So confused......

Maz

Is the key one that would be used for access to your home? If so, it might be easier just to change the lock for that particular key then he can't use that to hassle you?

southoftheriver

My god this man is unhinged. Change locks. Talk to your work explaining this !!!!!!! is hassling you. Tell friends so they can support you. DO inform police if his threats carry on.

Good luck

Any

Just change the locks. I would do it anyway. He is a nutter, seems like he is capable of anything...
Change the locks and do not accept any sort of contact ever again. Don't pick up the phone, don't reply to texts, even change you number if possible..
That is the only way you will ever get rid of this man.

Ich_2

Work out what he owes you, next time he contacts you (and you are daft enough to talk to him), tell him the amount and that you are considering suing him for it unless he leaves you alone, also that you are considering an injunction against him! Include the costs of changing locks etc.

Girlzmum

Change the locks, change your number and block his number. There is no need for him to contact you so he doesn't need your details.

One thing screamed at me reading your original post, that man is married. He won't let you meet his family, won't walk with you in public, won't allow you into his flat, gets you to pay for everything so there is nothing missing from his bank account that his wife can check. RUN as fast as you can.

I witnessed my mothers self esteem in the ground after almost 20 years of marriage to my dad, it was disgusting. She completely believed she was worthless, stupid and all the crap he told her that she was. It took her a long time to have any faith in herself and as for the stupidness - I was with her last year when she graduated as a nurse at the age of 57 and I couldn't be prouder of her.