OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

ellie99

mothernerd wrote: »

I am thinking we should celebrate being single everyday.

Good point, I think we should try to be happy with our situation, whatever it is.

I feel quite hypocritical sometimes...
I'm reasonably happy on my own, I appreciate the peace and my own space and I'm very "there's nothing wrong with being single!"
Even if I was presented with the chance of a relationship I'm not at all sure I'd want it.

So...why don't I want my sons to be single? I want them to have what I had at their age...a happy marriage, children, a home. I can't help but feel they'll be missing out if they never have that. Maybe it's partly because I know that's what they want too.

So I'm letting the singlie side down by thinking that, I'm trying hard not to. (I don't say it out loud to them of course!)

Horace

It is cold here too (I hate the cold because it makes my knees ache and click). I put my hooded fleece top on today and when I went to the shops I looked well 'ard because I wore my ski hat and pulled up the hood of my fleece and my jacket was on top:rotfl:

I figured it would snow at some point because there has been lying snow on the ground for a few days and this afternoon, the sky looked very dark with snow. It is snowing now and we have been told to expect about 5-8cms if we live in a low place or 10-15cms if we live in a high place - I am part way up a long hill. Good job I have plenty in (hopefully I will have some bread in the freezer because I only have 2 small rolls out) - I refuse to walk to the over priced S'pa shop.

I don't need to go out until Thursday afternoon because I have an appointment at the sausage factory (erm the dole office) to discuss the ending of my placement on the work programme.

I don't want more spendy days - LB's idea of a Singlies Day is much better. Some of my friends have started trying to match make but it just isn't going to happen because I am not interested. I am happy on my own and that's the way I like it - I have been mucked about with too often over the years by unreliable and indifferent men and now it is time for me to look after me.

Must admit that I did smile at something on the news yesterday - a lady in Scotland who is 102 (or a similar great age) who put her long life down to exercise and not having a man in her life because they just weren't worth the bother.

3forholidays

Happy Birthday Bookworm. Hope you had a lovely day so far.



Here is a bunch of flowers just for you!

Wi88le

ellie99 wrote: »

Good point, I think we should try to be happy with our situation, whatever it is.

I feel quite hypocritical sometimes...
I'm reasonably happy on my own, I appreciate the peace and my own space and I'm very "there's nothing wrong with being single!"
Even if I was presented with the chance of a relationship I'm not at all sure I'd want it.

So...why don't I want my sons to be single? I want them to have what I had at their age...a happy marriage, children, a home. I can't help but feel they'll be missing out if they never have that. Maybe it's partly because I know that's what they want too.

So I'm letting the singlie side down by thinking that, I'm trying hard not to. (I don't say it out loud to them of course!)

All you actually want is for them to be happy by the sounds of it, nothing hypocritical in that.

Winter_Phoenix

Happy Birthday, BookWorm! _party_

BookWorm

Thank you all for the lovely messages and well wishes I've had a lovely relaxed day and thoroughly enjoyed not being at work. Tomorrow morning will come hard!

I agree about 'our singlies' day being much nicer than the sound of the US one...

Horace

Got up fashionably late this morning - even sleeping through my alarm. I was mightily disappointed when I peered out of the curtains expecting to see inches of snow and seeing nothing despite it snowing hard when I went to bed last night:( It is a very grey day today.

Need to ring MnS - they have failed to pay me what they owe me and I have been removed from their system despite them saying that I would have access for 90 days. I am not a happy bunny. I am a very worried bunny because I haven't even had any dole money and my bank account is well and truly in the red:mad: Hopefully when I sign on, on Friday they will start paying me because I will be up the creek without a paddle if they don't because I will not be able to pay for my utilities and my other outgoings (food, life insurance, Saturday Fund [this pays me back for specs and dental appointments], contents insurance, tv licence etc). At least I have a freezer full of food and a cupboard full of tins - I also have an emergency litre of milk in the form of a longlife one.

