Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

Manchee

pagenotfound2k wrote: »

Sounds like a good way of seeing if you're interested in him, or valuables such as the ring. As this entire thread proves, you are centred on the valuables, in this case the ring.

If the OP's boyfriend has any sense, he won't marry a money grabber like his current girlfriend. It's clear from this thread what you're interested in.

Seriously? I don't think you get the point here, its not the ring that she's fretting about, its the actual proposal not happening after her partner bought the ring in front of her, him dragging it out and leaving her dangling. Buying an engagement ring for someone in front of that person is basically showing your intention to propose, and soon. He knows how much she wants this but doesn't seem to get/care how cruel he is being. Also, judgmental much??

Tiddlywinks

I'm going to get straight to the point...

You have chosen to have a child with this man - so that man will be part of your life forever.

I'm amazed that you can't have a simple conversation about this to sort it out and clear the air.

Sit down with a diary and book a date for a wedding - if he won't commit then you have your answer... better to know than continue to live in hope.

If he says no then only you can decide what you want to do for the longer term.

The first step is to get it out in the open and talk.

Pollycat

pagenotfound2k wrote: »

Sounds like a good way of seeing if you're interested in him, or valuables such as the ring. As this entire thread proves, you are centred on the valuables, in this case the ring.

If the OP's boyfriend has any sense, he won't marry a money grabber like his current girlfriend. It's clear from this thread what you're interested in.

I don't think 'this entire thread' proves that the OP is 'centred on valuables' and I don't see her as a 'money-grabber'.

Have you even read 'this entire thread'?

Here's an extract from the first post:

Milliebob wrote: »

In October we were in a jewellers and I was looking at diamond rings (as you do!) and he suggested I try one on, and ended up buying one.

He suggested she tried a ring on and he ended up buying one.

HPoirot

pagenotfound2k wrote: »

Sounds like a good way of seeing if you're interested in him, or valuables such as the ring. As this entire thread proves, you are centred on the valuables, in this case the ring.

If the OP's boyfriend has any sense, he won't marry a money grabber like his current girlfriend. It's clear from this thread what you're interested in.

"Money grabber", for the sake of an engagement? Get real!! OP just wants commitment from her BF.

HPoirot

OP, is the ring still under the sink? Has he spoken about it??

Cottage_Economy

Are you sure he still has the ring and hasn't returned it?

He's playing silly games with you, which considering you live together and have a child are out of order.

I would be looking to have THAT talk, as I don't think his commitment to you is as strong as yours to him. That bit in your previous posts where he said he didn't think the finance would go through and wasn't expecting to come away with a ring speaks volumes...he made a grand gesture by offering to take you shopping and buy you a ring, which made him look good in your eyes and that may be all he wanted, but then it all got real on him unexpectedly and he can't walk the walk.

I hope I'm wrong and he's just waiting for the right moment...

Manchee

Why not just sit down with him and say 'ok this is getting out of hand, I feel were both walking on eggshells when it comes to the elephant in the room that is this engagement ring. If you bought it for a reason, lets cut the crap, bypass the awkwardness and just set a date.' His response will prob tell you everything you need to know, I would think.

jaylee3

I would ask again when he intends to give you the ring. It's easy for people to say 'just walk then,' if he won't give you the ring. It's not that easy to just leave a relationship.

Definitely sounds like he doesn't want to get married though. 6 months later, and he still hasn't give you the ring?! He should have given it to you within the first few weeks really.

I don't know what the answer is.

I think you have 2 choices:

1. End the relationship and tell him why; because of the way he has treated you over this ring incident.

2. Suck it up, say nothing, and just assume he is never going to ask.

Alternatively, you could get the ring (if he still has it,) and sell it. Has he even still got it?

Best thing to do though is say THIS that the above poster said.......

'ok this is getting out of hand, I feel were both walking on eggshells when it comes to the elephant in the room that is this engagement ring. If you bought it for a reason, lets cut the crap, bypass the awkwardness and just set a date.'

You need to let him know you want an answer from him. And by the end of the day today!

barbiedoll

Oh god, take the ring out from under the sink and start wearing it!

Either he wants to marry you, in which case you are entitled to the ring.

Or he doesn't, in which case, you are entitled to the ring

(AFAIK, if it was a "gift" and was bought specifically for you, in your presence, to fit your finger, it's yours!)

Either way, you'll be wearing a nice, shiny diamond. What's not to love?

System

barbiedoll wrote: »

Oh god, take the ring out from under the sink and start wearing it!

Either he wants to marry you, in which case you are entitled to the ring.

Or he doesn't, in which case, you are entitled to the ring

(AFAIK, if it was a "gift" and was bought specifically for you, in your presence, to fit your finger, it's yours!)

Either way, you'll be wearing a nice, shiny diamond. What's not to love?

Hahaha that's one way of looking at it... but don't expect him to walk down the aisle with you anytime soon.