I hate going on holiday - OH conflict. HELP

Norma_Desmond

You know, I've gone off holidays too in the last 10 years - must be a sign of age.

We've no kids/animals to worry about, but I dread the hassle of even the journey to the airport which takes three hours alone.

The upside of living so remote is the fact that a staycation a couple of years on the trot is a delight.

DH feels the same and we always go away for a week or 10 days maximum - when we can be bothered.

I don't think you're being selfish as such, OP, just a bit stuck in your ways - and that's no offence intended.

I'd definately try and go for a shorter break that covers yours and your partner's interests - there's no law to say every holiday has to last 2 weeks.

Good luck!

FBaby

Just to say that I do love holidays but do tend to find that I am quite happy to go home after 1 week normally. However I didn't at all when we did a cruise last year. Actually I first thought i wasn't going to like it the first evening but it grew on me day by day and at the end absolutely loved it so much that I was surprise to feel so sad stepping off the ship. I could definitely have done a few more days and I suspect would have been happy with two weeks even if then would have been to go home.

paulineb_2

A week is more than enough for me when I go on holiday, last time I went abroad I only did 3 nights, to Spain, next year Im doing a week, but not everyone wants to do a two week holiday, I know some people who struggle to do 2 weeks and compromise on ten days.

onlyroz

Regarding cost, you'll probably find that it doesn't cost much more to go for a fortnight than it does to go for a week - because the bulk of the cost is the flights. So for me, it wouldn't be worth spending (e.g.) £3k on a week's holiday when I could spend £4k on a fortnight.

Also, looking back the things that most stick out in my mind are the holidays I have had and so, as long as you're not getting into debt, I think spending a significant amount of your disposable income on a holiday is not money wasted.

If you don't want to go on a long cruise, how about a "cruise and stay", where you spend a week on a cruise ship and then a week relaxing in the sun.

lostinrates

antw23uk wrote: »

I've had a look and it does look amazing ... Im more sold than I was and I've appreciated everyones time and comments so thank you. I am a pretty selfish person and most of the time I can keep this in check but when my stress levels rise (mentioning a holiday gets me going) I do get rather spoilt and brattish

Oh and we are both blokes, guys do ride horses as well :rotfl:

Thank you all. :T

its pretty normal to put ones own needs and wants (and those of the critters) first. I think your ability to look outside and review says the opposite of selfish actually.


I'm rather impressed. I find it hard to always put DH first , and I'd find turning around so quickly much harder! Most people would be defensive and reactive. I think you come out of this much better than the average person. Who is perfect?

tayforth

aileth wrote: »

Similar story with my grandparents. My grandmother was desperate to travel and explore the world, grandad refused point blank, and in the end I don't think they ever went abroad. Just before she passed away she said it was one of her greatest regrets in life and ended up resenting my grandad.

Then after she passed, my grandad all of a sudden started travelling around the world. My mum never really forgave him.

Oh, how sad. :(:(

aileth

arbroath_lass wrote: »

In contrast, my grandparents were the same except my grandmother went on holiday with friends instead, leaving grandfather at home. It didn't seem to do them any harm.

If I remember correctly, my mum suggested endlessly that she go with her dancing friends (a lot of them weren't short a bob or two and owned villas in Spain etc) or that she even come on holiday with us, but unfortunately he was very much in control of the purse strings and she wouldn't have been given anything to take, and even when you told her that doesn't matter she refused as it 'wouldn't be the same without him' regardless of how he acted.

A very sad tale and a stiff reminder not to let one person give you regrets.

joansgirl

I hate going on holiday with a vengeance. It's not an issue now but when my husband was alive we used to go for 1 week a year and I hated every minute of it. I tried really hard to be positive about it all as it was what he wanted but I think he knew how much I disliked it. I can't help it, I just don't like being away from home. I have been abroad and found it really difficult. I don't like foreign food and lived on McDonalds for a week.


One of the many, many benefits of living alone is that I don't have to go anymore, although I would if it meant I could have him back.

System

Surely you don't begrudge him 2 weeks out of the year? Theres a lot of things I do for my husband that I don't particularly enjoy but I do it for him.

Person_one

joansgirl wrote: »

I hate going on holiday with a vengeance. It's not an issue now but when my husband was alive we used to go for 1 week a year and I hated every minute of it. I tried really hard to be positive about it all as it was what he wanted but I think he knew how much I disliked it. I can't help it, I just don't like being away from home. I have been abroad and found it really difficult. I don't like foreign food and lived on McDonalds for a week.

Technically, McDonald's is foreign food.