Childfree by choise

Tigerprint

I am child free by choice. I have never had the 'feeling' that I wanted to reproduce....

I once remember a conversation with a married friend who said that he loved his children & wouldn't change anything, however, if he were to have his life again, he probably wouldn't have them.......

Turtle

I think there's more and more people now who feel able to 'admit' they wouldn't have children if they had their time again. I know one person who said this, and another who has advised her children not to have children unless they were absolutely certain they couldn't not (ie don't do it just because you think you should).

There's so much more choice these days, I've never felt like getting married and having kids was the only acceptable way, but in years gone by I think it was seen that way. Of course there's a lot more ways to prevent having children these days as well.

Turtle

Further to my comment above, we've just started watching 'The Moaning of Life' and this week it's about why people have children. Should be interesting I think.

BritAbroad

Another child free by choice here. I've never wanted them, luckily OH feels the same way. I can tolerate children, but only for a very short period of time. I don't find them interesting until they get well into their teens.

I remember feeling the same when I was a child myself; when visiting family I would sometimes be left to play with cousins. I always hated playing with younger kids, but cousins who were several years older: that was cool!

I do get annoyed by people who tell me that I'll change my mind. I had it for years from one friend who has a child, eventually, I snapped one day when she was pestering me and when she was talking about having more children I used the same line on her. She didn't like it one bit but I think she's finally realised how offensive it is to be told you don't know your own mind (especially since I'd been telling her I don't want kids for at least 19 years).

Simstar84

Good Thread!, Were Child free by choice. I'm 29, shes 28. My OH and i had a long talk about 2 1/2 years ago on this subject and we both agreed not to have children. My OH once said to me " Some women just aren't wired to be a mother" " i said " this is very true".

I have a mild form of AS, diagnosed at 17. Growing up I weren't used to being around children. I have a hard time coping with stress / anxiety. Instead we got two fish tanks . Marriage, children, to me is more problems than its worth and the cost! astronomical, Childcare alone is not cheap. Also where we live, we cannot accommodate children.

That film nine months was a good example, Hugh Grant stepped out weren't sure whether he could handle it. Then he did in the end. If you want something in life " Do it for you, otherwise don't do it"

bitemebankers

Child-free by choice here. I find them boring and often irritating too, and I don't want the responsibility.

ineed

I'm 26 and child free by choice , OH feels the same. I've never had a desire to have children and I wouldn't have them to please anybody else.

lovely-cup-of-tea

I'm child-free by choce too and although my OH has two gorgeous daughters who are welcome in our home at any time I too struggle with the personal space/time issue.

I'm not a 'mum' and it took me a while to find my role in their lives but eventually I decided just to be me. It's so much easier now they get a bit older mind you.

Would love to keep this thread going, we're a much misunderstood lot.

lavalamp

lovely-cup-of-tea wrote: »

Would love to keep this thread going, we're a much misunderstood lot.

'Aint that the truth! I am 40 now though, so people have stopped telling me I'll change my mind - they just look at me with sad faces as if to say I must regret not having them! The only regret I have is that I didn't get time off work for maternity leave!!

Hermia

lavalamp wrote: »

'Aint that the truth! I am 40 now though, so people have stopped telling me I'll change my mind - they just look at me with sad faces as if to say I must regret not having them! The only regret I have is that I didn't get time off work for maternity leave!!

I know a very content lady in her 70s who says that people still don't believe that she doesn't regret choosing not to have kids! I guess some people always think they know better than others.