Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

wapow

ska_lover wrote: »

Ok I am going to tell you what I think from your original post, I hope it doesn't sound harsh, but here goes

Chill out Milliebob, he is clearly going to do it as he had purchased a ring.

It sounds to me that you are potentially emotionally blackmailing him with it - 'oh i'm so depressed because you wont propose when I want you to' and piling on the pressure- which is all a bit control freak to me. Do you normally behave like this, or is it just the potential engagement that is causing it? You could be showing a side to you that he didn't know existed - Just be careful

He obviously is going to do it in his own sweet time - perhaps on Valentines day?

You need to realise in a marriage you do not get to control everything, things are shared - and you won't always get your own way. If you are still immature enough to expect your own way 100% of the time, or you are going to throw a strop, then clearly you are not ready for marriage and are better off single.

Most sensible answer out there. Bravo.

Georgiegirl256

wapow wrote: »

Most sensible answer out there. Bravo.

Hardly....but then you would think that wouldn't you.

bagpussbear

Milliebob, how has the relationship been since you last posted? Did you act 'not bothered' (which was my advice)?

Has the subject been mentioned at all?

I am still holding out that he will surprise you - I realise you have now had a christmas and a valentines come and go, but is there a birthday, anniversary or holiday coming up?

wapow

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Hardly....but then you would think that wouldn't you.

Great minds and all that Georgie. Doubt you'd know much about that. Realise that there are 2 sides to a coin. :money:

Georgiegirl256

wapow wrote: »

Great minds and all that Georgie. Doubt you'd know much about that. Realise that there are 2 sides to a coin. :money:

Just can't see how it could ever be described as 'emotional blackmail' that's all?

wapow

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

I'm going to get straight to the point...

You have chosen to have a child with this man - so that man will be part of your life forever.

I'm amazed that you can't have a simple conversation about this to sort it out and clear the air.

Sit down with a diary and book a date for a wedding - if he won't commit then you have your answer... better to know than continue to live in hope.

If he says no then only you can decide what you want to do for the longer term.

The first step is to get it out in the open and talk.

Another common sense answer.

Person_one

wapow wrote: »

Another common sense answer.

Are you aware of the 'thanks' button?

wapow

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Personally, I wouldn't want to wear a ring that has caused so much heartache

This has piqued my interest a lot!

j.e.j.

Person_one wrote: »

Are you aware of the 'thanks' button?

In theory it's supposed to be for telling someone you find their post particularly helpful, but of course more often than not it just means 'yeah, I think so too' :rotfl:

There was some talk about getting rid of the thanks button over in DT a while ago. I think it would be an interesting experiment!

jaylee3

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Just can't see how it could ever be described as 'emotional blackmail' that's all?

I agree, and am surprised that so many 'thanked' that original post (number 9 on this thread, and quoted above in post 202 ^^^) saying the OP is a control freak and is emotionally blackmailing/bullying her B/F? How FGS?

From where I am sitting, it's HE doing the emotional bullying.

If I were the OP, I would actually be getting to the point now where I want an answer. Do you want to marry me or not? Straight answer. If he says 'yes I do,' then tell him she wants the ring - it was bought for HER after all! And then say you want to discuss the date.

I mean he must have wanted to get married, otherwise, why buy a damn engagement ring?

He is playing mind games and maybe HE better look out in case SHE walks.