So confused......

paulineb_2

Reams wrote: »

Of course but then please ignore the idiot.

I didnt respond, they are on ignore the post you just picked up on was me responding to someone else.

Mrs_Z

Naya,

I want to turn this around and ask you - what is SO wonderful about this man that makes you want to stay with him?

Georgiegirl256

Oh, I came up with that straight away, just didn't see your post straight away, there's a difference!

Pollycat

People
please let's ignore the stupid person on this thread and get back to commenting/advising the OP on her situation if we still feel the need to do so.

She hasn't logged in since 5:54 pm on 21/12.

Laurajo_2

I hope she comes back if she needs support.

No matter how much of an a-hole your partner is, it's always scary going into the unknown. It's also very easy to be on the outside looking in and it's all too easy to overlook warning signs as 'quirks' until you are in too deep to walk away easily.

Naya

Hi everyone


I'm still there, read the posts though not logged in and thanks so much for your support...I've been keeping low lately because there has been some developments - some good but mostly bad. I've told him how I felt and it ended up with a massive argument... He has apologised and asked me to help him, which I find hard to swallow as to me it is just the calm before the storm. I am staying put though and not giving in.


Been going out with friends and doing things round the house to keep myself busy....

Naya

Arose wrote: »

Took you a long time to come up with that!

Instead of being nasty to people, would it not be better for you to keep your thoughts to yourself unless it is your way of entertaining yourself.

Triker

Naya wrote: »

Hi everyone


I'm still there, read the posts though not logged in and thanks so much for your support...I've been keeping low lately because there has been some developments - some good but mostly bad. I've told him how I felt and it ended up with a massive argument... He has apologised and asked me to help him, which I find hard to swallow as to me it is just the calm before the storm. I am staying put though and not giving in.


Been going out with friends and doing things round the house to keep myself busy....

Please don't give in, he's set the pattern for your relationship, you will be co-erced into becoming controlled under whatever circumstances.
Stay strong, stay safe, stay single.

Richard53

Couldn't put it better than Andy's post 83.

Naya, you owe this guy nothing, not even courtesy. Dump him by whatever means necessary (phone, text, a friend) and then refuse all contact. If you let him talk to you at length, he will try to get you back, he will make promises that 'it will all be better', he will try to persuade you that he is perfect and it's all your fault really. You sound like the kind of person who might fall for that approach and be persuaded to carry on with him. (I can say that because I have done the same, and it was a disaster.)

Get out now and don't look back. His behaviour is not normal, and you are being abused. I'm angry about it, and I've never even met him.

Keep us posted.

bagpussbear

Naya wrote: »

Hi everyone


I'm still there, read the posts though not logged in and thanks so much for your support...I've been keeping low lately because there has been some developments - some good but mostly bad. I've told him how I felt and it ended up with a massive argument... He has apologised and asked me to help him, which I find hard to swallow as to me it is just the calm before the storm. I am staying put though and not giving in.

Been going out with friends and doing things round the house to keep myself busy....

Just wanted to say that I think you've done the right thing. Don't have any more contact, and if he wants help then perhaps he should seek help from a counsellor, not you - his behaviour is not by any means within the spectrum of normal from what you've told us, and you would be miserable if you decided to give the relationship another go to help him.