OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl:As you say, ie most men are just happy to have....errrrm..."reached that point":rotfl:.

...which brings me rather back to "How many men our age and older are..ahem...up to scratch in that Department shall we say?;)".

If it was something that worked, then it would be something that would be thought of in the context of younger men anyway I guess...but...ummm...cant say I've been aware of any difference in a few respects myself anyway....

A same-age-as-me friend has been there/done that re marrying an old man who, I would say, was after a carer, rather than a wife, and hence his determination to marry her in the first place. Cue for not very much further down the line and sure 'nuff = she turned into a carer. They didn't even have much of a "normal marriage" before it happened in the event and she had swopped roles. I know marriage is "for better, for worse" etc etc and that's as it should be imo but....I think she literally had months of normal marriage before her role changed and I would be willing to swear he had an inkling that would be the case and hence him being so persuasive.

Thinks....wonders if that is actually part of the reason why many older men want women 15-20 years younger than themselves? ie in order to line up women younger and fitter than themselves as potential carers. I hadn't actually thought of that till now and assumed it was that particular man only....:doh:

A lot of pennies are dropping right now:o, but at least some are providing me with material for The Great Novel I've always wondered whether I would write one day (you know....the starving writer in a garret scenario many of us have in our heads...only cut out the "starving" bit of that scenario:eek:).

Horace

Thank you ladies for giving me a laugh this afternoon. What an odd thing to admire in the mirror a saggy downstairs - one wonders what type of drugs these women are on to think up such nonsense. My undercarriage is what it is - it is not going to pimped and pruned to satisfy some crazy idea.:rotfl:

Just don't get why really young women (in their 20's) go for men old enough to be their fathers or even grandfathers. The thought of saggy aged men makes me cringe. Maybe you are right that they are looking for someone to act as carers.

moneyistooshorttomention

Horace, Its the eternal "Money buys beauty exchange" I would say when an old man gets together with beautiful (much) younger woman. The vast majority of the time I cynically suspect that its more of a business deal than a relationship iyswim.

You do see articles of the VERY occasional someone gets together with MUCH older partner (of either sex) and its obvious its a "real" relationship...but the rest of the time.

Many years back I recall a dating agency I joined briefly. She was a bit of a laugh and blunt as they come. We had a couple of talks over time and I remember her telling me how she matched up Equivalents, as that was what people tended to expect by and large. One of her tales was about a young beauty without a brain in her head and how she had matched her with a rich older man and both of them were perfectly happy with it.

She placed people into 3 categories basically - you could call it 3 Star, 2 Star and 1 Star I guess and she had placed Young Beauty and Rich Old Man both in the 3 star category. But then I wasn't with that agency for long, after realising I counted as 2 star and men with careers (rather than jobs) seemed to have been placed in the 3 star category...so hence never finding anyone I wanted to go out with through her.

candygirl

Lol at today's posts about saggy lady parts! I watched a programme the other night, where a woman had botox on her G spot! It was called Big Rich Atlanta :eek:

ellie99

candygirl wrote: »

Lol at today's posts about saggy lady parts! I watched a programme the other night, where a woman had botox on her G spot! It was called Big Rich Atlanta :eek:

:eek: :rotfl:

Seriously, if the aliens are watching us, what are they thinking???
That's nuts!

And just what was the benefit of botox on that particular part?
You can't leave us hanging here, we might all want to try it :rotfl:

(Sorry Lavender Bees, we're really lowering the tone today :rotfl:)

springdreams

BookWorm wrote: »

Good morning


:bdaycake:


It's my birthday today - grab a slice of cake on your way through

BW xx

Belated birthday wishes BW - I hope you had a fab day.

BookWorm

Ellie - :rotfl: :rotfl: Just what I needed to read after my day :T That's sooo funny! :rotfl:

I struggled being back at work today - post bday blues I think - but I have cheered right up reading that madness


Springdreams - thank you. I had a lovely day

LavenderBees

Is fine by me, Ellie, has given me a laugh :rotfl:It seems there is no part of our bodies that can't be "improved"!

:eek:

My own take on the older man younger woman thing is that men don't agonise about the fact they are older/saggier etc. Still see themselves as young and handsome (even if they never were handsome! ). They also are looking for women who are not as likely to challenge them....

LB xx

springdreams

ellie99 wrote: »

Good point, I think we should try to be happy with our situation, whatever it is.

I feel quite hypocritical sometimes...
I'm reasonably happy on my own, I appreciate the peace and my own space and I'm very "there's nothing wrong with being single!"
Even if I was presented with the chance of a relationship I'm not at all sure I'd want it.

So...why don't I want my sons to be single? I want them to have what I had at their age...a happy marriage, children, a home. I can't help but feel they'll be missing out if they never have that. Maybe it's partly because I know that's what they want too.

So I'm letting the singlie side down by thinking that, I'm trying hard not to. (I don't say it out loud to them of course!)

I agree with your sentiments. I very much enjoy the single life for myself, more especially when I hear how much compromising the non-single people in my life are having to do and recalling how much I had to do when I was in a relationship.

But like you too, I also want my son to have a happy marriage, children and a home. In fact, although he is only 14, we often talk about when he has a family of his own one day.

I think you need to have been in a long term serious relationship before you can truly say you prefer to be single or in a relationship. You need to have experienced both in order to be able to choose. You can't very well say you prefer being single if all you have ever been is single.

ellie99

BookWorm wrote: »

Ellie - :rotfl: :rotfl: Just what I needed to read after my day :T That's sooo funny! :rotfl:

I struggled being back at work today - post bday blues I think - but I have cheered right up reading that madness

Well you know what to ask for for your birthday next year :rotfl: