So confused......

xbrenx

Oh my goodness. The bit about walking behind him is soooo wrong, that goes back to the days of women being lesser beings I believe. Hubby and I use that as a joke occasionally if one or other isn't keeping up but in your case he is completely degrading you by requesting you do that.

Please tell me you're asking for confirmation that you need to leave this man. He will drag you down so badly, don't let him, hold your head high and move on before you feel you're trapped.

I'm so sorry.
Hugsssss x

lika_86

This is not a normal relationship. Why have you stayed with this man?

He is lying to control you to his advantage. Has nobody pointed this out or suggested it to you before?

Stop funding him.

Kynthia

He must be REALLY charming and good looking a as why else would you have been with him this long??? Read your post again and ask yourself if your friend/sister/mum was dating him what would you suggest? Does he ever put you first over himself......ever?

bluebeary

im suprised youve lasted fifteen months, i wouldnt have bothered with fifteen days, get rid of and find someone normal

Naya

McKneff wrote: »

Tell him to do one........#


How can you possibly be attracted to someone who treats you so badly and has absolutlely no respect for you.


He's a bully and a manipulator......


See the light for goodness sake, looks like you have wasted a lot of time on him...

That's what I have been thinking too but I always have this bad habit of giving people chances even though they do not deserve it....


I wanted to have somebody else opinions in case I was mad or something....Thanks that's exactly what I am going to do.... start the new year fresh....on my own....

candygirl

Omg are you seriously considering stayin g with him?He sounds like a complete sociopath!Get rid asap x

Naya

Dunroamin wrote: »

He is treating you like a mug and, quite frankly, that is how you're acting. Sorry.

Thanks for the kick ....I need to get myself out of it....

paulineb_2

Oh and its easy to say when you arent in it, I do appreciate that, I spent 9 years of my life in two miserable relationships with people who were mentally abusive towards me. I got to the point in the second one, that I was literally so ground down with the abuse (mostly insults about how awful I was), that I wanted to leave him but just didnt have the bottle to do it.

I literally woke up one day, phoned him and said, shove off and dont ever contact me again, knowing that he wouldnt because that would involve a bit of effort on his part, more effort that he was prepared to make.

The absolute final straw for me was when I was in the middle of a horrendous employment tribunal with an ex employer, he sent a valentines card to a workmate. My birthday is the day before Valentines, I got the square root of diddly squat

Get out, before his behaviour has you questioning yourself, I got the all my fault with both of these men, everything was my fault, they were perfect etc.

You dont need to be treated like that, by anyone. Get out and yes it might hurt, but when I left the second relationship (the first one left me, twice, long story and caused all sorts of mayhem for years afterwards), I didnt feel half as bad as I thought I would. I held off because I thought, I'll be so upset. I wasnt, I was just relieved. I used to go home to my flat at night, do what I wanted, eat what I wanted, dress how I wanted (my dress sense wasnt good either according to Mr Gok Wan, I dressed apparently like a badly dressed lesbian whatever that is).

And had no one nagging me. Absolute bliss. Dont make the mistake I did, dont spend years of your life with someone who is basically unhinged and a ratbag to boot. Life is better than that or should be.

Bella73

I'm with Pauline.

Suggest you read the first five points back to yourself. What would you advise a friend to do.

I would advise running for the hills as fast as your feet will carry you! He sounds like a con artist to me.

Never heard of a flat where you cannot have visitors unless of course it's his wife who doesn't appreciate his girlfriends visiting. You've not met his family in 15 months because you can't behave. What are you a toddler?

Servants used to have to walk behind their Masters.

No holding hands when out means he is probably scared you will be seen as a couple which again screams of his wife might find out to me.

He sounds utterly awful, and you sound like a nice normal person.

Get out now while you still have your sanity.

Hermia

He sounds like a total loony - run away! And when you have done that have a break from relationships. The fact that you went along with his crazy demands suggests you need to work on your confidence and learning how normal healthy relationships work.