Can you ask someone in their own home..

lostinrates

We don't have heating...so you could ask all you like, we wouldn't be able to do anything about it! We'd like some too for cold days....


People have very , very different views about heating. My husband's minor skin condition is adversely impacted by heating anyway, so we see the silver lining, as we used to minimise use anyway!. We don't shout that he has anything minor wrong with him so people wouldn't know. We also know that not spending on heating unless we hav to has saved us an absolute fortune over the years. Their holidays might be paid for by their stinger hearing choices.

I think compromise is best plan. I'd consider yes to coffee but no to longer visits like lunch or supper. (Unless like some they turn heating on or light a fire in the evening).

Re money...I just don't see how you can be so sure.....balances are always made, and re not feeling it, I can tell you I feel our cold house badly! I didn't used to, but by heck I do now.


(Fwiw, we do have a woodburner and I do light that when people visit in colder months, but obviously, it takes a while to warm the house that way...it only warms the one room. If they go to the loo they are in trouble. Especially as we have no hot water to wash hands with!

victory

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Sorry Victory - I wasn't suggesting for a moment you were martyring! I was talking about me - I refuse to suffer out of some misplaced politely.
I have taken a blanket and hotwater bottle out before, lol. I would say I don't care what others think, but I don't have any family or friends who would not admire my practical and self sufficient approach to looking after myself.

That's ok;) I admire your ability to take it with you:D:D:D

victory

DKLS wrote: »

I wouldnt ask them to put the heating on but wouldnt visit them in Winter again, but would be happy to pop round in the Summer.

Uhm every six month visit,:rotfl:

Person_one

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

You can ask anything you like but if you have one single scintilla of tact or consideration, you wouldn't. If you asked me I'd tell you to naff off home if you didn't like it.

Aren't you supposed to show your guests a bit of consideration though? I fire up the heaters when I have people coming round, its ok for me to sit in layers under a duvet, but it would be rude and massively inhospitable for me to expect my friends and family to suffer!

Person_one

victory wrote: »

Well as has been said it must be as it is not about the money, it must be simply they do not suffer the cold...

You can have plenty of money and still be stingy with it!

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

Aren't you supposed to show your guests a bit of consideration though? I fire up the heaters when I have people coming round, its ok for me to sit in layers under a duvet, but it would be rude and massively inhospitable for me to expect my friends and family to suffer!

Yes, I agree. I certainly don't invite people for supper these days in winter without a lot of prior prep with heaters.

BUT, half an hour or so for coffee is not long either, I might invite someone in on the spur of the moment and say, ' our house is an absolute fridge but you'd be very welcome to come in for coffee if you can stand the cold?' And I never get the pip if people say no!

supersaver2

Person_one wrote: »

You can have plenty of money and still be stingy with it!

That's how they get plenty of money in the first place!

victory

Person_one wrote: »

You can have plenty of money and still be stingy with it!

Yes you can:D they love spending on hols, their garden, pots, their hobbies etc, whatever they spend their money is obviously up to them but there is no shortage, not saying they are rich but they do not go short:D

FBaby

One of my best friends is very sensitive to the cold. Our family is the opposite. When she comes over to mine, she is cold, when I get to her, I get a headache from the heat and stuffiness.

When she comes to my house, she brings her big jumper, socks and sleepers, and I have a hot bottle and cover and a nice hot chocolate ready for her when she arrives. When I got to hers, I make sure I have my summer top on, and I go for a quick walk out after an hour or so. We laugh about it!

In regards to money not being an issue, it's not because you have money that you agree in paying a lot for heating. I would be annoyed that someone who consider that I should put the heating on for them just because we can afford it when we make a point keeping it down to keep our bills lower because we rather spend the money on something else.

lostinrates

victory wrote: »

Yes you can:D they love spending on hols, their garden, pots, their hobbies etc, whatever they spend their money is obviously up to them but there is no shortage, not saying they are rich but they do not go short:D

That might be because its not all going on heating :rotfl: