Teens and sex in the house

Person_one

jellyhead wrote: »

I was allowed to have long term boyfriends sleeping over, if my parents knew them well.

I'd allow the same for my children too ... having said that, my 17 year old's girlfriend hasn't stayed here yet - but 17 still seems a bit young to me ... I wonder if I'll still be saying that when he is 26 :eek::rotfl:

My parents let my first serious boyfriend stay over, we were both 16. No harm befell us. Sex is normal, natural, it's an important part of a loving relationship. 17 seems like a perfectly normal age to be having sex as long as they're well informed about how to be safe and sensible.

Person_one

littlepinkstars44 wrote: »

No they don't, but it is their house, their rules and to be honest I haven't been brought up like that. None of my friends ever had boyfriends/girlfriends stay over when we were younger either, so it's not something I've ever actually seen or known about happening...it's just not the done thing around here. My friend got engaged at Christmas, her fiancee is not allowed to stay overnight at her parents either.

It might be their house, but it's your home too.

littlepinkstars44

claire16c wrote: »

I think my parents would find it weird that I didn't feel comfortable enough to bring a partner of 3 years back!

There is a difference between coming back to the house and sleeping over. He is here quite a lot actually, but I would just never even imagine him sleeping over here....it is just so alien to me! lol I suppose it's all how we were brought up, each to their own lol!
My brother is 10 years younger than me, and he will have the exact same rules as I did as a teenager. He does have a girlfriend of 6 months, we have all met her..but again there is no way she would be allowed to stay here or him stay over at her house.

littlepinkstars44

Person_one wrote: »

My parents let my first serious boyfriend stay over, we were both 16. No harm befell us. Sex is normal, natural, it's an important part of a loving relationship. 17 seems like a perfectly normal age to be having sex as long as they're well informed about how to be safe and sensible.

Just my personal opinion, but to me that is just wrong on so many levels. I stand by how my parents raised me, and will be doing the same with my own children one day...each to their own I guess.

Person_one

littlepinkstars44 wrote: »

Just my personal opinion, but to me that is just wrong on so many levels. I stand by how my parents raised me, and will be doing the same with my own children one day...each to their own I guess.

Can you explain why it's wrong? Do you think sex is wrong?

meritaten

I find this so strange! I am getting on years, be 60 this year, but, perhaps BECAUSE I was a teen in the seventies I am more broadminded?
I never objected to my teenage kids boyfriends/girlfriends who had been introduced and I knew stay over. sleeping in their bed. I knew my kids were having sex - of course they were. and I preferred them to be safe in my house.

littlepinkstars44

Person_one wrote: »

Can you explain why it's wrong? Do you think sex is wrong?

I don't think sex is wrong, but don't believe teenagers and children should be having sex, especially right under their parent's noses. I can't pin point exactly why, it's just not the normal thing to me and my family. It just feels wrong to be allowing two teenagers the means and freedom to be having sex. Perhaps it's because I've been brought up catholic, as has my partner, friends and family.
As I've said if it works for you or your family fair enough, this is just my personal opinion.

thorsoak

It's probably a generation thing - but I don't think that I like the idea of "having sex" - but making love is a completely different thing.

paulineb_2

Catholics do have sex as well and also before marriage with some couples.

My view is, its up to the parents, if they don't want their teenagers having sex in their home, their decision, but if they are fine with that I see nothing wrong about it.

You ban people from having sex under your roof, they'll generally do it somewhere else.

paulineb_2

littlepinkstars44 wrote: »

I don't think sex is wrong, but don't believe teenagers and children should be having sex, especially right under their parent's noses. I can't pin point exactly why, it's just not the normal thing to me and my family. It just feels wrong to be allowing two teenagers the means and freedom to be having sex. Perhaps it's because I've been brought up catholic, as has my partner, friends and family.
As I've said if it works for you or your family fair enough, this is just my personal opinion.

Some people are parents in their teens, my mum had me at 19.