Deed Poll - to double-barrel or not?!!

Calfuray

bluebeary wrote: »

double barrelled is simply vile, i think if i were to marry my partner i would keep my surname but any children we would have would take his surname

mainly because i really couldnt be bothered with all the paperwork, which im useless at anyway, i have no organisational skills whatsoever

Woah, is that not a bit harsh?

Person_one

Goldiegirl wrote: »

I've always wondered that, too.

Where does it end? Within a couple of generations you'd have people with ridiculously long names

Works in Spain.

Person_one

peachyprice wrote: »

TBH, I find it all rather pretentious when they're just ordinary names, I can understand it more if you're a woman last in line of a particularly rare family name but to double barrel bog standard names is a bit, well, naff, really.

So the woman's name can only matter if it's rare or endangered?

bluebeary

Calfuray wrote: »

Woah, is that not a bit harsh?

no, i can do harsh if you want ?

poet123

I don't mind double barrelled. A lot of our friends do it that way, but after marriage.

Person_one

bluebeary wrote: »

no, i can do harsh if you want ?

Maybe an early night and a mug of Horlicks would be a better idea...

Brallaqueen

Is it me or are there a few threads about the same theme on here lately?
You have children together. Why, as a parent, would you prevent your children being protected to the fullest by law?

Bella73

Have to say I'm not keen on double barrelled names but that just me. When we married I took my husbands name end of. I really genuinely do not understand how and why people get so hung up on their last name, however, for your problem I think the least you could it let her decide what name should be used as you can't be bothered to marry her despite having had three children together.

I'm with the others that I would not change my name if you wouldn't do it properly but then I wouldn't have had children with you as I'm very old fashioned and believe in the wedding first but that's just me and if fate had decided otherwise there would be no way they would have been given your name without the wedding being on the horizon.

As someone else said I sincerely hope you don't believe in the rubbish about common law husband/wife as in law there is no such thing and I hope you both have appropriate wills in place. Unless of course you couldn't be bothered to do that either.

Brallaqueen

I have to admit, I do love double barrelled surnames. It may be a working class exotification of the higher classes, or just exotification full stop - my boss is from a Spanish speaking country and has a fabulous DB surname that I just covet like crazy - but I think they are beautiful and respectful of the wife's family too.

Mrs_Ryan

My surname is 'officially' double barrelled and it is very similar to yours - the first letter and the last letter of one is the same and the first four of the other are the same.
One is OH's and one is mine but its a pain in the bum. We aren't married and I took his name for some misguided form of 'commitment' I called myself Ms at first but again that was such a pain getting it recognised as I had 'Miss C' so often I just switched back unofficially to Miss P (my name) which is the name I mostly use (although for work, tax purposes and medical purposes I still use my 'official' name who always get it right)
I would advise against it. Its a pain in the bum. Me and OH don't have kids and he's like you - doesn't do marriage.