Weddding Invite without Daughters name

quidsy

:eek:I must have missed that memo! My bad :shhh:

krustylouise

poet123 wrote: »

I meant you couldn't leave her with her dad for three days whilst you went to a wedding?

What about a funeral?

I am not putting any words in your mouth I was asking a question.

I wouldn't leave DD for 3 days to go 350miles away for a funeral, no, aside from the fact I don't know anyone that far away, I just wouldn't do it. Im not entirely sure why you all feel the need to ridicule me for my parenting skills and the decisions I make regarding my child, however can I remind you that I have been accepting and understanding towards your views, and have not criticised you in anyway. As I have said in previous posts we are all different, and you should respect that instead of trying to berate me simply because you do not agree.

quidsy

No one has "ridiculed" you or "berated" you.

You have stated that you would never leave your child alone for 3 days, someone asked, not even with their father?

That is a reasonable question.

krustylouise

quidsy wrote: »

No one has "ridiculed" you or "berated" you.

You have stated that you would never leave your child alone for 3 days, someone asked, not even with their father?

That is a reasonable question.

Quidsy,

Look above at your comments with mojisola, saying you missed the memo. You know fine well that is taking the mick. Just pack it in, it's not nice. I came onto this thread with the best of intentions, to give constructive advice to the OP and my personal opinions and experience, never once have I criticised anyone else, it's a shame the same cannot be said for you.

quidsy

My comment was in reply to a joke someone else made, nothing to do with you. I have made no reference to you so I suggest you grow a thicker skin & stop assuming everything is about you. It's not.

A reasonable question was asked about whether parents who don't leave their kids would be happy to do so if it was the other parent.

So far, no one has given an answer.

notanewuser

quidsy wrote: »

My comment was in reply to a joke someone else made, nothing to do with you. I have made no reference to you so I suggest you grow a thicker skin & stop assuming everything is about you. It's not.

A reasonable question was asked about whether parents who don't leave their kids would be happy to do so if it was the other parent.

So far, no one has given an answer.

I would, for a night or 2. Probably not for a week or a fortnight though!

mumps

Mojisola wrote: »

I don't think anyone was expecting you to leave her shut in a room on her own!

You're shocked at the idea of being away from a 3 year old. I'm shocked that you're shocked.

I think the OPs daughter is 2 not 3. I couldn't have left my youngest that long when he was 2 as I was still breastfeeding and might have burst. He obviously did have other things in his diet so he would have survived not so sure if I would.

quidsy

me too, I leave ds with oh & the inlaws for 3-4 days when we visit them (overseas), it gives them a chance to see them both without me in the way & also gives me a chance to catch up with freinds in another country that I only get to see once a year.

My ds also sleeps over at my mums & sisters on a regular basis, he loves it & has done since he was 2 years old. A few weeks ago he ended up going to mums on Sunday & not coming home till thursday as he alternated between the 2 houses & enjoyed himself so much is bugging them about doing it again in the next half term!

That's my kid though, he isn't precious, as long as he is fed, secure & amused, he is happy most places. I also personally think it is good for their personal deleopment to be given small amounts of freedom away from home & also to socialise in other environments, the rules at nannys are different to the rules at home, some better some worse, he adapts.

But there is nothing wrong with not wanting to spend time away from your child but I do think it odd if you wouldn't because you didn't trust to leave them even with their father.

As for the op, she tried to make out this was a big deal family wedding she had been looking froward to for ages but as soon as her kid wasn't invited, admitted her OH wasn't even going, was working & the only way she would be willing to go is if the bride & groom relaxed their rules for her child (irregardless of anyone elses) all this backtracking about cost, distance, wanting to spend time as a family etc presumably wouldn't be an issue if her lo was allowed to go.

She has a choice, go alone or don't go. I really douobt the happy couple will put much thought into it if they receive a decline.

Poppy9

krustylouise wrote: »

Quidsy,

Look above at your comments with mojisola, saying you missed the memo. .

I thought that was referring to my joke about acceptable parenting and leaving a child in a cupboard for 3 days - which we had clarified was not acceptable for 3 days (but 2 seems okay):D

In answer to Poet. As I said I would have been happy to leave DD for 3 days!

My DD now 18 and an only child and people assume that makes me possessive and overly careful of her and that my world must be empty now she's at Uni!

Quite the contrary. I would have liked her to have sleepovers with family as a baby/young child but I had no parents and in-laws were disabled and FT carer. DD was 4 the first time she slept alone at a friends house (I don't mean alone, alone in house - the family were there:p). While I had to endure my turn of friends sleeping over I loved it when she slept out! She went to Brownie camp for 2 nights a few weeks after 7th birthday and a few months later for 5 nights. She loved it and I was "free"!!!

OH also used to take DD camping for a few nights randomly in the summer if he was on rest days and weather good.

School trips/D of E etc. I've enjoyed the break. First girls holiday last year to Maga was a bit of a challenge though as I did worry about her safety for the first 2 days!! Don't ask me why only 2!!

Since October I've been an empty nester as she's in Uni. I worried about her settling etc. but I've not pined for her. I skipped with delight and had the biggest smile on my face the first time she came home and I picked her up from train station. She's been home twice since and it's lovely to see her come and do stuff together but I like there is less pressure on me when she goes back to uni.

When she's home I take days off work and finish early when I can (I work flexi) so we spend good quality time together.

I was very aware as she was an only child that I didn't make her too afraid to spread her wings and leave home as I didn't want her to feel guilty that she was abandoning me.

poet123

krustylouise wrote: »

I wouldn't leave DD for 3 days to go 350miles away for a funeral, no, aside from the fact I don't know anyone that far away, I just wouldn't do it. Im not entirely sure why you all feel the need to ridicule me for my parenting skills and the decisions I make regarding my child, however can I remind you that I have been accepting and understanding towards your views, and have not criticised you in anyway. As I have said in previous posts we are all different, and you should respect that instead of trying to berate me simply because you do not agree.

No one is ridiculing you, some of us are just surprised that you seem shocked by the idea of leaving your 6 year old with close family for a short period. My children all slept over at my mothers from being about 6 months old, or could be left with my husband from birth. I just find it strange that you seem to be so inseparable.