Male Approaching 40 still trying to find "the one"

Janb360

Cant think of anything worse than someone full of cheeky banter. The word alone makes me cringe.

carefullycautious

stebiz wrote: »

You'll get used to it mate on here 90% women. Like being at the hairdressers. :rotfl:

You are irritating but so right grrrrrr I do feel so sorry for men nowadays as they seem totally confused as to what women want.

NWOIHTS

The other thing that's bugging me is even though I've started going out I've still not had any luck finding anyone, basicallly no connections, try to talk to girls and they just walk away, and that's been about 4 Months. I think these clubs and stuff are the wrong place, it's too noisy as well.

Just what is it you need to do to get a date - getting sick of this!

Tried going out, dating sites, different events, making new friends etc etc etc.

Feel like I've no options left or any choice in changing my situation.

VfM4meplse

NWOIHTS wrote: »

The other thing that's bugging me is even though I've started going out I've still not had any luck finding anyone, basicallly no connections, try to talk to girls and they just walk away, and that's been about 4 Months. I think these clubs and stuff are the wrong place, it's too noisy as well.

Just what is it you need to do to get a date - getting sick of this!

Tried going out, dating sites, different events, making new friends etc etc etc.

Feel like I've no options left or any choice in changing my situation.

Its probably the vibe you're giving off without even realising it.

Try and appear a bit less closed in everyday life, make time for friendly small talk with strangers and you'll find female interest in you goes through the roof.

As for this Meetup snog turning stalkerish, I seriously doubt it. If it is true perhaps you'll be a bit more discerning about who's throat you decide to stick your tongue down in future?

NWOIHTS

Person_one wrote: »

18 months later and I think my post 204 still sums it up.

You're approaching 40?

Why are you trying to chat up 'girls' in clubs?

It's not just 'chatting up girls in clubs' that I am doing, as you put it. Anyway there's always a mix of ages there 30-50 I don't see why 40 is a problem going to pubs/clubs?

What do you recommend then?

NWOIHTS

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Its probably the vibe you're giving off without even realising it.

Try and appear a bit less closed in everyday life, make time for friendly small talk with strangers and you'll find female interest in you goes through the roof.

As for this Meetup snog turning stalkerish, I seriously doubt it. If it is true perhaps you'll be a bit more discerning about who's throat you decide to stick your tongue down in future?

Not sure why you brought that up and I don't know what you would call being bombarded with messages and hassling to go on a date the very next day when we had only just had a kiss?

Person_one

NWOIHTS wrote: »

It's not just 'chatting up girls in clubs' that I am doing, as you put it. Anyway there's always a mix of ages there 30-50 I don't see why 40 is a problem going to pubs/clubs?

What do you recommend then?

Why are you referring to 30-50 year old women as 'girls'?

kittygirl20

NWOIHTS wrote: »

Not sure why you brought that up and I don't know what you would call being bombarded with messages and hassling to go on a date the very next day when we had only just had a kiss?

I don't know what's stalkerish about asking someone on a date that you've had a bit of a snog with?

I suppose you just weren't attracted to her?

NWOIHTS

kittygirl20 wrote: »

I don't know what's stalkerish about asking someone on a date that you've had a bit of a snog with?

I suppose you just weren't attracted to her?

It wasn't even so much about going on a date it was that when she seemed keen but couldn't commit to one night or the other and if I said myself that I was busy for a certain night she seemed to go in a huff and accuse me of dating someone else lol!

themull1

I met my first 'The One' and married him in 1991.
I met my second 'The One' and married him in 2009(with him 12 years first)
I met my third 'The One' and married him in 2013.....he was from POF!! Hopefully third time lucky, I was 43 when i met him, he was 51.