Weddding Invite without Daughters name

Keeping_Positive

krustylouise wrote: »

Sorry to butt in, but how rude are you??? Do you have kids??? I'm guessing not by the unsympathetic way you're attacking the OP! Your post wasn't at all helpful, just downright offensive!!!

Donnalou - I completely understand, money is tight and times are hard, I'm right there with you on that! I would say use your OH's precious annual leave, and your hard earned money spending valuable time with your LO and OH. That would be better than spending all that money and time on a wedding your LO isn't invited to, and you'd be alone wishing you were with your family!

x

The post wasn't meant to be helpful. There has been enough good advice already. I should stop reading the thread but the attitude of putting her child first is really annoying. As kong as the child is in a safe caring environment yhey will be fine and after a few weeks maybe months wont even remember.

Yes I am a mum of three well adjusted kids who despite me working full time sice the eldest was one and soending tine away occasionally are doing great in and out of school.

Im sorry the op is sad she feels unable to go to the wedding but I like others think it can be worked around.

krustylouise

Poppy9 wrote: »

Oh lets bring out the "if you were a parent you would understand" line!

Well I'm a mum and I would have loved 3 days alone when DD was a toddler! 3 nights of undisturbed sleep (from OH snoring:D), 3 days of not having to worry about feeding the family, 3 days/night just pleasing myself! Never happened though as I didn't have childcare. Instead I had 3 months of OH working away.

Lets face it though the OP is being precious about her DD not being invited. It's not her wedding, she's just an invited guest and the invite is specific to her and OH. She should be pleased the couple invited her instead of complaining she can't take DD. All parents routinely put their children first but it doesn't mean you can't be an individual and please yourself.

I agree, HOWEVER parenting is individual to everyone, and what one mother does, many others would not. Personally I would never go away for 3 day, especially 350miles away, from DD and she is 6, let alone 2! Perhaps some of you would relish the opportunity, however OP doesn't take this approach to parenting and we should all be sympathetic of that. I've given my opinion and now i'm leaving this thread because the OP has had enough replies to help her make her decision.

Keeping_Positive

Poppy9 wrote: »

Oh lets bring out the "if you were a parent you would understand" line!

Well I'm a mum and I would have loved 3 days alone when DD was a toddler! 3 nights of undisturbed sleep (from OH snoring:D), 3 days of not having to worry about feeding the family, 3 days/night just pleasing myself! Never happened though as I didn't have childcare. Instead I had 3 months of OH working away.

Lets face it though the OP is being precious about her DD not being invited. It's not her wedding, she's just an invited guest and the invite is specific to her and OH. She should be pleased the couple invited her instead of complaining she can't take DD. All parents routinely put their children first but it doesn't mean you can't be an individual and please yourself.

Nicely put.

notanewuser

Mojisola wrote: »

Seriously? No work, no evening classes, no trips out with your OH or your friends?

I can count the number of days/nights out I've had since DD came along 3 years ago without her on one hand. What of it?

Bella73

Think you need to stop worrying about it, just send a pleasant would love to have been there but sorry can't come card.

We only had my nieces and nephew at our wedding, not because we are "celebrity's" or anything but having sat through a couple of our friends weddings before ours and not actually knowing they are married as couldn't hear a flipping thing because of someone's little darling screaming and running around we decided no way.

Plus for our venue we could only have 80 people and it was the same price whether it was a babe in arms or an adult so finances did help the decision.

If we had had children then approximately half of our invited guests couldn't have been invited due to space.

I appreciate you worship the ground your daughter walks on and why shouldn't you, but not everyone thinks the same and the thought of a child that age attending would make me shudder, yes I know you get gorgeous little ones who behave like angels but then there are the others who parents tell you behave like angels but in practice do anything but! Not saying your little one is a horror but so many are, it's not called the terrible twos for nothing!

Poppy9

krustylouise wrote: »

I agree, HOWEVER parenting is individual to everyone, and what one mother does, many others would not. .

Sadly that's true! If everyone adopted my parenting style then there would be no screaming children in public places on their 10th final warning!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

quidsy

How timely, just read a fb post of someone commenting on a pic of their toddler dd dancing down the aisle whilst in the background bride, groom and priest are trying to conduct a wedding. Hilarious!

krustylouise

Poppy9 wrote: »

Sadly that's true! If everyone adopted my parenting style then there would be no screaming children in public places on their 10th final warning!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ah so you're THE perfect mum?! You should publish your knowledge of motherhood and super nanny will soon be out of business :rotfl:

Poppy9

krustylouise wrote: »

Ah so you're THE perfect mum?!

Absolutely!!:rotfl::rotfl:

Mojisola

notanewuser wrote: »

I can count the number of days/nights out I've had since DD came along 3 years ago without her on one hand. What of it?

It can be doubly hard for a child to cope if the first time he/she has to have a day or night away from Mum is when there is an emergency and the adults in his/her life are stressed and anxious.

Getting used to having time away from the main carer when life is smooth and happy can make emergencies easier to deal with.