Can you ask someone in their own home..

easy

I wouldn't ask them to put the heating on, but I might be tempted to let them know how cold you are. when you go in, don't let them take your coat "no thanks I'm a bit chilly, I'll keep it on for now"

Then after a few minutes rub your hands together a bit. if they notice perhaps say "Is it me? Its quite cold in here isn't it?" and see what they say. Maybe your hosts are just naturally warm blooded, and don't need the heating on like you do, don't even notice it's cooler (My DH and DS complain that I put the heating on at all!!)


BUT ... are you sure they can afford to put the heating on ????
If there can be any doubt about that, then don't mention it at all. Otherwise they may be VERY embarassed and upset

Why not invite the folk to your house instead?

victory

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

You can ask anything you like but if you have one single scintilla of tact or consideration, you wouldn't. If you asked me I'd tell you to naff off home if you didn't like it.

True....:D

skylight

It depends on who they are. I would not ask anyone to put their heating on, but I would expect my Nan or Granddad to tell me if they were too cold at my house, regardless of the expense to me.

You tend to know which households are going to be cooler if you visit often, so can make reasonable adjustments.

supersaver2

It reminds me a bit of the dog in house thread that was on here recently and the general consensus was why would you want visitors to be uncomfortable when you invite them round which I can well understand. If I had visitors the heating would be on, if they were sat with their coats on and turning blue I would offer to turn it up. All part of being a good host.

Brighton_belle

I'm really surprised by the replies above: I wouldn't hesitate to tell someone I was visiting I was really cold and I would be mortified if any guest of mine sat and silently shivered.
In fact as a considerate host I always check several times during a visit anyway that a visitor is warm enough/not over warm. Basic manners if you have invited someone to your home.

I wouldn't ask for the heating on, but I would explain I was cold, and would be happy to sit under a blanket if they had one. But then if I knew a house was really cold, I'd be happy to turn up with a blanket and a hotwater bottle, and be totally self sufficient. Getting bone cold really doesn't do me any good healthwise and I am not going to get caught up in not being real about that and suffer like a martyr afterwards. And I have never once had a host be anything other than delighted with my honesty.

74jax

I think it would depend on how well you knew the person.

My best friend would get up in a morning after sleeping over at mine and putting the fire on, make a cuppa etc, again she would think nothing of saying 'ooooo I'm nippy mind if I put the fire on.

and vise versa of course.

However if it was someone's home I didn't know that well I wouldn't mention it at all - unless asked.

Tiddlywinks

supersaver2 wrote: »

It reminds me a bit of the dog in house thread that was on here recently and the general consensus was why would you want visitors to be uncomfortable when you invite them round which I can well understand. If I had visitors the heating would be on, if they were sat with their coats on and turning blue I would offer to turn it up. All part of being a good host.

Even if you were worrying about where every penny was going?

Or if the guests had turned up in short sleeves or a thin top?

The OP knows it will be colder in the house and there is a chance that may be because of money issues - better for them to just wear an extra layer than place a financial burden on the friend, surely?

victory

skylight wrote: »

It depends on who they are. I would not ask anyone to put their heating on, but I would expect my Nan or Granddad to tell me if they were too cold at my house, regardless of the expense to me.

You tend to know which households are going to be cooler if you visit often, so can make reasonable adjustments.

We have known them for years and years but I guess people are right, asking is a no go, knew that, just wanted other peoples opinions, see what they thought, I guess they don't feel the cold as much as others do as said, the reason we go to their house is because we are invited, they wanted to show us things, they asked us over for dinner, they come here, we go there, we do keep all our winter clothes on inside the house, we know it is going to be cold and it is not the money, they obviously don't feel as cold:D

apesxx

Maybe they just don't feel the cold like you do. My partner can sit there in a t shirt even on the coldest winter days and no fire on ( we don't have CH downstairs). On the other hand I will be sat there with a jumper on, my dressing gown over the top, wrapped in a blanket and sat in front of the fire and still be cold :-(

paulineb_2

The thing is, several holidays a year doesnt sound like they are cash poor, so how much of a big deal would it be to put the heating on for an hour or two, so cold you take a sharp intake of breath due to the cold air, no thanks, not for me.