Sensitive first post

aridjis

fluffnutter wrote: »

Stop being melodramatic. Where have I said that it's 'not valid' to regret an abortion? That's utterly someone's own personal right and I fully acknowledge (and mentioned in my previous post) that there are women who feel that way. My point is simply that extensive studies have found that the majority don't.

There is a world beyond your own experience. Just because you feel a certain way doesn't mean that everyone else does.

Which I've already said in post 32. Care to actually read the thread before you pounce on it and start name-calling and accusing people of being trolls..?

'Extensive studies' haven't helped me or the women I know, for what it's worth. Please stop causing arguments on here. It's not helping anyone.

Tiredandstressed_3

Fluffnutter, whether you believe me or not does not concern me in the slightest as believe it or not I've got more important things to worry about.

Thanks to everyone else who has posted. I'm not taking this desision lightly an I am concerned how it will affect me mentally. The clinic have offered counselling which I will certainly take.
I had an internal scan to determine the dates and she showed me the image. This is what has made me waver a little on the desision. I keep turning it over in my mind, I'm not sleeping very well an hubby seems to just be brushing it under the carpet and not talking about his feelings at all.

He has said he is worried about the procedure and I have said I would rather go on my own which is what i'll be doing.

I am a strong person and I'm trying to be strong and push it from my mind as when I think about it all I just get upset which isn't going to help anyone.

Tiredandstressed_3

sassyblue wrote: »

Sadly not everyone thinks so. I'm sorry you regretted your experience but l ttc for 8 years l could get over emotional about these posts but l don't. What's important is every baby is born to a parent/family that will love them unconditionally and provide for them.



That said l don't wish to know the details.

Sorry I will edit that post.

aridjis

Good Luck Tiredandstressed, whatever decision you make.

The poster who seems so keen to make unhelpful comments and cause arguments on this thread has been reported.

HPoirot

Your reasons seem valid enough and 7-8 weeks is ok. If you decide to do it, just don't think about it afterwards. I didn't and I don't regret it.

Person_one

New poster, highly controversial subject, inviting posts trying to convince either way, claims to have been a member for years so should know that all abortion threads go the same way. The evidence for troll is strong here...

However, to the posters pushing adoption, it ain't what it used to be. The adopted child will gave the right to know exactly who you are and will likely turn up at 18 demanding to know why they weren't wanted, especially by a married couple in their thirties.

Not to mention the fact that pregnancy and childbirth are a risky game. You can like, die and stuff. Is it worth the risk to be a martyr to an embryo?

fluffnutter

panagia wrote: »

Which I've already said in post 32. Care to actually read the thread before you pounce on it and start name-calling and accusing people of being trolls..?

'Extensive studies' haven't helped me or the women I know, for what it's worth. Please stop causing arguments on here. It's not helping anyone.

Perhaps my comments about most women feeling completely OK with having an abortion will help people facing a difficult decision - that's certainly my intention. It's you that's hell bent on telling the OP she'll regret it, not me. Why did you remove your post - realised how it could be construed as unhelpful?

Kayalana99

panagia wrote: »

Good Luck Tiredandstressed, whatever decision you make.

The poster who seems so keen to make unhelpful comments and cause arguments on this thread has been reported.

Whilst disgusted with Fluffnutters orignal post about it being a troll - they have done nothing other then reply to your unhelpful posts with proper information whilst your posts are just what I can only describe as a mardy child stamping their feet and reporting it to mummy. (FYI you are wasting their time.)

Will you please take this to inbox if you must carry on as OP is dealing with a very senstive issue.

Kayalana99

Person_one wrote: »

Not to mention the fact that pregnancy and childbirth are a risky game. You can like, die and stuff. Is it worth the risk to be a martyr to an embryo?

For me, its just more about not wanting the baby but being unable to go through an abortion - hence pushing adoption.

I am not for or against abortions - I just couldn't do it.

geminilady

fluffnutter wrote: »

You said you've already got some.

I'm calling it - this is a wind-up.

I have seen lots of posts on the forum accusing people of being a troll or saying it is "a wind up" it is no help to genuine posters and may put off people wanting to help.Why not just ignore posts you do not believe are genuine