Would this bother you?

poet123

paulineb wrote: »

So shes to leave her husband and move back in with her parents and go back to work full time and all will be well yes?

And why not post on the net about things that are troubling her? People do it every single day on these forums. None of us need to read or respond if we dont care for the subject matter.

Sometimes people just want a bit of a sound off and thats it done.
And if its not done and the threads keep coming well maybe its just a longer period of time that things are challenging them for, doesnt mean they need to uproot themselves and divorce their partner.

Or I think the divorce rate would be through the roof:rotfl:

It does seem a bit drastic.:rotfl:

notanewuser

brunettifan wrote: »

Home to your parents, who could help you look after your daughter as it seems from your posts that it is quite a strain when you have to do it single handedly whilst your partner works away.

I haven't spent so much as a night at my parents' since I left home at 17 (19 years ago). I've recently (23rd December) had a medical issue diagnosed which was the reason that DH being away for 3 months full time this summer was harder for me to deal with. I'm now undergoing treatment and feeling much better already.

brunettifan wrote: »

Then you could go back to your highly paid career.

If I wanted to do that I would, but that's not what we want for our daughter.

brunettifan wrote: »

The Santa tale is yet another thing that seems to irk you. There do seem to be a lot of things that are not as you would wish them to be in your life. So, rather than post on the net about them cut them out root and branch, the root seems to be your partner.

DH and I are in complete agreement re Santa (and many other parenting issues). He is being much more supportive of family life and is enjoying it. He now sees that his family aren't quite as golden as he's always believed them to be, and is as cross (if not more) about this stuff being passed around and lost as I am.

brunettifan wrote: »

I hope I am not being too blunt but as an impartial reader of your threads that is how it appears to me. You are not happy with your lot, so make radical changes.

You know how people are more likely to post bad reviews than good? That's probably how I've used these boards over the past year or so. I'm not "unhappy with my lot", I am trying to see and understand alternative viewpoints and compromise for the benefit of DH and DD. But as you're only hearing my side of the story it is probably a bit biased!

peachyprice

Nicki wrote: »

Am just commenting on the ructions you will cause if you decide to grab your baby equipment back from family who are still using it when you have no current need for it is all.

See that's the bit I just don't get, it's like taking it back out of spite.

Nicki

peachyprice wrote: »

See that's the bit I just don't get, it's like taking it back out of spite.

Surely the OP wouldn't do that, peachyprice

notanewuser

Nicki wrote: »

You are massively missing the point which is how your in laws will perceive you not how you paid for what and what it was used for. I couldn't care less how much you earn or earned or who paid for what. Am just commenting on the ructions you will cause if you decide to grab your baby equipment back from family who are still using it when you have no current need for it is all.

I'll try and keep this simple.

A+C's parents would have been done with the baby clothes 3-6 months ago.

E's parents never used the TENS machine. Their baby arrived 7 months ago. I still don't have that back, and when I've asked they've told me they "don't know" if they still have it. Well where the f*@k is it then?! I don't really want to fork out another £80 if they have it but just haven't located it. DH would like them to get the message that if they borrow something they should look after it and return it once finished with it!

We really don't want the toy back. We probably don't want the car seat back either, but that should be our choice, not B+D's parents. I suspect they'll have finished using it already, so will mention it the next time we see them. At the very least the car seat bases (there are 2, DH has reminded me) should come back in perfect condition.

And from then on they can all sort themselves out for baby stuff.

notanewuser

peachyprice wrote: »

See that's the bit I just don't get, it's like taking it back out of spite.

:huh:

Who said I was taking anything back?!

mountainofdebt

notanewuser wrote: »

He now sees that his family aren't quite as golden as he's always believed them to be, and is as cross (if not more) about this stuff being passed around and lost as I am.

So let him deal with the issue - that way it isn't you that causing waves.

notanewuser

Person_one wrote: »

It would never occur to me that somebody would be ok with one set of nephews/nieces having use of a toy but not a second set from the same side of the family.

Had we known that 5 babies would be born within 2 years of DD we may have thought twice about it and either given the things to them or not lent anything.

In the same way that were I to borrow my dad's car I wouldn't let all the neighbours use it, we didn't expect our stuff, expressly loaned, to be disrespected and treated as if it had been given away.

DH is severely allergic to cats. Youngest brother has a huge dog and 5 cats. The fabrics aren't removable, so that toy can't come back to our house now. We weren't told it was going there, so we didn't get the option to request that it didn't because of that. As it's now there, we don't want it back so they can let the dog/cats/baby do their worst.

notanewuser

mountainofdebt wrote: »

So let him deal with the issue - that way it isn't you that causing waves.

He will. I didn't think I'd posted anything about me doing anything specifically...........??

mountainofdebt

notanewuser wrote: »

He will. I didn't think I'd posted anything about me doing anything specifically...........??

I'm not being awkward or anything but I really don't see why you've posted.

Both you and your OH believe that his brothers have taken the urine by inter-lending your stuff and are annoyed by it, to the extent that he will be saying something.

Now if it was a case of you getting annoyed and him not seeing what the problem was or vice versa then I could understand why you've asked us for our opinions - but as you are both singing from the same hymn sheet why ask us?