Deed Poll - to double-barrel or not?!!

Georgiegirl256

claire16c wrote: »

My DH felt like that - I explained I didn't want a religious wedding, religion had nothing to do with it, and I was happy to go abroad & have a small wedding.

He now has one of our wedding photos as his screen saver & never shuts up about how great it was lol! I did practically have to force him to do a speech though!

Mine too. He's quite a shy person and hated the thought of being the centre of the attention, and so did I tbh. I think he built the whole thing up to be more scary than it actually was, indeed just afterwards as we were walking out of the Blacksmiths shop he said "well that was easy wasn't it?" :rotfl: In the build up to the wedding, he really got into the organising of it!

Savvy_Sue

ostrichnomore wrote: »

"What you choose to call your children will mean nothing when social services put your unmarried lady through hoops to assure the paperwork she is the right & proper person to care for her & your children."

eh? social services don't get involved when one parent dies?

I think there's more of a potential problem if the mother dies, and there's no 'proof' that the children are the father's, because they weren't married.

If this chap has his name on the children's birth certificates (as seems likely) then less of a problem.

And, of course, in general SS will generally bite off the hand of anyone volunteering to look after children who might otherwise become their responsibility.

neverdespairgirl

Goldiegirl wrote: »

My great grandmother was Scottish, and she gave all her children her surname as a middle name, so it implies she was very proud of her heritage.

Unfortunately, this naming pattern stopped in the next generation. Shame really, as I rather like this particular name.

I think it used to be a lot more common - my maternal grandmother and grandfather both had their mother's maiden name as a middle name, and my paternal uncle and a great-aunt do, too.

tiger_eyes

catkins wrote: »

But what if they both want to keep their double barrelled surnames?


According to this thread that is why people end up with double barrelled surnames - they don't want to change their surname when they get married

I honestly don't see why this is a drama. If they both want to keep their separate surnames, then keep them. If they both want to change to a new name, then change. If one wants to take the other's name, then do that. Is it really a huge problem if two adults have to have a brief conversation about their wishes exactly like everyone else?

Miss Smith-Jones: I'd like to keep my surname on marriage.
Mr Cooper-Brown: So would I.
Miss Smith-Jones: Sorted. Fancy a cuppa?

A truly insurmountable problem.

Georgiegirl256

tiger_eyes wrote: »

I honestly don't see why this is a drama. If they both want to keep their separate surnames, then keep them. If they both want to change to a new name, then change. If one wants to take the other's name, then do that. Is it really a huge problem if two adults have to have a brief conversation about their wishes exactly like everyone else?

Miss Smith-Jones: I'd like to keep my surname on marriage.
Mr Cooper-Brown: So would I.
Miss Smith-Jones: Sorted. Fancy a cuppa?

A truly insurmountable problem.

So their name would be Mr & Mrs Smith-Jones-Cooper-Brown? Or some variation of that? Okaaaay! Not a problem at all! :rotfl:

Eta: I see what you mean now, but Catkins was meaning if they were to combine them.

Toto

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

So their name would be Mr & Mrs Smith-Jones-Cooper-Brown? Or some variation of that? Okaaaay! Not a problem at all! :rotfl:

Eta: I see what you mean now, but Catkins was meaning if they were to combine them.

They would either keep their own names and not change, one change to the other's name or they do a combo like Smith-Cooper or Jones-Brown. They could even swap to each other's if they really fancied mixing it up :rotfl:

tiger_eyes

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

So their name would be Mr & Mrs Smith-Jones-Cooper-Brown? Or some variation of that? Okaaaay! Not a problem at all! :rotfl:

Eta: I see what you mean now, but Catkins was meaning if they were to combine them.

Let me try one more time to explain this since I'm obviously not doing a good job. In the highly unlikely situation that our hypothetical couple desperately wanted to be Mr & Mrs Smith-Jones-Cooper-Brown ...

• The planet won't explode.
• The economy won't collapse.
• Starving children won't have their only Christmas present ripped from their tragic little hands while they cry woeful tears of woe.

The couple will just have a slightly silly name. That's it. No uncontrolled fissure in the wall of reality. It will not matter one single iota to anyone. And if the couple end up not liking it, they can change again. And it still won't matter at all to anyone. So I can't understand what gets people into such a frenzy over double-barrelled names.

Georgiegirl256

tiger_eyes wrote: »

Let me try one more time to explain this since I'm obviously not doing a good job. In the highly unlikely situation that our hypothetical couple desperately wanted to be Mr & Mrs Smith-Jones-Cooper-Brown ...

• The planet won't explode.
• The economy won't collapse.
• Starving children won't have their only Christmas present ripped from their tragic little hands while they cry woeful tears of woe.

The couple will just have a slightly silly name. That's it. No uncontrolled fissure in the wall of reality. It will not matter one single iota to anyone. And if the couple end up not liking it, they can change again. And it still won't matter at all to anyone. So I can't understand what gets people into such a frenzy over double-barrelled names.

Totally got what you meant first time! As you say, points 1,2 and 3 won't happen, but it would sound really silly....which is the point I was trying to put across in my last post!

Actually though, when you think about it, it would be APITA for the couple themselves whenever they filled a form in, or for anyone calling on the phone, or calling it to their face, what a mouthful that would be! But as you say, that is very unlikely to happen, as I really don't think anyone would be that daft! We'll someone probably would, but not many! :rotfl:

catkins

Person_one wrote: »

I'm sure people can work something out to their satisfaction, its not really a huge issue, is it?

But this thread is about a couple with 1 surname each trying to agree on what surname to use so a couple with 2 surnames each are going to have an even harder time if neither want to lose their name aren't they?

tiger_eyes wrote: »

I honestly don't see why this is a drama. If they both want to keep their separate surnames, then keep them. If they both want to change to a new name, then change. If one wants to take the other's name, then do that. Is it really a huge problem if two adults have to have a brief conversation about their wishes exactly like everyone else?

Miss Smith-Jones: I'd like to keep my surname on marriage.
Mr Cooper-Brown: So would I.
Miss Smith-Jones: Sorted. Fancy a cuppa?

A truly insurmountable problem.

4 surnames - really!!!!

tiger_eyes wrote: »

Let me try one more time to explain this since I'm obviously not doing a good job. In the highly unlikely situation that our hypothetical couple desperately wanted to be Mr & Mrs Smith-Jones-Cooper-Brown ...

• The planet won't explode.
• The economy won't collapse.
• Starving children won't have their only Christmas present ripped from their tragic little hands while they cry woeful tears of woe.

The couple will just have a slightly silly name. That's it. No uncontrolled fissure in the wall of reality. It will not matter one single iota to anyone. And if the couple end up not liking it, they can change again. And it still won't matter at all to anyone. So I can't understand what gets people into such a frenzy over double-barrelled names.

A slightly silly name!!!

catkins

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Totally got what you meant first time! As you say, points 1,2 and 3 won't happen, but it would sound really silly....which is the point I was trying to put across in my last post!

Actually though, when you think about it, it would be APITA for the couple themselves whenever they filled a form in, or for anyone calling on the phone, or calling it to their face, what a mouthful that would be! But as you say, that is very unlikely to happen, as I really don't think anyone would be that daft! We'll someone probably would, but not many! :rotfl:

Really! I don't think so