What Were Your 20's Like ?

Tancred

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

What were the few factors which you found made them so unhappy Tancred ?

See my post #111.

Angelinaxoxo

Person_one wrote: »

If you ever start to doubt the value of female friendships, get a bus at about 10am on a weekday. Elderly women, men long gone, just enjoying each other's company and usually laughing and joking.

If I've learned one thing in my twenties (I turn 30 this year) it's the value of good friends. Also, the value of dry shampoo and comfortable shoes, but they're less important.

I want some nice one's. Trust me I know how important they are. My 'best friend' at the moment is my best friend from school. She's so lovely and supportive. I'd love more friends like that, real proper friends. My biggest goal this decade is to try and make more lasting female friendships :T

Angelinaxoxo

Person_one wrote: »

Are you using us as free research subjects OP? A lot of probing questions here!

I just love speaking with MSE folk! Some times the candidness and honesty we share here is something you won't find elsewhere.

Angelinaxoxo

Tancred wrote: »

I was very unahppy in my 20s. Lonely and unable to get a girlfriend. I was too fat, too short, too geeky, too bespectacled, too 'nice', you name it and I was it. In the end I just said 'to hell with it' and stopped looking for the mega-attractive trophy girlfriend. I ended up meeting someone who was sincere and caring and I married her. We are still together.

GOOD! :T If it helps you and everyone reading this thread, my twenties (the small 2 years I've had) have been a mixed bag. It's been amazing then rough. I've faced everything from being scared. It got very. very rough at one point (last summer). However, it's good to look at the lessons too, being scared I'd be homeless taught me money management, sometimes the loneliness I experienced taught me self sufficiency. I had depression for a while too (still do but much better now) and that alone took me to the brink many times.

It's been very very up and down, however overall I'd rate it as a self reflecting one so far as I'm constantly analysing my lessons. Learning more about myself etc. Now I'm at the point where I feel I'm officially beginning it at a really good place so I'm excited.

My teens were absolutely horrendous (good God) so they made me more resilient to anything my twenties would bring.

Regarding the looks thing, I'm happy you came to your senses on that do you ever sometimes feel you settled though ?

James

20 year-old. Spent 18 months in Mauritius. Stationed there when in the Royal Navy. Thank you god!

Vicky123

MrsE wrote: »

If I could turn back time?

Set my sights higher;)

Oh my goodness yes, and for me realise that I'm worth it.
I may be wrong here but I think the youngsters today have more confidence than my generation did at the same age, with the odd exception.

kittendothroar

Looking back my twenties have been gladly put in the past. I was a fool and stayed with someone way too long until I had a nasty wake up call and realised what a jerk they were. Never ever lose sight of who you are.

I had major surgery, twice and nearly didn't make it which wasn't so good and left me terribly anxious and depressed, and I've spent 3 years piecing my life slowly back together. I am trying to live in the moment but gets hard, I wish I could tell my 20 year old self to relax more, put friends and family first - not work because when your world falls apart they are the only thing you need.

Tancred

Angelinaxoxo wrote: »

Regarding the looks thing, I'm happy you came to your senses on that do you ever sometimes feel you settled though ?

Yes, I guess I did compromise, but in life you have to. My life is contented now, not ecstatically happy, but contented. The trouble is that when you are young you have huge ambitions but when you get smacked in the face by disappointments then you get real. It was the same in my career as well - until I was 40 I was always changing jobs and never really getting on with bosses. I was sacked 7 times from leaving uni until a few years ago, mainly because of the a**holes I had to work for. Now I have a job with some responsibility and autonomy and feel settled and relaxed for the first time ever.

DKLS

geoffky wrote: »

A chemical induced blur...

This + a decade spent with the wrong woman, was a relief to get shut and get life back on track.

Tanswell88

I had my first daughter at 19
Married my husband at 20
Had my second daughter at 24
Moved towns at 24
Lost my dad to lung cancer at 25
Went aboard for the first time at 25.

So far I am five years in and its been a mixed bag that is for sure.