Deed Poll - to double-barrel or not?!!

SavingPennies_2

Collier Parker is rolls of the tongue easier. With Parker Collier the "K" sounds are too close together.

However, if I was her...Id be keeping my own name till you put a ring on it. Id be embarrassed to change my surname to yours and change Miss to Mrs but not be married, its a bit of an insult to be honest.

If you want useful answers its prob best to edit your post.

suejb2

I too dislike double-barrel names even that's double-barreled! I saw few months/years back people mixing the 2 names to make one.This creates problems for the family tree because names suddenly disappear,but it's a consideration.
Parllier
Collker

lika_86

If after years of debate she finally gave into your choice of not getting married, I think you should all change your surname to hers as a gesture of goodwill.

Ilona

Why should she change her name if you don't want to marry her? Damn cheek if you ask me. She should keep her own name, her own identity, and change the kids names to hers.
Ilona

claire16c

Me and my DH double barrelled our names so we could share each other names and have no disagreements over our future kids names. I wanted to keep mine & DH would have changed to mine but didn't really point that out til we'd changed our names on everything so there we are.

Would I change my name or double barrell it to someone who wanted to have kids with me, get me to have some kind of pretend charade by changing my name to look like we were married, but not actually marry me?

Like hell I would!

newbutold

fluffnutter wrote: »

Cool. Change yours and the kids' to hers then.

Once upon a time my OH wouldn't get married despite knowing I really did want to. So when we had kids they all had my surname not his!

I would guess that your oh would become a Ms not a Mrs. However I do know of someone who just changed their name to same as oh and kids and she referred to herself as Mrs.

If you go for the double barrel option then you have to change everyone's name, so the easiest option seems to be your oh to change hers to yours.

If you haven't already, please do look into the legalities of not being married and if something was to happen to one you, where it leaves the others. I hope you both have wills and do u der stand that there is no such thing as common law husband/wife.

catkins

tiger_eyes wrote: »

I find them very egalitarian and sometimes even elegant. A friend of mine in school had a double-barrelled surname that sounded great.

Yes, I realise some people like them but just answer me - if someone with a double barrel surname wants to marry someone else with a double barrel surname which name do they choose or do they end up with four surnames?

delain

I can't quite believe I'm reading this! And this is me who has 3 different surnames under one roof, so not easily shocked.

Why on earth don't you want to get married if you've been together all that time and want the same name? Is it so your partner has less rights if you want to cut and run in the future? You sound like a catch

Tiddlywinks

You've had three children together - why wouldn't you marry?

Serious question - I really would like to know what you have against making that commitment when you've already fathered three children with her.

sulkisu

RedfordML wrote: »

Apologies....to elaborate on the 'my choice' comment...my partner would happily get married, however I have no want to get married hence the 'my choice'.

I think we all understood the first time.