Sensitive first post

aridjis

fluffnutter wrote: »

Perhaps my comments about most women feeling completely OK with having an abortion will help people facing a difficult decision - that's certainly my intention. It's you that's hell bent on telling the OP she'll regret it, not me. Why did you remove your post - realised how it could be construed as unhelpful?

No, I removed it (and in any case it's been quoted by someone so people can see it anyway) because having seen your behaviour on this thread I thought it was a sensible thing to do. Are you always like this??

Fwiw I don't think the OP is a troll, it doesn't read like a troll post to me. I presume you have never been in that situation so it's all highly amusing to you. I sincerely hope it never happens to you Mr (Mrs?) keyboard warrior.

By the way, the bit on bold is an interesting interpretation on what I actually said..

FBaby

I tried for a baby with my husband for over 3 years with the desperation that comes with it. I feel pregnant quickly and we were over the moon but I quickly miscarried. It took about a year for my hubby's feelings to shift with growing doubts about having a baby. It took me 4 years but I can say that 4 years since the miscarriage and being heartbroken I am not sure I would carry on with a pregnancy if some kind of miracle happened now. Things do change. In my case the biggest factor is fatigue we are both very tired with very busy life and don't think we could cope as things are. We would need to make significant changes to our lives am not sure we would be prepared to make. I supposed part of the grieving and moving on process was to build new hopes and plans that excite us and the prospect of having to give them up now would be frightening. I really don't know what we would do if it happened but I can totally understand how one's current position in their life can be enough of a factor to decide not to go ahead with a baby if you happen not to be strongly against abortion. OP whatever you do god luck. No one can tell you if you'd be more likely to regret going ahead with the pregnancy or not.

aridjis

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Whilst disgusted with Fluffnutters orignal post about it being a troll - they have done nothing other then reply to your unhelpful posts with proper information whilst your posts are just what I can only describe as a mardy child stamping their feet and reporting it to mummy. (FYI you are wasting their time.)

Will you please take this to inbox if you must carry on as OP is dealing with a very senstive issue.

But proper information will come from people who have actually been through it, as well as 'extensive studies'. People come on here asking for opinions. I'm sorry if the tone of my replies doesn't sit well with some people, no offence was intended, but fluffnutter is trolling this thread, not the OP.

Note to self: never ever get involved on an abortion thread again. Might as well put a sign up saying trolls please post here.

barbiedoll

OP...why are you booked in for a "vacuum" (sorry to any sensitive souls), were you not offered a medical (2 x tablets) termination, as is usual at the early stages of pregnancy i.e. before 9 weeks?

This is much less traumatic and should have been your first choice. No-one should have shown you any "images" if you didn't want to see them either, you should consider reporting the healthcare professional who did so.

marisco_2

Sorry to hear you are facing such anguish at the moment OP. You could have a chat with someone at the CAB and ask them to explain what benefits you would be entitled to. It is not selfish at all to think long and hard about whether you really want to bring another child into the world or not. To do so and deeply regret it would be selfish. I wish you lots of luck whatever you decide is best for you as a family.

heartbreak_star

The image is of a blob of cells - which in actuality is what a 7-week embryo is. Where is the issue?

I do wonder why you weren't offered the medication rather than the aspiration?

Am glad the clinic has offered you counselling though. Take them up on it if you need to.

HBS x

fluffnutter

panagia wrote: »

But proper information will come from people who have actually been through it, as well as 'extensive studies'.

No. Proper information comes from asking lots of women not a few personal testimonies. That's why studies are relevant, not random postings on an internet forum.

BTW, I have 'actually been through it'. Am I allowed to comment now, miss? Or is it only your experiences that we should take notice of?

marisco_2

Person_one wrote: »

This is a 7 week ultrasound image. Did this really make you waver?

With all due respect, because I do value your point of view, it is possible on ultrasounds at this stage of pregnancy to see a baby's heartbeat. It would be odd if that didn't make someone waver. Better to do that now and thoroughly think through such an important decision than to rush into something and have any kind of regret.

heartbreak_star

marisco wrote: »

With all due respect, because I do value your point of view, it is possible on ultrasounds at this stage of pregnancy to see a babies heartbeat. It would be odd if that didn't make someone waver. Better to do that now and thoroughly think through such an important decision than to rush into something and have any kind of regret.

Also with all due respect, I can think of many women who would not waver, myself included.

HBS x

newcook

From what I remember when I was supporting a friend going through this decision, she was offered both the vacuum and the tablet procedure – originally she opted for the vacuum as it would be less traumatic emotionally/mentally (in her opinion – obviously everyone is different and deals with things differently) than the tablet which causes your body to miscarry (and give the cramps and a couple of weeks bleeding with it).