the size of fists and meat with more fat than........

duchy

spacey2012 wrote: »

Of course they do.
However just as guests who are often giving up work holiday and spending expense on clothing, shoes, travel have the right to decide actually if their children are not welcome, then neither are they.

Not exactly a huge treat is it sitting through a wedding and then eating a sub standard meal with concrete roast potatoes the size of fists and meat with more fat than........

It's a wedding *invitation* no-one is forcing you to go :rotfl::rotfl:

RuthnJasper

spacey2012 wrote: »

Of course they do.
However just as guests who are often giving up work holiday and spending expense on clothing, shoes, travel have the right to decide actually if their children are not welcome, then neither are they.

Not exactly a huge treat is it sitting through a wedding and then eating a sub standard meal with concrete roast potatoes the size of fists and meat with more fat than........

Of course they are. I have no problem with that.

I don't think I've ever been to a wedding reception where the food has been THAT foul; but I suspect there are some horror stories out there...!

74jax

spacey2012 wrote: »

Not exactly a huge treat is it sitting through a wedding and then eating a sub standard meal with concrete roast potatoes the size of fists and meat with more fat than........

Not a treat? To sit through a wedding? To see people you love declaring to each other they want to spend the rest of their lives togther? Why on earth accept your friends invites if that's how you feel?

And as for eating a substandard meal, I'm astounded at your lack of greatfulness. A couple have request you share their wedding, have paid for a meal, probably drinks, an evening buffet and entertainment and you make it out as a chore.

Its an INVITE, you can decline you know.

PolishBigSpender

Your child is 2 years old, so I assume you don't breast feed any more. Why don't you find some reliable childcare and go have fun at the wedding? You can't force your child on the bride and groom. If they chose not to have children at the wedding, respect their decision.