Silly Silly Daddies!!!

wik

I have 3 darling monsters...(biggest one is away doing his grown up thing) middle one is 17 (and planning her uni escape ) my youngest is 14 and she is just at that very 'hormonal' sensitive stage.... So 2 days ago her big sis got her Xmas card from daddy... and she was upset as hers hadnt arrived,,, didnt get that royal mail sometimes are slow to deliver things...

Today she got home from school, and her card was here.. she opens it and Silly Silly Daddy has sent her a bright pink peppa pig card!!!( with a colour in a peppa pig picture on the back!! )

Lets just say she nearly hit the roof!!!

Silly Daddy doesnt talk to me, so I cant even phone him and say how old do you think she is? Does her not going through a 'Goth'stage with Black hair and clothes maybe make you think that a pink peppa pig card may not be best idea..!!

am sorry about the rant... my baby is upset and I cant fix it!!

Kynthia

Oh dear. I'm 35 and sometimes my dad says or does something about me which is completely wrong or not like me at all that makes both my mum and me turn round in surprise saying 'don't you know your own daughter???". I think dads know and prioritise different things about their children to what mums think are the important or obvious things. Or it could be that many dad don't notice their children have grown up and changed from what they were like five years ago.

Toto

I think perhaps your job could be to give her a bit of perspective. Dad did send a card, maybe he was being funny (I bought my 17 year old a Mr Tumble advent calendar), who knows, but she shouldn't get upset about it.


You don't have to look far to see a lot of pain and suffering in the world, sometimes when kids get upset about the silly things it's our role to remind them of all the great things they have in their lives. My favourite line with my kids when they moan that they don't have this or that is 'you've already won the lottery, look at where you were born, somewhere safe with a warm bed to sleep in, plenty to eat and clean water to drink'.

There will be lots of things throughout her life which will disappoint her and will make her sad. In the grand scheme of things a peppa pig Christmas card doesn't even register on the scale of hardship. I would tell her to find a silly card to send back to Dad, something from his childhood maybe, make it fun not an issue.

HPoirot

Nothing to be upset about.

Spendless

My DD rolled her eyes when her Great Grandmother bought her a Peppa Pig Easter egg last year, she had just turned 9.:D

Is she annoyed that her Dad is not involved enough in her life to realise that she's now a teen - in which case I can understand her annoyance or just throwing a teenage strop - in which case I'm sure it will be replaced by a different one shortly.

Is there a possibility he wrote it absent-mindedly and it was meant for someone else- does he also have younger children? I once sent my Dad a Fathers Day card with a joke about potty training on it, it was meant for my husband!

Fleago

Your "baby" really has no need to be upset and you can "fix it" by encouraging her to have some perspective.

Perhaps silly silly daddy sent a Peppa Pig card as an attempt to be humorous seeing as a bright pink card is probably the opposite to what a Goth would want. Perhaps he is dense in that he hasn't realised she's now a teenager. Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things.

But if your 14 year old can't yet grasp the vagaries of Royal Mail delivery times and gets in a strop about receiving a Peppa Pig card, I think you owe it to her to have a word about perspective, hormones or not.

paulineb_2

Well my silly daddy didnt send me a card from the day he decided to !!!!!! off out of my life.

No, not the wisest thing to do but keep some perspective. How you view this could make a big difference to how she deals with it.

nonnatus

I also think your "baby" is being a bit spoiled!! My 17yr old daughter is obsessed with Peppa Pig still (she's taking 4 A levels so there's nothing WRONG with her, she's just as daft as a brush!).
She has plenty of Peppa stuff in her stocking this year.


I'm guessing your Ex was trying to be "cute" but obviously failed spectacularly. At least he SENT something!


I hope you haven't encouraged your Baby to think badly of her dad for this mistake? Maybe you should suggest she is grateful for what she gets and maybe be a bit more positive?

pinkshoes

What's wrong with a colour in peppa pig card??????

Perhaps your daughter should learn some gratitude?

It's the thought that counts. ..

Pollycat

wik wrote: »

I have 3 darling monsters...(biggest one is away doing his grown up thing) middle one is 17 (and planning her uni escape ) my youngest is 14 and she is just at that very 'hormonal' sensitive stage.... So 2 days ago her big sis got her Xmas card from daddy... and she was upset as hers hadnt arrived,,, didnt get that royal mail sometimes are slow to deliver things...

Today she got home from school, and her card was here.. she opens it and Silly Silly Daddy has sent her a bright pink peppa pig card!!!( with a colour in a peppa pig picture on the back!! )

Lets just say she nearly hit the roof!!!

Silly Daddy doesnt talk to me, so I cant even phone him and say how old do you think she is? Does her not going through a 'Goth'stage with Black hair and clothes maybe make you think that a pink peppa pig card may not be best idea..!!

am sorry about the rant... my baby is upset and I cant fix it!!

Yes you can.

You can give her some perspective on life and what the really, really important things are.

If she's so upset, why can't she talk to her Dad herself and tell him she feels that the card was too young for her?

I think it's more 'silly, silly Mummy' and 'silly, silly daughter' TBH.

torbrex

Are you sure that you are not just using this as another excuse to put her dad down?