Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

Carl31

Sounds to me that he's probably sick to the back teeth with the whole thing and is probably deciding whether he's done the right thing buying this ring

Jinx

I'd move the ring..... Then let HIM wonder when and how its going to reappear. Then you would at least know he'd been looking for it to propose (of course its the more mature action to have a sensible chat)

FBaby

Been there not a ring but agreement on a date to marry yet still no ring and therefore official announcement 7 months before. Like toy all the key days went by and I stayed feeling he was just messing me about. The one day I lost it (bad idea!) and pushed him so much he shouted that he had the ring and was planning to propose the following weekend as we'd planned to go away. I could have kicked myself was so angry with myself and thought I'd blown it. Thankfully as it is it came as a relief to him we did go away he did propose and we married when we had planned. One year on and we are blissfully happy. Hope it goes well tonight with the discussion but if it feels it doesn't don't lose hope he is just probably scared but it doesn't mean he doesn't want it.

PuzzledDave

Cloudydaze wrote: »

You talked about marriage then you bought a ring and you are planning your wedding. You ARE engaged but you feel a need to recreate a more romantic proposal to announce to your friends.

Sorry to pick out your particular quote, but it was handy. From what I have read, only one party seems interested in marriage and only one party seems to have big ideas about it. Surely they are no more engaged than I was to Sandra Bullock when I was 15 (2 decades ago) ?

If the marriage is so important to one party, then surely that party should be doing the asking ?

mountainofdebt

I know that if I constantly go on about something, my husband will dig his heels in and refuse point blanket to do it.

tbh it sounds as if the OP's OH doesn't want to marry her - I mean,he rejected the idea of getting married in Las Vegas then, when it was too late thought it was a good one and then on Boxing Day said to her that he was thinking about proposing on Christmas Day but didn't. Anyone see a pattern developing?

theoretica

I wonder if he might be perfectly happy to be married, but actually have an antipathy to the wedding and all the associated fuss?

ska_lover

Milliebob wrote: »

I tried that over Christmas and didn't 'put out' for six weeks. He was in a FOUL mood last weekend and I thought it might change his mind so I gave in. Didn't work.

Yes I could have worn the ring out of the sop, but the point is, he wouldn't let me.

I told him an hour ago to grow some balls and tell me the truth if he doesn't want to get married. I've made it very clear how miserable he is making me. I just think he's not taking me seriously.

IMO you are playing games - and possibly so is he. Don't be surprised if it backfires. Neither of you seem mature enough for wedding bells.

Sleeping with the man you love, really shouldn't be classed as 'giving in'. Nor should sex be used as a weapon. You seem happy to get what you want 'by any means neccesary'.

I think your relationship is in trouble

Mojisola

ska_lover wrote: »

IMO you are playing games - and possibly so is he. Don't be surprised if it backfires. Neither of you seem mature enough for wedding bells. Sorry, but there it is.

Affairs of the bedroom with the man you love, really shouldn't be classed as 'giving in'. I think your relationship is in trouble

Nor to be parents!

ska_lover

Mojisola wrote: »

Nor to be parents!

Indeed.:T:T:T

HPoirot

PuzzledDave wrote: »

Surely they are no more engaged than I was to Sandra Bullock when I was 15 (2 decades ago) ?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Love it, we must be around the same age although I am female and never had a crush on her. But... love it PuzzledDave!