Off now - need to make calls.

ellie99

Oh my goodness, just seen another funny reason it's good to be single!

Had This Morning on tv as I was doing the housework, and they had a lady on who was telling us that we really should be doing "v@gin@l facials" because apparently it gets all saggy as we get older!
To keep it looking nice (for who, how often do you sit and admire it? I hardly bother looking at my face in the mirror!) you need to put on the cream she's devised...having first steamed it for 15 minutes (and careful not to burn yourself :eek:)

Now I'm all for looking nice for your own self confidence, but do we really need *another woman* thinking up stuff like this, as though implying that we're not good enough as we are? There's got to be a line drawn somewhere.

I had to check the calendar to make sure it wasn't April fools day :rotfl:

So if you've got a saggy downstairs get the creams out!!!

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: re "saggy downstairs":rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Errrm...cant say the thought as to whether it might or might not be "saggy" had crossed my mind personally until I read an article about this a couple of weeks back....

I did read an article about this woman then I recall.

At that point my reaction basically boiled down to "Yeh...right...she's after younger men and maybe they think like that (or maybe not as the case may be.....) but the truth of the matter is that when women get to A Certain Age then men seem to expect to get together with women 10-20 years younger than them".

Speaking personally, I am not going to regard men about 10-20 years older than me and/or plug ugly as my "Equivalent Male".

Men in the same agegroup as me and the same Looks Level as me are my "Equivalent Male" (ie used to be attractive when younger and are still at least reasonably healthy).

If anyone thinks I am going to fancy men 20 years older than me and/or with beer bellies and/or with all sorts of health problems then its more "Wake up and smell the coffee...because they aren't my Equivalent and I just wont" as far as I am concerned. That being the case = why would I want to make sure A Certain Part of My Anatomy was all youthful/plumped-up/etc when they wouldn't be?

Doesn't mean to say I've dropped my stance of "I don't care what nationality/age group/sex/etc someone is if I'm looking for potential friends. Reason being = If they are a nice person and willing to have a bit of a "laugh and a joke" and be supportive if need be = they are a friend".

But, if I'm looking for a "male partner" then I want my Equivalent. Hence my personal view is that I've simply given up looking for a "male partner" some years back because my Equivalent Males are looking for "better than Equivalent Females" and I don't see why I should lower my standards to cope with men wanting to "get more than they give". I'm too fair-minded for that and I expect us to roughly "match". Naughty Money for "telling it like it is"...but why break the habit of a lifetime?:rotfl::o

That's just me I guess. But if I'm "early 60s/used to be attractive/am intelligent/etc" then I don't think its unreasonable to expect male partners to be "early 60s/used to be attractive/am intelligent/etc" in return. Anyone else = fine and if they are a nice person then I take attitude of "Lets be friends then if you're a nice person etc" but I'm very honest with myself and wouldn't expect to take on a man in their 80s/prostate problems/dementia possibly knocking at the door/etc as a "Potential MAN in my life" and would be quite open to "Yeh...maybe a friend"....but not a "Man in Life" role.

That may be just me....I know....:o

ellie99

I suspect it's more a case of this woman putting the idea in other womens' heads. They had 3 lady "guinea pigs" to try it out on tv, who seemed all for the idea, one lady saying we don't spend enough time on that area. I felt there were shades of the emperors new clothes :rotfl:

I don't think men are that fussy, they're just happy to have reached that, em, point, and have other things on their minds! I'm also not actually convinced we do go saggy, looks the same as ever to me :rotfl:

MITSTM, yes, you tell it how it is...most men seem to want a younger woman, doesn't mean we're happy with a much older man.
A few years ago I was browsing a dating site (never did sign up) and all the men around my age were looking for someone about 15 years younger than me. Perhaps part of it was that they had still not had children, so wanted someone young enough for that?
my last ex was only a year older than me, and good looking...didn't stop him being a lying b.....d though :rotfl:

I'd certainly rather be single than a carer to some old man, got enough relatives for that already!