Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

Person_one

Milliebob wrote: »

FYI in case anybody's interested, I'm still waiting....

Good god woman, why? Why have you let this go on for so long? Are you still talking about it, is he still using delaying tactics?

Sounds like it might be time for Relate, you can go on your own if he won't go with you:

http://www.relate.org.uk

System

I honestly think he considered it a purchase 'in a moment of madness' and think he's either dangling you on the piece of string with it or he doesn't intend to ever give it to you.

What a horrible thing to do.... just keep you dangling.

pagenotfound2k

Sounds like a good way of seeing if you're interested in him, or valuables such as the ring. As this entire thread proves, you are centred on the valuables, in this case the ring.

If the OP's boyfriend has any sense, he won't marry a money grabber like his current girlfriend. It's clear from this thread what you're interested in.

duchy

I'm afraid it sounds like he simply doesn't want to get married at the moment. It doesn't sound like it's about money if you are just planning a registry office ceremony with immediate family.
The comment about "not expecting to get credit" spoke volumes to me .....that 1 He was only trying to placate you and didn't expect to have to buy a ring - but could say to you "Well I tried" and 2 He has no awareness or consideration for your feelings to tell you that.

For me if you're already living with someone and have a child then marriage is about saying - This is us for life-to your family and friends -and in your situation I'd be concluding he doesn't want to make that public commitment.

I'd be suggesting he and his X-box moved out whilst you consider your future with him. Not to pull him into line but as a genuine attempt for both of you to consider if your relationship has run its course as you don't want the same things out of it.

tayforth

Milliebob - I remember this thread. I would suggest that you have an honest talk with your partner about this. Don't get over-emotional or accusatory. Just ask him how HE feels. But be prepared for an answer that you may not like.

I hope that things work out for you xxx

heartbreak_star

Just had a thought - is it possible he wants the ring paid off before he gives you it?

Imagine if he missed a payment and you had to take it off...

HBS x

duchy

Why would she have to take it off if he missed a payment ?
If your partner missed a payment on a washing machine - he'd be chased for the money ....you wouldn't have the washing machine removed.
Same principle surely ?

lazer

When is the finance paid off?

I wouldn't have wanted an engagement ring bought on debt and my now husband wouldn't have bought one on debt.

Georgiegirl256

Milliebob wrote: »

FYI in case anybody's interested, I'm still waiting....

What on earths he playing at? I gave him the benefit of the doubt at first, thinking he was maybe planning something, but now he's just taking the !!!!!

Have you got any important dates coming up where he might pop the question? Or has he forgot about it?

System

pagenotfound2k wrote: »

Sounds like a good way of seeing if you're interested in him, or valuables such as the ring. As this entire thread proves, you are centred on the valuables, in this case the ring.

If the OP's boyfriend has any sense, he won't marry a money grabber like his current girlfriend. It's clear from this thread what you're interested in.

That's a bit harsh. Its not the money that was spent it was the commitment that was meant to be behind it.