Why doesn't he want to marry me?

Bazey

Scorpio33 wrote: »

Why not propose to him?

Yeah...great idea, or maybe show him this thread that you've started.

I'd buy that for a dollar to see his reaction.

Retrogamer

Judi wrote: »

He's got everything he wants. He doesn't need the commitment of marriage does he?

What commitment of marriage?
People who are married are still known to cheat and have divorces.
Marriage doesn't change that.

Why can't people have satisfying, trusting relationships without marriage?

I've never cheated on anyone before and never plan to either. I'd be no less faithful being with someone and not married than i would be and being married.

System

What commitment of marriage?
People who are married are still known to cheat and have divorces.Marriage doesn't change that.

Very true. It was important to me when I started my family as I was bought up to get married before I had children.

I'm not so sure its important now.

Person_one

Retrogamer wrote: »

What commitment of marriage?
People who are married are still known to cheat and have divorces.
Marriage doesn't change that.

Why can't people have satisfying, trusting relationships without marriage?

I've never cheated on anyone before and never plan to either. I'd be no less faithful being with someone and not married than i would be and being married.

They can, of course, but marriage ties two people together in the eyes of the law and the state, everything becomes shared, you can still separate but it must be done officially and fairly.

geoffky

I have never seen the piece of paper since we spent a fortune on it....Was it worth it?
Depends on who you ask also their age and religion.

jetplane

daisiegg wrote: »

The pill, when taken correctly, is over 99% effective. You just have to have half a brain and follow the instructions in the pack. I have 'trusted the pill as my only contraceptive' for a decade and managed never to get pregnant, and there are many other women in the same position!

I have a whole brain, a clever and educated brain and have fallen pregnant twice while taking the contraceptive pill over a period of over 10 years. Why would my children not have their fathers name, not being married to him wouldnt matter in the slightest.

A quick question thrown out to the office has returned a resounding yes to the child having the fathers surname whether married or not. A couple of people have said that if they were a single parent they would use their own name.

Person_one

jetplane wrote: »

A quick question thrown out to the office has returned a resounding yes to the child having the fathers surname whether married or not.

Can you ask the office why? Both parents made them, why does dad always get to 'label' them?

tea_lover

If my OH doesn't come round to the idea of marriage anytime soon, and if we're ever successful in having a child, they'll be taking my surname.

jetplane

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

.. and my new baby next May will be Master / Miss X .. QUOTE]

congratulations :beer:

jetplane

Person_one wrote: »

Can you ask the office why? Both parents made them, why does dad always get to 'label' them?

:rotfl:Just read your post out .... replies are ... it's a name not a label .... it's an identity thing .... dad didn't choose we did ..... people might think she's not his ..... we are a family married or not. Office is made up from early twenties to over 50's.

Having said that we work in a multi cultural area where many married couples don't even have the same name never mind the children. It is common for the children we work with to have their fathers name, married or not.