Deed Poll - to double-barrel or not?!!

Savemesomemoneyplease

It's like you want to have your cake and eat it!

You can't be everything but married but still not married - even though your partner wants to get married! I'd be devastated if I wanted to get married but my partner said "never"

Why never?

I too think she should keep her name and give the children her name or a double one.

pollypenny

Your partner wants the commitment of marriage. You have three children together and you just want to change her name!

There's a really easy way to do,that : registry office!

Seanymph

To be practical - your partner can change her name to yours by deed poll. Which would save changing everyones.

It's not illegal, she can juts change hers and call herself Mrs xxx.

i did it when I was living with someone I didn't feel strong enough to marry and he wanted to funnily enough - completely the other way around. I didn't because i knew we weren't in it for the long haul - and that pacified him.

Needless to say we seperated, and now I'm married to a man I was prepared to commit to.

If you aren't prepared to commit to her why put her through it?

Goldiegirl

catkins wrote: »

Yes, I realise some people like them but just answer me - if someone with a double barrel surname wants to marry someone else with a double barrel surname which name do they choose or do they end up with four surnames?

I've always wondered that, too.

Where does it end? Within a couple of generations you'd have people with ridiculously long names

peachyprice

TBH, I find it all rather pretentious when they're just ordinary names, I can understand it more if you're a woman last in line of a particularly rare family name but to double barrel bog standard names is a bit, well, naff, really.

samtoby

Having had a double barrelled name I can tell you it will get preannouncedwrong even if it’s dead simple, changed completely and shortened to just one.Most doubled barrelled names do not fit on forms that is a pain as well.

bluebeary

double barrelled is simply vile, i think if i were to marry my partner i would keep my surname but any children we would have would take his surname

mainly because i really couldnt be bothered with all the paperwork, which im useless at anyway, i have no organisational skills whatsoever

Brallaqueen

Other countries seem to get on perfectly fine with double- barrelled names, not quite sure why we in the UK get our panties in a twist about it.

Savemesomemoneyplease

Both mine and my boyfriends surnames are pretty rare and I am loathe to leave mine behind, I love it so much! I see my mum as part of my surnames family and not her actually family surname and I don't want that happening to me! However I would like to take his name.. But keep mine too. But I doubt he'd agree to go double barreled.

But why should I be prepared to fully lose my name when he's not prepared to lose half?

Maybe he will surprise me! X

poet123

I echo what has been said, you want the kids to have your name, and you want your girlfriend to have your name but you are not willing to go down the marriage route to achieve that.

If it was me I would be keeping my name and my kids would have had my name too until you thought enough of me to make it legal by the usual means.