I hate going on holiday - OH conflict. HELP

Stephb1986_2

My OH is like this and doesn't like holidays he doesn't like the "package holiday" style but doesn't mind the do it your own type holiday. I think it was because his parents always got badly drunk on holiday and argued.

My folks have property in Bulgaria and we go most years with them for a week in Bulgaria and have a cracking time, go the cinema etc etc

We went to New York in 2010 which he has said it was his best holiday every by far! So much so we've booked it for our honeymoon in November. I do feel that he is a bit selfish not wanting to go on holiday as I love seeing new places and mooching around where he's not that keen.

But we both compromise and it's worked for us so far. At the beginning of our relationship I just use to go away with my folks and leave him at home I'm glad it's not like that now.

Steph xx

Rottensocks

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Its hardly a wasted life if they didn't want to do these things, everyone wants different things.

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Oh of course! In the situation I was describing however, one would have been well up for even just a week in Spain, while the other steadfastly refused. I feel sad that they scrimped and saved and went without and never even got to try these things. Even just once. And yes, I do think that's a waste of all that hard work and effort.

BUT, its not appropriate to the OP as they do go abroad together.

I totally get why you wouldn't want to leave the animals - I have them myself and feel racked with guilt upon leaving them, even though they are the most pampered of pooches. I would find two weeks a bit long maybe.

So, the cruise will be a grand and a half. Its a lot of money, but what are your annual stable fees for instance? (I know my bloody dogs cost an arm and a leg over the year when it all adds up).

On a cheeky note, maybe your OH just fancies two weeks away where you don't smell of stables?

PolishBigSpender

It's only two weeks, I think you should compromise and go with your husband. Come on, it's only 14 days, what does it matter in a grand scheme of things?

Pollycat

antw23uk wrote: »

I do think its a waste of money .... and that might sounds strange but I think of all the things at home that grand and a half could be spent on .... I mean 14 days and over a thousand pound gone ... just gone! Don't you think its a waste?

I think I'm being selfish and then that annoys me because you know, actually, I do have a say in this as well ..... :mad:

I think I will need to compromise and just fake enthusiasm

But the money hasn't just 'gone', has it?

It's paid for an experience, it's paid for food that you probably wouldn't have tasted, it's paid for memories.

So no, I don't think it's a waste and probably your OH doesn't think it's a waste either.

But you clearly do think it's a waste.

Is your OH aware of how you feel about holidays?

I think you both need to sit down and discuss how you feel and come to some compromise.

I would not recommend 'faking' enthusiasm though.

Engagedtobaz

For me personally cruising is my perfect holiday, but we are all different.

Why not look at some of the trips that are offered, the last one that we did you could go horseriding on the beach. That is my dream to gallop in the waves, unfortunately im too fat to ride these days, but that is another story.:eek:

What I am saying is maybe look at some of the things offered on the cruise and maybe if you are doing some of your interests too it might be something that you can compromise on.:)

rachie_2011

I'll go on holiday with your OH if you like? I could do with a two week, all you can eat holiday in the sun.

getmore4less

Let him go on his own or find a trip that can be split into 2 single weeks.

I suspect that as you don't like holiday you leave it up to him to choose things and just go along.

What about researching somewhere you can go riding or has other things that will interest you, he can find things to do that he likes while you go off, then spend the rest of the time together.


Keeping horses is not cheap( I know come from horsey family).

bylromarha

Another one here kicking you up the backside.

Indulge HIS passion.

He probably doesn't particularly enjoy you spending so much time sorting/talking about/riding the horse. Does he whinge or tell you to get rid of the horse? No, he smiles and indulges you because he loves you. He knows you enjoy it, so he lets you get on with it every day and probably tries to show interest here and there.

Whilst we aren't horse/holiday people we are photography/eating out people. He puts up and has learnt to enjoy going out for food through the years. I have put up with and learnt to tolerate (and not whinge again) his taking the camera most places we go.

Marriage is about compromise and enjoying life together. You enjoy life daily in your home setting - he cannot indulge his passion daily like you can. So let him have some time doing what HE really wants to do. Go on the 2 week cruise, smile and fake it til you make it. Allow him to have a fantastic time doing what he loves to do for 15 days this year.

antw23uk

I've had a look and it does look amazing ... Im more sold than I was and I've appreciated everyones time and comments so thank you. I am a pretty selfish person and most of the time I can keep this in check but when my stress levels rise (mentioning a holiday gets me going) I do get rather spoilt and brattish

Oh and we are both blokes, guys do ride horses as well :rotfl:

Thank you all. :T

Rottensocks

Heheh. Next year, tell him you fancy a Lippizaner riding holiday or summat ;-0