Girlfriend's close male friend...

paulineb_2

He doesnt like her having friends of the opposite sex and she doesnt like him seeing his work colleagues. Being in love shouldnt mean that you dont trust your gf or bf around people of the opposite sex, human beings dont live in a bubble and shock horror Im sure even people who are in love or married can and do have feelings for other people, some wont but some will, its whether people act on these feelings thats important.

Im of the view that its absolutely possible to have opposite sex friendships without there having to be anything sexual involved.

Orlando_Virgin

paulineb wrote: »

Odd that he's not made any move on her in 5 years then?

How do you know he hasn't and she's not said anything?

paulineb_2

Orlando_Virgin wrote: »

How do you know he hasn't and she's not said anything?

I dont see that speculation really helps to be honest. Its as if people are looking for this man to have done something because he has a female friend, as if hes male, therefore either there must be something going on or he must have made a pass at her.

Reverse it, how do we know that the OP hasnt made a pass at his female colleagues? Now, does anyone think a statement like that is helpful to this situation?

paulineb_2

The very first line of the opening post said that the OP was sure that it was no more than a platonic friendship.

Acc72

Person_one wrote: »

Oh please, lazy stereotyping.

Its funny, they say us feminists are man haters, we give them a lot more credit than most it seems!

Thanks for your feedback.

The OP specifically asked for opinions, and I gave my opinion.

This may differ from your opinion, however I do not insult you for your opinion.

Tropez

Acc72 wrote: »

Your girlfriend may see this friendship as purely platonic, but I can give you a cast iron 100% gold plated guarantee that assuming that the male friend is straight, he wants to sleep with her.

Why must people continue to peddle this nonsense?

Acc72

Tropez wrote: »

Why must people continue to peddle this nonsense?

I don't understand - the OP asked for opinions and I gave mine.

Just because you disagree does not make it "nonsense".

I assume that the OP was expecting a range of opinions of which mine was one - how does your post contribute to that ?

Tropez

Acc72 wrote: »

I don't understand - the OP asked for opinions and I gave mine.

Just because you disagree does not make it "nonsense".

I assume that the OP was expecting a range of opinions of which mine was one - how does your post contribute to that ?

Opinions are rarely stated as a "cast iron 100% gold plated guarantee"

And it is nonsense. I have several female friends who I have never had any desire to sleep with. Most of us don't live in an American sitcom where any male/female friendship inevitably turns sexual.

You know nothing about the OP's girlfriend nor her friends yet you feel knowledgeable enough to make sweeping guarantees about the feelings and intent of those friends. That is nonsense.

And if we're honest, stating your opinion as a fact or guarantee and then complaining with the "it's only my opinion" shtick when people call you on your words is also quite nonsensical.

ValHaller

Tropez wrote: »

Opinions are rarely stated as a "cast iron 100% gold plated guarantee"

Conversely most "cast iron 100% gold plated guarantees" are no more than opinions.

redcard

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

Yes you're being unreasonable.

If his messages and cards are 'strictly platonic' then he's got no interest in her. If I fancy somebody then texts will be flirty or at least have a kiss on them....

They're hardly going to flaunt it. They've had years of practice.