Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

ilikepinacolada

I had a friend who nagged BF for years and finally whilst heavily intoxicated he did it in a house full of people egging him on, he always said he never wanted to get married anyway he is now gone and happier for it, I personally would get irritated with someone constantly going on about it but in the same breath he should have said that if was ever to propose to you he would buy the ring you pointed out!


Marriage is not the be all and end all a happy secure home life for your child is!

Blackpool_Saver

Why is a grown man playing on an xbox when his partner is trying to talk to him. Get rid

DaveTheMus

Milliebob wrote: »

But my point is- why buy the ring then?! Why not jut move me on away from that window?

In all honesty I think you strong armed him into the shop..........

Why would a man who doesn't want to get married decide he wants to go into a jewellers to look at engagement rings, unless someone else decided for him?!

In your OP you state that you feel he's 'holding you hostage' and 'he's holding all the power' this suggests that in your mind there is a role reversal and you don't like it......

In another post you state that you 'didn't put out for 6 weeks' but thought you would 'give in' to 'change his mind'......you use sex as a weapon and bribe your partner with it........shocking behaviour.

If I were your partner I'd run for the hills and find someone who is less averse to emotional blackmail and less likely to use sex as a 'means to an end'.

AcidHouse

Milliebob wrote: »

He was playing on his XBox at the time and didnt even look up. He still is in fact, so again, he won't be taking me seriously.

So...you have two children then, your child, and him. If that was his reaction, then you've got your answer.

bagpussbear

I think you need to step back a bit as I think you are over thinking the whole situation. He only bought you the ring in October, so only 3-4 months ago, and I think he wants to plan a special proposal this year.

Don't let it get you down. Don't mention it again. Perhaps he wants you to forget about it for a bit in order he can actually 'surprise' you. Act like you aren't bothered.

If say you are still waiting 18 months later, then yes I'd say he was messing you around.

Give the man a chance to spring something nice. :-)

Georgiegirl256

Milliebob wrote: »

He was playing on his XBox at the time and didnt even look up. He still is in fact, so again, he won't be taking me seriously.

You'll never get a sensible answer off him or his full attention while he's on that. When my DH is on his, I get more sense out of the cat!

marleyboy

Pull The Plug!!!!! OH would Xbox me with the Xbox were I to blank her over a digital role playing game.

paulineb_2

Maybe the x box is more peaceful than feeling you are being constantly browbeaten over when you plan to propose. Im not saying that he should be on it all the time, certainly not, but if someone goes into switch off mode, maybe its because they think, here we go again.

Youve said very little about how your relationship is generally, whether you are happy with him and he you on a day to day basis.

Milliebob

Ok, I'm going to go downstairs, ask him to pause the game and tell him that I promise to never mention it again but I just have one question, and that us did he feel pressured wen he bought the ring and has since had second thoughts. If so I will apologise, tell him I love him and that I don't want him to do anything until he is completely happy about it himself. I'll let you know in the morning how it goes.

Cloudydaze

I'm probably in the minority as a female who isn't fussed about engagements, sparkly rings, the BIG day or changing my name. My only wish is to meet someone I love and who loves me.

What you've described is everything I detest about the whole engagement and weddings charade.

You talked about marriage then you bought a ring and you are planning your wedding. You ARE engaged but you feel a need to recreate a more romantic proposal to announce to your friends.

To be honest, your OH sounds completely useless. He doesn't care about the things that are important you and doesn't care about your happiness. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him?