Can you ask someone in their own home..

MoneySavingMamma

We can't afford to put our heating on when it's cold, and only put it on a bit when it's freezing. We wrap up warm, kids in onesies, I wear fleece PJs round the house.
But when my in-laws visit (in 50s) they moan about the cold, and on 2nd visit brought their own electric blanket, which they put on hours before they went to bed, and kept on all night!! I thought this was bloody cheeky, this was not Dec/Jan cold, this was like now, a bit chilly! I swear once was a September visit & they had it on!

I'd love the luxury of that! One time I hid it, but god did they go on for hours until I 'found' it.

CH27

People are economising on all sorts of things at the moment & I wouldn't embarrass somebody by telling them I was cold in their house.

FBaby

Being bone cold is not just an affectation - it is a miserable experience

So is overheating in a stuffy room. It all comes down to your comfort levels, so should you make yourself uncomfortable to make your guest comfortable? Maybe, but doing things to get warmer without affecting other's comfort is a lot easier than trying to cool down.

Person_one

FBaby wrote: »

Would it apply the other way round though? How would you feel when you have the heating full on if one of your guest came over and said they felt way too hot and asked you to open your windows hence wasting your heating and making you feel cold for their own comfort?

I'd open a window.

Brighton_belle

FBaby wrote: »

So is overheating in a stuffy room. It all comes down to your comfort levels, so should you make yourself uncomfortable to make your guest comfortable? Maybe, but doing things to get warmer without affecting other's comfort is a lot easier than trying to cool down.

I agree - an over hot room is awful too - but surely a low heat to take the chill off the room is different to full on heatwave?
I do think it is very hard to warm up from bone coldness without help though and equally hard as trying to cool down rather than less so.
If my friends visit here and don't feel the cold, I am quite happy to not have the heating on and sit under a blanket with a hotwater bottle. It's how we live most of the time anyway:D
At work I am over hot and hate it, lol. I've turned into the 'it's over stuffy in here we need fresh air' monitor:D

lostinrates

FBaby wrote: »

So is overheating in a stuffy room. It all comes down to your comfort levels, so should you make yourself uncomfortable to make your guest comfortable? Maybe, but doing things to get warmer without affecting other's comfort is a lot easier than trying to cool down.

Person_one wrote: »

I'd open a window.

Or when you have multiple guests who all like things different temperatures? I just try and strike for as near middle ground as I can, which in this house is always going to be on the cool side.

maman

I think some people genuinely don't notice the cold but there are others who realise that others don't feel the same but choose not to do anything about it. I find that a bit selfish but I suppose it depends how thick skinned (excuse the pun;)) or unaware they are.

I have BIL who insists on having the air con switched on in his car summer and winter. He's a lovely man in other ways and we often go out as a group of four on longish car journeys. What I do now is keep my coat with me and wear boots, socks, scarf etc. I could speak up but I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's obviously oblivious and sits there in shirtsleeves.

LannieDuck

victory wrote: »

Can you ask someone i their own home... to put the heating on?

Yes, of course, and I've done so. But similarly I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me in my house. I want my guests to be comfortable.

Person_one

lostinrates wrote: »

Or when you have multiple guests who all like things different temperatures? I just try and strike for as near middle ground as I can, which in this house is always going to be on the cool side.

Well, I have climate controlled bubble suits for them to wear...

No, let's be sensible, you do your best to make your guests as comfortable as possible. No heating at all, in winter, is not likely to achieve that.

I also buy teabags and sugar, even though I never use these things myself, is it rude of my guests to expect that they can have a cup of tea even though I don't like it?

lostinrates

maman wrote: »

I think some people genuinely don't notice the cold but there are others who realise that others don't feel the same but choose not to do anything about it. I find that a bit selfish but I suppose it depends how thick skinned (excuse the pun;)) or unaware they are.

I have BIL who insists on having the air con switched on in his car summer and winter. He's a lovely man in other ways and we often go out as a group of four on longish car journeys. What I do now is keep my coat with me and wear boots, socks, scarf etc. I could speak up but I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's obviously oblivious and sits there in shirtsleeves.

We have a separate rule for the car. He (or she) who drives gets their comfort level and music choice.

Based on the idea that the person in the driver seat should be relaxed, alert and not thinking about how they are toohot/cold or hate that radio station. . No guests go in our car though generally, just us and the dogs.