Can you ask someone in their own home..

victory

lostinrates wrote: »

Yes, I agree. I certainly don't invite people for supper these days in winter without a lot of prior prep with heaters.

BUT, half an hour or so for coffee is not long either, I might invite someone in on the spur of the moment and say, ' our house is an absolute fridge but you'd be very welcome to come in for coffee if you can stand the cold?' And I never get the pip if people say no!

Nobody would say no though would they? If you had invited me as above I would say yes I would love to, thank you and do as I am doing now....suck up the cold:D

Better_Days

I feel the cold dreadfully (partly due to my ill health) and it is difficult. It depends on how well I know the person and what their finances are like. Friends who know me well do turn the heating up for me if they can afford it. Otherwise I visit in Craghoppers winter lined trousers (or trousers and long johns), thermal vest, top, fleece, scarf and jacket. Two things that really makes a difference to me are a scarf and having warm feet. So I take slippers too. I am usually supplied with a fluffy blanket too to put over my legs. Mind you I am always glad to get home and unwrap

My mother doesn't feel the cold at all and every winter through my childhood was miserable - no central heating either. For me, putting another jumper on never worked if I was cold in the first place. I swore I would never live like that again, although now I am unable to work, and with fuel the price it is, paying the bills is more of an issue than it used to be.

Some people who don't feel the cold seem to be completely oblivious and the issue just doesn't seem to occur to them. I remember one couple complaining to us that their baby cried a lot. They eventually discovered that it was because the house was so cold his little hands and feet and face were very cold too and he wouldn't settle.

ska_lover

I think it would be rude OP. It is their house, but you want the temperature set to your comfort levels?

I see the financial aspect has been covered already, Times are hard, and just because someone won't tell you they are struggling, doesn't mean they aren't.

lostinrates

FBaby wrote: »

One of my best friends is very sensitive to the cold. Our family is the opposite. When she comes over to mine, she is cold, when I get to her, I get a headache from the heat and stuffiness.

When she comes to my house, she brings her big jumper, socks and sleepers, and I have a hot bottle and cover and a nice hot chocolate ready for her when she arrives. When I got to hers, I make sure I have my summer top on, and I go for a quick walk out after an hour or so. We laugh about it!

In regards to money not being an issue, it's not because you have money that you agree in paying a lot for heating. I would be annoyed that someone who consider that I should put the heating on for them just because we can afford it when we make a point keeping it down to keep our bills lower because we rather spend the money on something else.

I'm sensitive to the cold and my husband isn't! Its very much harder to balance! The plus point is my freezing feet and hands cool him down and his warmth helps me,...we're not just tactile, we are temperature regulating!

FBaby

Aren't you supposed to show your guests a bit of consideration though?

Would it apply the other way round though? How would you feel when you have the heating full on if one of your guest came over and said they felt way too hot and asked you to open your windows hence wasting your heating and making you feel cold for their own comfort?

lostinrates

victory wrote: »

Nobody would say no though would they? If you had invited me as above I would say yes I would love to, thank you and do as I am doing now....suck up the cold:D

Of course they do! They grin and say, nah, but can you come up to my place this afternoon?

Its all in the delivery. Goodness knows we don't accept every invitation offered and we manage not to offend everyone in turning them down.

It helps we know our place is cold, so can make the joke putting potent entail guests at their ease to say either yes or no.

Most do come in and keep their coats on. This autumn has been really mild and I've been grateful, But I have spent more on coffee. :rotfl:

Brighton_belle

ska_lover wrote: »

I think it would be rude OP. It is their house, but you want the temperature set to your comfort levels?

I see the financial aspect has been covered already, Times are hard, and just because someone won't tell you they are struggling, doesn't mean they aren't.

But isn't that the role of host - to want to ensure your guests are comfortable?
Being bone cold is not just an affectation - it is a miserable experience.
I would regard myself as a very poor friend if I didn't want my visitors to have the house a temp comfortable to them or in LiR case, warn them the house was cold, but we had plenty of blankets and a log fire.
If you have visitors, don't you want to make sure they are comfortable?

Alikay

No, I wouldn't ask them to put on the heating as I think that's a bit cheeky. I'd layer up with thermal undies, an extra jumper etc and try and keep the visit shortish.

Sometimes other peoples homes ARE uncomfortable to visit - too hot/cold, untidy or smelly (one relative is addicted to those vile overpowering plug-in Glade things...always have a headache when I leave!). But it's their home, and their choice how they live in it. It's only for a short visit, so I'd deal with it. You can always have a hot bath when you get home if the cold gets right into your bones!

fake_smile

paulineb wrote: »

Id meet them elsewhere if they arent cash poor. No way would I want to be layering up in someone elses house and drinking hot drinks. I can turn the heating off in my own home, but if someone came to mine and it was cold, the heating would be on, even for an hour or two.

Agree, if I am on my own I will sit the cold out but if friends or whatever come round I always put it on for about half hour before to make sure its warm for visitors.

thorsoak

No 2 son is one of those people who never feel the cold - even as a child in the coldest weather, he was the one child in the playground who wasn't wearing a coat! And his radiator was always turned off and his window would be open when it was snowing! (I always insisted that his door was tightly shut.)

Now when I go to visit him, I know that the heating will be turned quite low, as his wife is just the same as him - and although they turn it up for me, it is a chilly house - and I make sure I take my thermals with me. No 1 granddaughter is threatening to leave home because "it's freezing here" - although last year she was prancing around in shorts in December!