Silly Silly Daddies!!!

KxMx

I don't think a peppa pig card is appropriate as a joke even for a 14 yo girl myself.
I've been there and worn the t shirt when it comes to "silly daddy", yes mine made token efforts from time to time but it's the indifference and the complete misunderstanding of me which really hurts.
Just because mine makes a token effort does not mean the indifference is ok.... as some with no contact with their father have suggested...

Acc72

hawk30 wrote: »

Unlike some other posters, I can see why she would be upset.

At 14 she probably considers herself a woman and he has sent her a card for little girls. teenage girl.

They are hardly known for being the most rational of creatures.

I can completely understand the daughter getting upset, and I don't think that anybody has said otherwise.

The comments have been more on the OP's reaction.

I understand that a 14 year old is not a grown up and "hardly the most rational of creatures", however the OP / mother is a grown up and could possibly handled the situation with a bit more realism.

Person_one

peachyprice wrote: »

Poor sod probably thought he was being cute and funny.

It sounds like the kind of thing my OH would do for our daughter, because she will always, always, be his baby girl. Difference is, our girl would laugh about it, not throw a tantrum.

I agree with this.

I think its very very unlikely that he thought a 14 year old would still be into Peppa Pig, and he was probably trying to be ironic or nostalgic and he actually put a fair amount of thought into it. I've had My Little Pony cards and presents as a teenager and an adult because I loved it so much as a kid.

If she got the wrong end of the stick on opening it and started to get upset, you should probably have stepped in and helped her to realise the intent, laughed about it, not let her go into that spiral of teenage grumpiness from which there is no return!

krlyr

hawk30 wrote: »

Unlike some other posters, I can see why she would be upset. At 14 she probably considers herself a woman and he has sent her a card for little girls. From her reaction at it not arriving, it seems she was looking forward to this card. Perhaps she felt it was a symbol of love from him and its arrival as a child's card showed how little he cared about her. This is all supposition, but she is a teenage girl. They are hardly known for being the most rational of creatures.

Me too. I get the feeling OP is upset because her daughter is upset - and if the daughter's reason for being upset seem a little irrational, as you say, she's a teenage girl!

I was 16 when my parents split up and I remember my first Christmas or birthday afterwards, my dad sent me some real 'punk'y gifts - a "Punk duck" (those themed rubber ducks) and an Emily Strange t-shirt that said "Weirdo" on the front. OK, I had some pink in my hair at the time and occasionally wore the odd bright pair of tights but I'd certainly not have classed myself as punk at all! And the t-shirt just made me cringe..having not been the most popular kid at school, the last thing I'd want to do is go out and advertise myself as a weirdo in public!

Yes, I suppose at least he got a gift. But in a way I'd have preferred him not to have bothered - those gifts showed he didn't really know me at all (despite having only been 'out of my life' for a few months) and I think the extra sting in it all was that it was very much to the taste of his girlfriend (the one he'd been having an affair with - who'd also been a friend of mine prior to me finding out!).

I think there's probably a bit more to the story than OP has said on this post - the dynamics of a separated family can be complex and I doubt it's just about getting a Peppa Pig card. Do people really need to be so harsh about OP calling her 14 year old her baby? My mum still calls me her baby (to my face) and I'm 26, with my own house! I think I'll always be her little girl

DUTR

pinkshoes wrote: »

What's wrong with a colour in peppa pig card??????

Perhaps your daughter should learn some gratitude?

It's the thought that counts. ..

This and other similar replies, I have an estranged daughter, and I won't be sending a card, at least I won't be subject of the type of card sent moaning. :cool:

Georgiegirl256

Two words, Mountain and Molehill....

Silly Silly Mammy....honestly, the problems in the world today, and you come on a forum moaning about a Peppa Pig card....

krlyr

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Two words, Mountain and Molehill....

Silly Silly Mammy....honestly, the problems in the world today, and you come on a forum moaning about a Peppa Pig card....

Problems are relative (and I think OP is probably upset about her daughter being upset more than the Peppa Pig card). Moaning about someone moaning about a Peppa Pig card is probably pretty insignificant compared to, say, those who've lost their homes in the recent storms but that hasn't stopped you posting

FatVonD

My 14-year-old step daughter would totally love getting a colour in Peppa Pig card (and weren't all the emo girls going mad for Hello Kitty stuff a few years ago?) My son would love a Power Rangers one now even though he's 16. My stepsons (18 and 21) would 'get' it too.

I think your ex was being post ironic, sadly your daughter doesn't appreciate it (though lots that age would) but you need to tell her to get a grip. Perhaps watching the current Save The Children advert might put things into perspective a bit.

Tiddlywinks

krlyr wrote: »

Me too. I get the feeling OP is upset because her daughter is upset - and if the daughter's reason for being upset seem a little irrational, as you say, she's a teenage girl!

The OP should be setting an example to the 14 yo - talking it through and minimising the negatives.

Not having a childish moment herself.

This post screams 'it's all about me - I'm a good mummy - daddy is bad - pick me'.

krlyr

Or OP is trying to be the neutral figure in front of her daughter and decides to rant her feelings on here as an outlet instead. We don't know what OP has said to her daughter about it. My mum was always careful not to comment on my dad to any of us, we all made up our own minds, but I imagine she probably had a good vent or two about him to her friends.