Can you ask someone in their own home..

Better_Days

MoneySavingMamma wrote: »

We can't afford to put our heating on when it's cold, and only put it on a bit when it's freezing. We wrap up warm, kids in onesies, I wear fleece PJs round the house.
But when my in-laws visit (in 50s) they moan about the cold, and on 2nd visit brought their own electric blanket, which they put on hours before they went to bed, and kept on all night!! I thought this was bloody cheeky, this was not Dec/Jan cold, this was like now, a bit chilly! I swear once was a September visit & they had it on!

I'd love the luxury of that! One time I hid it, but god did they go on for hours until I 'found' it.

Dear me, do you have any idea how difficult, if not impossible it is to sleep when you are cold? If you start off cold (as it appears your inlaws were) then getting into a cold bed is not conducive to warming up. It was clearly a problem for them so they did the sensible thing and bought their own electric blanket. Hiding it for the sake of a few pence seems to me to be excessive.

balletshoes

victory wrote: »

to put the heating on?

Controversial question I know in this fuel poor age, we have to visit at their house (asking to meet in a coffee shop in town etc has always been rebuffed with ' no no, come to the house') and it is always freezing... remember the old days when you had to go to the end of the garden to the coal shed, that intake of breath before you opened the back door and ran down the length of the garden, freezing cold, well that is how cold it is.

Obviously to us and not to them because otherwise they would have the heating on, we go fully clothed for winter days as wrapped up as you would if you were going out and having to stand at the bus stop for an hour, there is no fire, just central heating.

Would be rude to ask wouldn't it?

As this thread is now 5 pages long in the space of 3 hours, I'm guessing the answer isn't as simple as "yes it would be rude to ask" . You know how cold the house feels to you, so you go prepared (ie an extra layer or 2, thermal socks, a fleece jumper etc).

I would always wait to be asked if visiting by my hosts (even my mum and siblings) if I was cold, before even offering an opinion about it - and unless I was going to be there for hours, I don't think I'd bother saying "well yes it does feel a bit parky sitting here" even if asked.

System

I have some relatives just like the OP's friends. He doesn't feel the cold at all and so he won't put the heating on, and the house is freezing! I don't visit in the winter anymore. Yes you can put layers on, but you're sitting there with a cold face, cold fingers, and your knees knocking together. A visit becomes more like an endurance test, though I admit I do feel the cold probably more than a lot of people.

FBaby

OP said it was freezing not that there was no heating on ever. She adds:

Obviously to us and not to them because otherwise they would have the heating on

Our dining room/living room/kitchen is set at 18 degrees via the under floor heating, but still my friend would qualify it as freezing. It really does come down to people's comfort zone. I don't know anyone who doesn't turn on the heating at any time at all during the day when temperature outside is 5 degrees, they however might only have it on for a couple of hours mornings and evenings and are ok with the temperature gradually going down during the day until if comes on again.

Spendless

DKLS wrote: »

I wouldnt ask them to put the heating on but wouldnt visit them in Winter again, but would be happy to pop round in the Summer.

Yes me too, especially since

victory wrote: »

They love their home and wanted last time to show off their seedlings that had grown into lovely flowers...

How many winter flowering seedlings do they grow??? Tell them 'ooohhh I much prefer visiting you in summer so I [STRIKE]don't have to freeze to death[/STRIKE] see your pretty plants

Dunroamin wrote: »

Since when have electric blankets been a luxury?

The 1970s. I remember requesting one as a child:D In the 1980s as a teenager I wanted a 'continental quilt' for my birthday and got one. :rotfl: I can just imagine how my kids would feel about receiving bedding a a gift.:o

paulineb_2

If you can see your breath when you speak, its fair comment that their house must be absolutely freezing.

Person_one

Spendless wrote: »

The 1970s. I remember requesting one as a child:D In the 1980s as a teenager I wanted a 'continental quilt' for my birthday and got one. :rotfl: I can just imagine how my kids would feel about receiving bedding a a gift.:o

I realised I'd finally started to grow up when getting myself some new bedding felt like a 'treat'.

lostinrates

What sort of plants are germinating that are so special anyway? Super hardy ones?

Better_Days

Spendless wrote: »

The 1970s. I remember requesting one as a child:D In the 1980s as a teenager I wanted a 'continental quilt' for my birthday and got one. :rotfl: I can just imagine how my kids would feel about receiving bedding a a gift.:o

:rotfl::rotfl:re the continental quilt.

Ohh and I can still remember the first time I got into a bed that had been warmed up by an electric blanket.....bliss

paulineb_2

Suggest you meet in a pub, preferably one with an open fire.