Silly Silly Daddies!!!

KiKi

I feel sorry for the daughter. Being 14 is tough emotionally, and things get dramatised, even unintentionally. I don't think she sounds spoilt or bratty.

She was hanging out for a card from her dad, clearly longing to hear from him. When it arrived, it was a card for a very young child. Whether it was meant to be ironic or not, I imagine what she felt was that dad didn't care enough or know her enough to get a card that meant something. That's what it sounds like to me.

But I agree that mum can help to fix things, by putting some perspective on it. I don't think the 14 year old is being spoilt, though. When I was a teenager I remember being quite easily hurt if someone I knew loved me was really thoughtless. And there are plenty of posters on here who start threads about their other halves being thoughtless.

I think there's probably more to it than one card.

Tiddlywinks

Spendless wrote: »

'Silly, silly Daddy' is a reference to what the narrator says about stuff the Dad character does on the Peppa Pig cartoons.

You can't be into the show, if you hadn't realised - so maybe you wouldn't appreciate a card with Peppa on?

You only have to look at other OP's posts to know that she constantly talks of her 'monsters' and calls herself a 'mummy'... one of her threads was a panic over marking one of her daughter's tops in the wash and being an 'ex mummy' when her daughter found out.

Even her profile refers to her being a single mum of three monsters.... bear in mind that the oldest son has already left home, the oldest daughter is 17 whilst the daughter in question is 14.

I feel the OP needs to accept that the 'children' are not little kiddy winkies anymore and accept that one day she will have to establish her own identity as her own person.

Mojisola

Spendless wrote: »

'Silly, silly Daddy' is a reference to what the narrator says about stuff the Dad character does on the Peppa Pig cartoons.

You can't be into the show, if you hadn't realised - so maybe you wouldn't appreciate a card with Peppa on?

But the OP - and presumably her youngest daughter - used the reference so it can't be that long since the programme was watched in their house.

neverdespairgirl

claire16c wrote: »

My dad is brilliant but he'd often forget how old we were for a second, didn't mean anything!

My mother said her father didn't ever seem to acknowledge that she was over the age of about 12, except for one occasion, when she was 7 months pregnant with her 4th child. Then he said, "aren't you getting too old for all of this?"

She rated that as about the least helpful thing anyone's ever said to her! She was 37, so not exactly pension age, but more to the point, it was a teeny bit late to change her mind.....

Spendless

Mojisola wrote: »

But the OP - and presumably her youngest daughter - used the reference so it can't be that long since the programme was watched in their house.

The OP did, but neither of mine have watched it and they are 13, almost 14 (boy) and 10yo girl. I don't recall coming across it when mine were young and not because the youngest outgrew stuff early, she liked Dora until she was almost 8!

I know the phrase though because I read posts on here and other media sites and have friends with younger kids. My son certainly wouldn't know what I was on about, my daughter might.

So, no I wouldn't presume it's a throw-back to when Peppa was watched in the house - not unless the OP comes back and tells us this was the case and throws more light onto the situation.

ETA - I've just tried it out in my house, asking what cartoon you'd hear this said on. DH said 'no idea what you're on about, never heard of it' and DD said 'Dunno, Charlie and Lola?'.

pinkshoes

Rebecca01 wrote: »

I think in this case, its the lack of thought that is what is upsetting her.

Does he not know his own child enough that a 14 year old wouldnt like Peppa?
I just read this to my OH. He has two daughters that are 13 and 10. He replied " what a dummy".

I can see what she is upset and it goes deeper than just a card.

Still sounds like ex-bashing to me!

My inlaws see their 3 year old grandson frequently, I've told them frequently that he likes duplo. So for his birthday they got him an inflatable football goal (we have a dog so we can't use it and don't have the space) and the hungry hippos game, which would be fab, except my son is really sensitive to loud noises, which they are well aware of.

Their heart was in the right place, and I helped my son write a nice thank you letter.

Some people are just not good at knowing what to buy!

Mupette

Sorry mum but i think its you getting upset that the father of your child, may have got the wrong card, have you not taught your children to be grateful to receive a card, silly daddy and you may not talk, well that's between you two, but if you both refuse to communicate to each other how on earth is he to know?

mountainofdebt

I thought when the OP used the term 'silly silly daddies' she was talking in baby talk.....didn't know it had anything to do with peppa pig

*max*

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

You still call your children 'monsters' - even your adult child who has flown the nest?

You refer to a 14 yo as your 'baby'?

You call your ex 'silly, silly daddy'?

Your whole post made me feel slightly nauseous - get some perspective!

This! Cringe fest. And "my baby is upset and I can't fix it!"....

She received a (most likely ironic) peppa pig card from her father a little late, she didn't lose a limb. Dear god some people have problems...

One word: PERSPECTIVE.

balletshoes

Own_My_Own wrote: »

I can see why she would be upset.

It would seem that, as usual, most of the posters on here have forgotten what it was like to be 14.

It is a difficult time. They are not children and not adults. They bodies and minds are developing and hormones are setting in.

To a young person of that age it could easily look like their father made no effort and just picked up any old card.

But as I have said, the posters on here obviously all sailed though those years without any heartache and became perfect condersending adults with perfect teenage children.

All true - but the OP can help fix this, there have been suggestions already in the thread about how she can do this.

Its a card - thats all. A piece of printed paper sent because its expected at this time of year.