Boyfriend bought me a ring but won't let me have it

paulineb_2

thorsoak wrote: »

How do you know that he bought it for YOU, OP?????

I think she was there at the time.

pearl123

If a boyfriend purchased a ring and did not let me wear it I would presume he either, sold it, lost it or was emotionally playing me up.

System

I swear to god if I ever become a bridezilla someone just shoot me

Reading these threads really opens your eyes!

tiger_eyes

Tanswell88 wrote: »

I think if I was doing this to my husband before we got engaged me begging for it would make him postpone asking more just because he knows how much I want it.

I don't entirely understand the idea that you should withhold something from your partner just because they're upset without it and giving it to them would make them happy. Is it inherently better for a partner to feel hurt and unwanted than happy and loved?

fairy_lights

I can understand why a lot of people are assuming the op is a ring crazed bridezilla, but there could be another side to the story. If the op and her partner have discussed marriage and are in essence already engaged, and he has bought he an engagement ring which she chose and knows all about, why can't he just let her have the ring and wear it? Even if he is planning a big elaborate proposal, if she knows about (and desperately wants) the ring it's hardly going to be a surprise, so I really don't understand why he just wouldn't give it to her. It makes me wonder if he's playing mind games and has no intention of actually getting married but doesn't have the balls to be honest with her.




Also, a toolbag under the kitchen sink doesn't sound like the safest place in the world to store expensive jewellery :eek:

Georgiegirl256

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I swear to god if I ever become a bridezilla someone just shoot me

Reading these threads really opens your eyes!

You took the words right out of my mouth. The smell of desperation coming from some of the women on this thread is overpowering.

Person_one

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I swear to god if I ever become a bridezilla someone just shoot me

Reading these threads really opens your eyes!

If I ever meekly let a man have such control over my life just shoot me!

thorsoak

paulineb wrote: »

I think she was there at the time.

She may well have been there when it was bought ....but it still might not have been bought for her .........

paulineb_2

thorsoak wrote: »

She may well have been there when it was bought ....but it still might not have been bought for her .........

I think only a complete divvy would buy someone else an engagement ring and get his partner to try it on and keep it in their home.

FBaby

I think I missed something....what's the point in seeing a ring together, buying it with the understanding that it is an engagement ring...and then not giving it? I don't get it at all. Surely if he didn't intend on being engaged then, he shouldn't have bought the ring, at least not with her knowledge. If he changed his mind, surely she deserves to be told and given the chance to work on the problem.

The bottom line is she is left in a limbo, not knowing where she stands. I understand the strong desire to want to be married to the man you love and are totally committed to when there has been discussion that this is what will happen and feeling frustrated and starting to become paranoid when things don't go as expected.

I thought I read the whole thread but did OP came back to say how the discussion she supposedly had last night went?