Universities and the myths

studentphil

brazilianwax wrote: »

You should be replacing that CV with your new one. The old one isn't going to put you on the top of the pile.

Send it everywhere.

I did email some of the consultants today saying I have an improved CV and should I email them it.

I will send it everywhere now!

brazilianwax

studentphil wrote: »

I did email some of the consultants today saying I have an improved CV and should I email them it.

Don't ask, SP! Send it to them and tell them to replace the old one!!!!

You need to get feedback from that day you did as well.

studentphil

brazilianwax wrote: »

Don't ask, SP! Send it to them and tell them to replace the old one!!!!

You need to get feedback from that day you did as well.

She said it was good I arrived early and started working early and that they were pleased I worked hard the whole time and I was cheerful and helpful.

brazilianwax

studentphil wrote: »

She said it was good I arrived early and started working early and that they were pleased I worked hard the whole time and I was cheerful and helpful.

That's great! Well done!

studentphil

Shame I did not get extra pay for doing lots of extra work through getting there early.

nearlyrich

My son is waiting to hear about a grad job, in the meantime he has been working as a temp for an agency and picking up a few hours with his student employer. If he came home tomorrow and said he was going to work in a low paid job to fill in until something better turned up I would be proud of him, it's exactly what I did when I needed a job.

First time when I left school I couldn't get the job I wanted so I worked in Asda, I ended up with a decent office job there.

Second time when my marriage ended and I had 2 babies to feed and clothe, I got a job as a temp putting invoices into envelopes, prior to the babies I had been a civil sevant earning 3 times what this job paid. Three weeks later I was taken on as a customer service advisor in the same company and within a year I was offered a sales job there. I would never have thought of applying for a sales job because I didn't think I would be any good at it as it turns out I am and I now have a dream job selling for a top brand. So you never know what the lower paid job can lead to.

As a parent I am concerned that my children are happy and fulfilled and I would never try to push them into anything they didn't want to do careerwise. Equally I would never rubbish their acheivements or make them feel they had let me down if they didn't get to the top of the heap in their chosen career.

If your parents care about you they will be proud that have already achevied more than the medical profession foretold for you and if they are still so involved in your life you need to make it clear that you are an adult and need to make decisions for yourself.

mikewebs

I agree with nealryrich - my kids' happiness will be paramount in my mind when they come and drop bombshells on me. But and I mean a big BUT I will attempt to make them see another side of the argument (if there is one).

On another point studentphil, why don't you try government departments for work - GCHQ are recruiting all sorts as are many other departments at the moment. If you want to do research - I would recommend you get a bit of real life experience before moving on to it because - if nothing else - it will make you realise that the land of Academia is not the only place you can succeed.

Honestly try something new - you may surprise yourself (and others who may not appreciate your dilemma)

Good luck

Barcode

I'm afraid that if I read all thirteen pages of this thread I might end up wanting to strangle myself with the mouse cord.

BWZN93

I dunno - but is this kid for real?? Ive never stumbled across one of his self-pitying threads before, although ive heard of them in passing.

Anyway - SP; rather than sitting there waiting to die and being all melancholy about the ills of the world post graduation - why not take a good hard look at your life. You have 2 (slightly barmy) parents who care about you in a kinda wierd way. You have some kind of disability and (with all due respect) clearly have mental issues. You have little in the way of friends and a social life, and want a job in local government, and your degree class is as yet undetermined.

So - You have 2 options:

1) You continue posting and winding people up with incessant whingeing, drive everyone crazy and die alone having never worked a day in your life because you let your parents control you, or

2) Get some independence. You sound (at the moment) like the classic 60yr old that never stopped living with mummy - do you want that for yourself?

* You look at breaking free from the restraints you have (parents - move out for christ's sake! I mean, really, if they make you feel bad then you are better off alone - I speak from experience),

* overcome the ones you have (so what if you are disabled? What CAN you do as opposed to what you cant do? Why should an employer give you extra credit - do you really deserve it? What have you done that proves that despite any physical difficulties you have, you have never let it hold you back?),

* get a job (it really doesnt matter what - the importance here is to prove to an employer you can use the skills you have, learn new ones, be reliable, be worth your pay packet)

* find some 'in real life' friends - these can sometimes be found at work unless you depress everyone else there to the point you get fired - these are often handy for those living alone as its these people that help you out when you need it without judging you,

* and sort out your head (really, I recommend anti-depressants, as well as a reality check)

* and work out a game plan to get the job you want once you have completed ALL of the previous points. Then IF you get an interview for a local govt job (because you have solid experience of being in a workplace) you can tell them all the things you have done additionally which show you are the best candidate for the job.

If you cant do no 2 then shut up and wait in your bedroom - for nothing to happen, ever. At the end of the day - most of us on this forum dont sit there ALL day EVERY day - we have lives. We can forget you exist, go on with our normal daily routines etc, generally experience life.

You on the other hand appear willing to let your life just go down the drain without fighting for it. It kind of !!!!es me off actually - I know people that are in much worse situations than you are in, absolutley in desperate situations, but they dont give in to whining and expecting the world to hand itself over on a stick. They have days when they are 'off', but they never talk the way you do. Its sickening. Sort yourself out.

Jo

nearlyrich

Barcode wrote: »

I'm afraid that if I read all thirteen pages of this thread I might end up wanting to strangle myself with the mouse cord.

No please don't, one suicidal graduate is plenty:rolleyes: only joking SP has now cheered up, he has a happy thread in the Arms.:T