Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

Person_one

j.e.j. wrote: »

In theory it's supposed to be for telling someone you find their post particularly helpful, but of course more often than not it just means 'yeah, I think so too' :rotfl:

There was some talk about getting rid of the thanks button over in DT a while ago. I think it would be an interesting experiment!

Clearly we need it, or people might starting feeling the need to quote every post they like!

Person_one

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Just can't see how it could ever be described as 'emotional blackmail' that's all?

A lot of people still buy into the ridiculous idea that all women are just desperate to get married and all men are desperate not to, so they think its perfectly normal that the whole thing is a power play.

I hope the OP considers getting in touch with Relate, even if she doesn't come back to tell us.

j.e.j.

Person_one wrote: »

Clearly we need it, or people might starting feeling the need to quote every post they like!

I'm sure there's some logic in that somewhere..
If someone wants to quote someone else and say they agree, what's your problem??


But anyway (in case anyone's interested..) here's a thread from the site feedback board last summer. I think the OP sums it up pretty well, ie the thanks button very often simply gets used by forum members to gang up on other members.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4683691

Person_one

j.e.j. wrote: »

But anyway (in case anyone's interested..) here's a thread from the site feedback board last summer. I think the OP sums it up pretty well, ie the thanks button very often simply gets used by forum members to gang up on other members.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4683691

Honestly, I think that's a bit of myth, you'd have to be pretty paranoid to think people are deliberately forming gangs and colluding on here.

rachiibell

Hi OP you might find some support on this thread https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3283450

I seem to remember a few other women being in the same position as you where they knew their partner had bought a ring but still hadn't proposed. Good luck! x

wapow

Person_one wrote: »

Clearly we need it, or people might starting feeling the need to quote every post they like!

So what? You going to dictate what gets quoted and what doesn't?
There are like minded people out there who do not wish to read 11 pages. I quoted some sensible answers. Simple as. I'll quote each one I like. I'll thank what I like. I do what I like. Don't like it?
Well

wapow

Person_one wrote: »

Honestly, I think that's a bit of myth, you'd have to be pretty paranoid to think people are deliberately forming gangs and colluding on here.

a. Its not a myth.
b. Nothing to do with being paranoid.


Its called pattern recognition. We can all do it. A few are better at it than others. If someone has made a post about it and others feel the same way, then why would it be a myth?


This is going off topic.

Person_one

wapow wrote: »

This is going off topic.

Well you're right about that, so I'll leave it there.

wapow

rachiibell wrote: »

Hi OP you might find some support on this thread https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3283450

I seem to remember a few other women being in the same position as you where they knew their partner had bought a ring but still hadn't proposed. Good luck! x

Hi,


Do you recall what the reasons were for these other people?
I think he might just be overwhelmed at the thought of a proposal then a wedding and all the prep that has to go in it etc etc and its really put him in a place of no return. Its tough very tough to bring someone out of this place once theyre in it.

rachiibell

wapow wrote: »

Hi,


Do you recall what the reasons were for these other people?
I think he might just be overwhelmed at the thought of a proposal then a wedding and all the prep that has to go in it etc etc and its really put him in a place of no return. Its tough very tough to bring someone out of this place once theyre in it.

There were loads of different reasons. It goes for 96 pages and counting! I'm sure the original OP of that thread's boyfriend had anxiety issues about the actual proposal and the thought of having a big wedding with loads of people there and she didn't care about any of that and just wanted to get married! She did get her happy ending in the end though

From what I can remember other people's partners thought they were too young to get married, didn't realise it was such a big deal, were just too stubborn, ect.