Silly Silly Daddies!!!

peachyprice

Poor sod probably thought he was being cute and funny.

It sounds like the kind of thing my OH would do for our daughter, because she will always, always, be his baby girl. Difference is, our girl would laugh about it, not throw a tantrum.

FBaby

Many conclusions being drawn from very little information provided. I think it is difficult to get any idea of the situation when we don't know anything about the relationship between the dad and his children. How long have you been separated, does he see the kids regularly, where does he live etc... I am assuming that if he sends cards he doesn't get to see them at Chritsmas? Why not? Or maybe he is away for work?

Assuming this incident is not a reflection of their relationship as a whole, I would tell your daughter to laugh at it but talk to her dad to tell him directly that next time, maybe she should pick the cards and send it to him in advance!

Actually, this reminds me of my Christmas card last year from hubby. We had at the time seriously discussed getting married in September so was hoping he would proposed at Christmas. I'd hope he would propose for my birthday a month earlier, but didn't and my birthday card said 'to my girlfriend', which considering the status of our relationship felt a bit insulting to me. So I made a joke of it rather than making a scene, assuming he'd got it that I wasn't impressed with the reference to 'my girlfriend'. What did I get for Christmas? No ring and a 'Merry Christmas to my girlfriend' card! I can laugh about it now because he did end up proposing in March and we got married in September, so since then had the 'to my wife's cards'!

mountainofdebt

Well I'm trying to think of a christmas card that a goth would appreciate......and failing.

The other thing to bear in mind is that at least the dad spent two sets of postage,sending the cards separately rather than putting them in one big envelope

marisco_2

How is your daughters relationship with her dad usually? I cant help but think there is more to all this than just the dislike of a Xmas card. Seems a bit of an ott reaction to me even from a teenager, almost as if this is the straw that broke the camels back. If my dad had sent me something like that at her age, I would have laughed it off and thought 'what a fool'. Not hit the roof and have been upset about it.

adouglasmhor

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Well I'm trying to think of a christmas card that a goth would appreciate......and failing.

The other thing to bear in mind is that at least the dad spent two sets of postage,sending the cards separately rather than putting them in one big envelope

They do exist, where to find one I have no idea.


I was a gothabilly when I was a squaddie in Germany during the 80s, my parents (well my mum really) sent me a floral design fair isle jumper for my birthday one year.

Acc72

So your 17 year old "baby" showed how grown up and mature she is by having a tantrum over a Christmas card ?

At least it gives you something to criticize her dad for.

Ps - if your daughter reacts that way when she receives a "young" Christmas card, how would she react at being called a "baby" ?

adouglasmhor

Acc72 wrote: »

So your 17 year old "baby" showed how grown up and mature she is by having a tantrum over a Christmas card ?

At least it gives you something to criticize her dad for.

Ps - if your daughter reacts that way when she receives a "young" Christmas card, how would she react at being called a "baby" ?

I think it was the 14 year old. 17 year old was OK with her card.

hawk30

Unlike some other posters, I can see why she would be upset. At 14 she probably considers herself a woman and he has sent her a card for little girls. From her reaction at it not arriving, it seems she was looking forward to this card. Perhaps she felt it was a symbol of love from him and its arrival as a child's card showed how little he cared about her. This is all supposition, but she is a teenage girl. They are hardly known for being the most rational of creatures.

Tiddlywinks

You still call your children 'monsters' - even your adult child who has flown the nest?

You refer to a 14 yo as your 'baby'?

You call your ex 'silly, silly daddy'?

Your whole post made me feel slightly nauseous - get some perspective!

Own_My_Own

I can see why she would be upset.

It would seem that, as usual, most of the posters on here have forgotten what it was like to be 14.

It is a difficult time. They are not children and not adults. They bodies and minds are developing and hormones are setting in.

To a young person of that age it could easily look like their father made no effort and just picked up any old card.

But as I have said, the posters on here obviously all sailed though those years without any heartache and became perfect condersending adults with perfect teenage children.