Universities and the myths

cupid_s

studentphil wrote: »

Why did they go mad when I said I might have to get a poor job, why did they say take some time to look for something better if it is my head?

They do love me and still love me but they want the best for me and to meet their hopes they have for me.

Maybe they don't understand. They come from a generation like my parents where going to uni almost guaranteed a good job, because so few actually went. I've had to explain time and time again to my parents that DH wont be starting on 30k, and wont be on 50k by the time he's 40 as they seem to think. They imagine that with our degrees we'll be loaded within a few years and they're only just accepting now that we'll be lucky to be earning anywhere near the national average wage.

Is it your fault if they have unrealistic hopes for you?

Blacksheep1979

studentphil wrote: »

I have told my parents that I need to have more of a social life and to go out more as it is getting boring at home all day. They seem to think it is a fairly good idea.

I do not think I could go back to that as the people I used to work with have all left now so I don't know anyone to get me back in.

Well any new job you aren't going to know anyone are you?

I still reccomend McDonalds or similar, it will teach you a load of valuable skills and lessons and you will meet people and learn to interact with a large volume of different people.

Jersy

i got a 2.2, graduating next week

cant say i pushed myself to hard.. probably will regret it in the future

i rarely got 2.1s or 2.2s as % marks tho

i got 1.1s in almost all coursework, and 3rds in almost all exams

mainly cos i couldnt be arsed working for them

but.. in my opinion... 2.1/2.2 big deal


the way i see grades..
1.1... well done, but the majority of these people will then go to do masters
3rds... didnt care too much, drank

2.x... have a degree on their CV

notanothergreyhair

studentphil wrote: »

they want...me...to meet their hopes they have for me.

Sounds like they f*cked up themselves and are trying to live their life through you.

I am sure they do love you mate but it doesn't mean that their choices/advice/sentiments are always right. Blimey, if I took all the advice(sic) from my father(sic) then I would get f*cked up very quickly; my dad can tell you almost everything that is wrong in the world, not only that but he can fix it too...lucky me? pfft...my dad didn't achieve and he blames everyone around him but himself; do I listen to all his sh*t and end up being like him, or do I find my own solutions and work damn hard so that I don't become a miserable old tw*t?

Grow some b*llocks mate; there is a life out there for you and you have to take it.

studentphil

cupid_s wrote: »

Maybe they don't understand. They come from a generation like my parents where going to uni almost guaranteed a good job, because so few actually went. I've had to explain time and time again to my parents that DH wont be starting on 30k, and wont be on 50k by the time he's 40 as they seem to think. They imagine that with our degrees we'll be loaded within a few years and they're only just accepting now that we'll be lucky to be earning anywhere near the national average wage.

Is it your fault if they have unrealistic hopes for you?

I have tried to explain to them but they still think I should be able to get a bette job than a school leaver or in their views I have wasted all these years, which is true and you can not argue with. It is made harder that a lot of their friend's kids are going into city jobs and teaching jobs on 20k min.

Jersy

'Oh hes currently working in mcdonalds just to earn some cash, hes working ever so hard to get a job in his graduate area though. But unfortunately they arnt easy to get, but hell get there!

how true is this

mcdonalds will be greatful of the labour
individual will have money
and the public will have one less scrounger

unfortunatly, the world doesnt work like this

i "flipped burgers" as a student. no shame in it what so ever

i always paid my own way

liney

A job is a job is a job is a job.

The longer you are unemployed the less employable you become.

While you are working you can still be applying to other more suitable companies, whilst showing them that you actually have some sort of work ethic. Degree, or no degree you have to climb the ladder.

Ideally, you will spec your CV to all the employment agencies in your area as i have already suggested, and state you will do any office temp work, but i am guessing you still haven't done this.

studentphil

liney wrote: »

A job is a job is a job is a job.

The longer you are unemployed the less employable you become.

While you are working you can still be applying to other more suitable companies, whilst showing them that you actually have some sort of work ethic. Degree, or no degree you have to climb the ladder.

Ideally, you will spec your CV to all the employment agencies in your area as i have already suggested, and state you will do any office temp work, but i am guessing you still haven't done this.

I have got my Cv in at some agencies but they are packed with students on their books at the moment so there is not a right lot doing.

brazilianwax

studentphil wrote: »

I have got my Cv in at some agencies but they are packed with students on their books at the moment so there is not a right lot doing.

You should be replacing that CV with your new one. The old one isn't going to put you on the top of the pile.

Send it everywhere.

Blacksheep1979

and don't just send it to a few aganecies - get yourself to shops, supermarkets MCDONALDS and apply on the spot.