Childfree by Choice?

seven-day-weekend

Person_one wrote: »

What a shock! :rotfl:

Well it wouldn't do for us all to be the same, would it? Makes for variety.

I personally would not expect anyone to be interested in the doings of myself or my family (including animals) unless they were my close friends or family - it's one of the reasons I hate those Round Robin Christmas Letters - and even with my close friends I would not expect them to be interested whether my cat had used the litter tray or my dog had had a good walk in the park. (Nor would I inflict similar information on them about my children).

Just different ways of doing things I suppose.




(Although I have put pictures of my cat on Facebook:o)

Takeaway_Addict

red_devil wrote: »

What do childfree people think about christmas. Do you ever feel your missing out on the santa stuff and magic of christmas for kids etc. The exciting xmas eve waiting for santa.

No I don't missing the annoying screams, the early wake up call, the temper tantrums when they don't get the present they want and the general rubbish of it being all about them.

Takeaway_Addict

BritAbroad wrote: »

Childfreedom and Christmas can be tricky. You see a lot of families who agree to only buy presents for the kids. I have a friend who was in this situation. Her family agreed this while she was away for work. She came back, Christmas came around and having spent a fortune on her 8 nieces and nephews, she received precisely nothing. She was pretty hurt but her sisters and brother couldn't see what the problem was. I think they got it the following year when she didn't buy anything!

I personally love Christmas and loathe new year. I've always enjoyed spending time with our families over Christmas (there were never any kids there). However, Christmas here is a bit rubbish. We're 5000 miles away from our families and don't have anyone to spend Christmas or New Year with. There's no parties or social events. It's not worth trying to do a Christmas dinner for two people so we'll probably go out for a drive somewhere then dig something out of the freezer for dinner.

that's poor by them!

Pollycat

BritAbroad wrote: »

I personally love Christmas and loathe new year. I've always enjoyed spending time with our families over Christmas (there were never any kids there). However, Christmas here is a bit rubbish. We're 5000 miles away from our families and don't have anyone to spend Christmas or New Year with. There's no parties or social events. It's not worth trying to do a Christmas dinner for two people so we'll probably go out for a drive somewhere then dig something out of the freezer for dinner.

Why ever not?

We love having Christmas Day dinner on our own.

We visit the family in the morning, then go back home to cook.
Everything is freshly cooked - we're having beef this year with new, mash and roast potatoes, sprouts, carrots, cabbage, romanesco, Yorkshire pudding and home made gravy - and we potter in the kitchen with a bottle of dry white wine, we'll probably watch Casablanca whilst finishing off the dinner and eat around 6pm on our lovely dining table which I set with linen tablemats & napkins and Dartington crystal glasses & claret jug.

Why do you need hordes of people around you to have a good time?

seven-day-weekend

Pollycat wrote: »

Why ever not?

We love having Christmas Day dinner on our own.

We visit the family in the morning, then go back home to cook.
Everything is freshly cooked - we're having beef this year with new, mash and roast potatoes, sprouts, carrots, cabbage, romanesco, Yorkshire pudding and home made gravy - and we potter in the kitchen with a bottle of dry white wine, we'll probably watch Casablanca whilst finishing off the dinner and eat around 6pm on our lovely dining table which I set with linen tablemats & napkins and Dartington crystal glasses & claret jug.

Why do you need hordes of people around you to have a good time?

Agree absolutely.

Most of the eight years we spent in Spain, we spent Christmas on our own. The nicest one was spent sitting on a windswept beach eating chicken sandwiches and drinking the local malaga wine

Pollycat

Also meant to say;
we are child-free by choice and spend Xmas Day and Boxing Day pretty much in our own company by choice.

I don't have any pets now, my old cat died almost 2 years ago, but I've never (at least I don't think so) treated them as baby substitutes.

My cat used to catch rats and eat them (after yowling under the kitchen window for my visual approval). It would have been hard to treat him like a baby after watching that. :eek:

seven-day-weekend

Pollycat wrote: »

Also meant to say;
we are child-free by choice and spend Xmas Day and Boxing Day pretty much in our own company by choice.

I don't have any pets now, my old cat died almost 2 years ago, but I've never (at least I don't think so) treated them as baby substitutes.

My cat used to catch rats and eat them (after yowling under the kitchen window for my visual approval). It would have been hard to treat him like a baby after watching that. :eek:

Absolutely. That is what cats are supposed to do. Never mind all this indoor cat business! (Unless it is their choice of course ).

Pollycat

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Absolutely. That is what cats are supposed to do. Never mind all this indoor cat business! (Unless it is their choice of course ).

LOL
I had no choice about my old boy being an outdoor cat (unless I'd have been OK with the house ripped to pieces in his determination to get out).

He first went out on Christmas morning as a small kitten and fell in the fish pond.

On the subject of baby substitutes, he was only 5 weeks old when I had him and I think he really thought I was his Mummy.

Not sure how a thread about not wanting to have children can get so so I apologise.

Calfuray

Pollycat wrote: »

If you're really really sure that you won't change your mind, have you considered having it done privately?

Check this out:
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Thank you for that information, that's really useful. I didn't realise it was that price, I thought it'd be horrifically expensive!

Thanks

Twisted_Cherry

I am child free through choice... I like my freedom, and I am not sure I would want to bring a child into such a cruel world!