What Were Your 20's Like ?

HPoirot

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

Oh God. So how would you advise approach them ? Imagine I met you for a coffee today as a future person who would like you as my mentor. How would you appreciate I approach you ?

Just as Tiglath says. 100% candid, no false flattery before you even know me please!

ETA most people would make the time to help those starting out in their profession, experience is a wonderful hindsight, but I do not know many who cannot spot a bit of fakery a mile off. No offence to you OP, please take this as a bit of well meant advice!

Angelinaxoxo

HPoirot wrote: »

Just as Tiglath says. 100% candid, no false flattery before you even know me please!

ETA most people would make the time to help those starting out in their profession, experience is a wonderful hindsight, but I do not know many who cannot spot a bit of fakery a mile off. No offence to you OP, please take this as a bit of well meant advice!

No offense taken HPoint. I get very nervous around more 'successful' people and tend to just compliment because it's easier. I'll definitely take these on point. I'll be candid and confident Any other tips for me ?

HPoirot

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

No offense taken HPoint. I get very nervous around more 'successful' people and tend to just compliment because it's easier. I'll definitely take these on point. I'll be candid and confident Any other tips for me ?

I wish I had! I am in the process of changing careers myself and wish I could muster up more confidence!

Goldiegirl

I think of my 20's as when I laid the foundations of my life.

My 20's coincided exactly with the 1980's, as I was 20 in 1980. I had also met my husband in the last months of 1979.

So there was the excitement of a brand new relationship, the realisation that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We married in 1981 and bought our first house together. We didn't have much money at the time, but life was good because we loved each other (still do!). We saved to buy things for the house, built our careers, and had some lovely holidays together, cheap ones at first, then more expensive ones as the decade progressed.

By 1989, I had worked out that a high flying career wasn't me, so took a step back, to an admin role, and we also moved house to where I still live now.

So by the end of my 20's I had established where I wanted to be in the workplace and had found the home I wanted. I had grown into the person I still am today.

Because we bought a home at an early age, we are now mortgage free, and are hoping to retire early next year. I think that the firm foundations laid down in my 20's have brought me to a relatively comfortable situation at this stage in my life.

I'm looking forward to at least another 30 years of happy life, enhanced by being work-free!

meritaten

20s - I think I was a naïve twit! 30s were better, 40s better in terms of maturity but bodywork started to break down. 50s - approaching the end of 50s and body is definitely not up to scratch........maturity wise - I think its the best I have ever been.

Frith

On paper, my 20s look quite good! I graduated at 21, went back to uni from 23-25 then graduated again. I also had a son at 25 then another at 28.


From 21-23 I was doing 3 jobs (so 60 hours a week +) I bought my house aged 24 and was then a manager in my profession doing my MA one day a week.


What this doesn't show is that I was in the marriage from hell and got divorced aged 29!

Indie_Kid

I'm 24 and it's been awful so far. Have had a good things though; such as meeting new people, etc.

Person_one

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

Okay that's good then. Just things about losing touch, people having families, no time etc. I'm guessing that's a myth then ?

If you ever start to doubt the value of female friendships, get a bus at about 10am on a weekday. Elderly women, men long gone, just enjoying each other's company and usually laughing and joking.

If I've learned one thing in my twenties (I turn 30 this year) it's the value of good friends. Also, the value of dry shampoo and comfortable shoes, but they're less important.

BritAbroad

The first bit of my 20s was good, finished my degree, married my lovely OH, bought/sold a couple of properties.

It went downhill after that. I got into a career and spent 8 years being stressed and miserable. Currently I don't even have a job never mind a career. Lost most of my friends when they became parents. Suffered a lot of ill health which still has an impact on my life at times. I'm now trying to learn how to deal with being very lonely most of the time.

I look back on my early 20s with great fondness as life has never been as good since!

andygb

I think that I made the most of my twenties.
I was hardly in the house in the evenings or weekend, because I was really immersed in competitive sport, and the partying which happened as a way to wind down after the training and competition.
I was the fittest and healthiest that I have ever been.